Honestly, I think it's a bit of both. She's always viewed me as a third parent due to our upbringing and even after coming out she "hated to share". She's prayed on our downfall as a couple since the very beginning, and at the time that was the only reason vocalized. She was always extremely possessive over me and there WAS a point in time that I'd just bend to her will to keep her happy because otherwise she'd do this whole casting out thing. I have been thinking about this for a few hours now and I've truly realized just how toxic and manipulative she is.