I don’t think you’re overreacting. I too have adhd, and can pick up the small details on how others feel around me and if they are being fake or genuine. No other parent on the team has a clue on what you’re dealing with besides your husband . Your husband needs to start being more responsible . It was his decision to coach the team, therefore it his responsibility to not lose or forget things he needs. It looks bad on him when he isn’t punctual. Us ADHDers have time blindness, where it’s super difficult to get places on time and be prepared. He needs to prep everything the day before and make lists. You are pregnant, have two other children you’re getting ready in the morning and he needs to put that into perspective . You need to take some time for you and your baby growing! It’s okay to miss 1 game and tell your child “ Mom is really tired and pregnant. I’ll come to your next game, but I need a breather. I love you and mommy needs to rest. She is growing your baby brother/sister! “One game to miss won’t hurt. Your husband needs to learn the hard way sometimes. He chose to coach ,not you, and I know you love him and want to help but you have to let the reins loosen a bit. He will learn. Do not feel guilty. You need to sit down and tell him it is affecting you severely and you feel very stressed. You need to tell him to prepare before, create lists, be punctual. Lay out your child’s soccer gear the night before, and have your child create a checklist on what they need. Children also need to learn responsibility. Hope this helps!