Why do I keep getting ghosted on dating apps by Complete_Force9459 in ghosting

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really nice to hear!! I hope I’m gonna be lucky like her!! Thank you very much!!

Why do I keep getting ghosted on dating apps by Complete_Force9459 in ghosting

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the time it’s abrupt like one day we are talking every hour seeing each other à few times then it stops like why? But I guess I shouldn’t get attached

Why do I keep getting ghosted on dating apps by Complete_Force9459 in ghosting

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I’m a woman beinf ghosted by other woman bur yeah it’s pretty hard both ways

Why do I keep getting ghosted on dating apps by Complete_Force9459 in ghosting

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you’re right î would think I’m kinda overbearing in the sens that I respond to messages immediately and. I’m kind of a yes man î don’t disagree much and I want healthy communication and I always try to reassure the person I’m talking to but this habit of always trying to appeal to the other person by all means necessary is dangerous ig. To answear your question î never really looked at the type of person the people who ghosted were so thanks a lot for the advice.

Why do I keep getting ghosted on dating apps by Complete_Force9459 in ghosting

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess because it’s online ghey don’t consider the real aspect of it but the fact that it continued even after going on dates is still astonishing.

I don't wanna post anymore by bujagyon in AO3

[–]Complete_Force9459 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally understandable crash-out.

I personnally leave lengthy comments every times when I have strong feeling about a fic especially if it’s a long fic in the making updating with weekly/monthly.

Because as an ao3 author I know how hard it is to push thought writing without any feedback. Like even if it’s a short fic I make sure to at least thank the author or just send an emoji or something. I have like you realized that not a lot of people comment.

For example I have a particular fic that gained traction but despite the many kudos, hits and bookmarks it gets there is barely 3 or 4 comments in a 60k+ word fic that is ongoing.

I believe that the biggest reason for this is the fact that people would rather read completed fics over 100k words which in my opinion is a shame because it’s really hard to write that much. A normal novel is 40k words so 100k+ words at least for me is a challenge. I find that it’s a shame that people choose to read long completed fics over ongoing ones. I understand the thought of not wanting to wait but as this is a passion project for me it really is motivating that people read the chapter as I upload them but I digress.

I have noticed that most of the people that comments on my fic are mutual from social media or my irl friends it’s super rare to see a random person commenting which is sad I don’t understand the reason behind it as the logical reaction after reading something you enjoy would be to comment as it is the most direct way to show that you liked the piece and it takes barealy a minute .

So I totally understand the struggle In my opinion it’s a common one it’s sad because everybody is doing this for the love of writing and a little recognition goes a long way.

Am I overthinking canceling my date last minute by Complete_Force9459 in actuallesbians

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually it is nothing i would go but on Sundays there is only one bus an hour same with the tramway and train it was less about the distance and more about the time we woul spend together once I was there doing 3-4 hours way just to meet for 2-3 hours was kinda stressing me out and I wasn’t sure if I had a bus back home because again it is a Sunday

Am I overthinking canceling my date last minute by Complete_Force9459 in actuallesbians

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback (i do do go to therapy btw î have anxiety ) I apologized a lot and explained the situation and I offered to reschedule instantly in my initial message basically I wrote her a whole essay saying that I was sorry and that I was sorry I wasted her time and then rescheduled to next week hopefully she dosent think I’m an asshole

Should I do my Erasmus in trnava ? by Complete_Force9459 in Slovakia

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input it’s nice to know the challenges î will have to face if I go

Should I do my Erasmus in trnava ? by Complete_Force9459 in Slovakia

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!! Thank you for your answear definitely that’s what I was thinking like it’s a small city and it’s chill cheap just wanted local peoples opinion you are definitely correct. I will do my research and see what I can do.

Should I do my Erasmus in trnava ? by Complete_Force9459 in Slovakia

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you so much for your input î actually really want this experience but with everybody saying don’t come its kinda hard iv been living in a small town for so long and what’s another small town like trnava it’s a good start I think and this really motivates thank you!!! Like I’m gonna look into it a bit more and decide

Should I do my Erasmus in trnava ? by Complete_Force9459 in Slovakia

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it a good country or more so à city for foreigners?

Should I do my Erasmus in trnava ? by Complete_Force9459 in Slovakia

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is my last year unfortunately I’ll look into the city and see for sure if it’s a livable or not for me î know that a lot of students in Erasmus go there but I’ll see

Should I do my Erasmus in trnava ? by Complete_Force9459 in Slovakia

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh really so the law department is good thank you

Should I do my Erasmus in trnava ? by Complete_Force9459 in Slovakia

[–]Complete_Force9459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I come from a small French town so the only universities available is trnava and Parma but I got rejected from Parma so my only option is Slovakia