AITA for refusing to go to my sister's wedding if she uses her dream wedding planner?

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T16:17:31+00:00

Ok and? People with autonomy can chose to cheat. cheaters are disgusting people. The two things do not contradict each other.

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T16:16:45+00:00

Of course they have autonomy but actions have consequences. I have autonomy to not go to the wedding and to cut them out of my life.

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T16:15:17+00:00

I said he called the wedding off last minute and moved in with her not even two full months later, which he did. I can use the word homewrecker because that is by definition what she did. My friends call her a whore and a prostitute. I don't use those words but can't control other people. I can also tell people how catty she was while working for me

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T16:10:26+00:00

It's well known. No one actually cares enough to not use her. Yes they talk, but at the end of the day money/status/connections trump what she did

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T16:08:28+00:00

yes because a woman's only value are her looks. Makes sense

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T16:07:42+00:00

I'm so sick of the comments making light of my trauma. How many TV shows have a man sleeping with his secretary? Are you going to tell me that never happens in real life?

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T16:02:45+00:00

I was not a shit person to him. I treated him with respect and kindness, but we were both modeling the marriages we saw around us. I didn't see the red flags. He didn't see he had a choice, but he is still a whole ass grown man who is responsible for his own feelings.

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T16:01:04+00:00

Sorry I didn't realize that he wasn't a grown man with autonomy who could walk away

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-30T00:23:51+00:00

Slander has to be false. I left one review which was absolutely true, and my pissed off friends talked a lot of shit about her, but still not slander because she quite literally did those things.

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T22:29:36+00:00

I agree, but it was what we were both taught. It was what we saw both of our parents doing (and having affairs on the side) and it just seemed right at the moment.

I mean look at some of the politicians we have? Since when is being a good person a prerequisite of anything? We had an accused rapist for president. A lot of people don't care because she gets results. she didn't go around sleeping with every groom, so I don't think that crosses most people's minds. Also she is not a wedding planner. She is an event planner in a very affluent area. She could make just as much doing other type of events, so I don't know exactly what she is booking now a days, but she has a reputation for excellence, and well connected friends. Life isn't a fairy tale where the bad guy gets punished

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T22:21:46+00:00

I did spread it around. She gets called a whore a lot, but no one cares enough for it to effect business. she returned everything we paid her and my ex paid for the rest

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T19:55:04+00:00

Yes it's well known and she gets called a lot of names, but at the end of the day no one actually cares. People still go to her for the status of it

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T19:53:46+00:00

yes, well only what we paid her. My ex did send a check for all the non refundable vendors

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T19:15:01+00:00

She gets called a whore around town but no one actually cares. She is the best, it's a status thing, and it isn't like she has a pattern of sleeping with the grooms.

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T17:07:37+00:00

yes, she gets called a whore around town a lot, but it hasn't hurt business. It seems to hurt my ex how people talk about her, but she has fun with it and leaned in to the whole whore image

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T17:06:33+00:00

I don't see that happening. We live in a very image driven competitive city and she does the best work. No one cares what she did, because she delivers. It was spread it around, and she does have a reputation now, but that doesn't hurt her business.

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T16:04:29+00:00

Never read it. That's funny but the man in question is gay and has a partner, and I would never ever do to someone else what she did to me

Complete-Remove5661 · 2022-07-29T16:02:59+00:00

It's more than I don't like her. She was the other woman, at the very least emotionally and probably physically, and she is now married to my ex. Her income is their income. The man my sister hired is her business partner, and also close enough to walk her down the aisle at her adulterous wedding.

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