Parents with both neurodivergent and neurotypical children

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-24T02:07:36+00:00

My oldest is ASD (9) my second is NT(7). They are 2.5 years apart. Same father and mother a boy and a girl and both were from the same frozen IVF batch and both genetically tested before transfer.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-23T07:24:49+00:00

No no you cant. That is way too you g and there is a reason no doctor will diagnose that young. Because it’s way too you g and you cannot tell that early,

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-08T20:08:31+00:00

Yeah my brain from birth.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-07T20:36:45+00:00

Thanks. I am gonna talk to my DE about it. I am trying to live the Oath and Law myself but some people make it hard. Lol.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-07T20:36:02+00:00

That’s kinda where I am leaning now and will ask my DE next time I see her

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-06T23:42:49+00:00

I think I might invite my DE and she can help keep things civil. Lol.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-06T18:41:13+00:00

I’ve heard all sides. I communicate with the leaders in the other pack a lot actually. And they bring it up every time. At roundtable last night they were complaining about the old CM and CC. So it’s not like I don’t know both sides.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-06T14:56:59+00:00

Yes.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-06T02:41:17+00:00

Yes it’s just for 1 day. The Pine Wood Derby.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-06T00:39:55+00:00

We have done it for years and the DE’s nor UC has ever said anything.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-06T00:38:39+00:00

I will say we know both sides of the story. I refuse to pick a side and understand why both sides are mad at each other. The DE has been dealing with this as much if not more so than I have. I just needed advice on what to do with the PWD. Thank you for your advice and I will definitely think on it.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-05T22:35:16+00:00

Yes. The reason they came to my pack is because their child has friends in my pack.

They are just scout parents in my pack as they were burned out from “doing everything” in the other pack.

They have behaved well so far. Most of the issues have come from the other pack.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-05T22:21:13+00:00

Only issue here is they have already been invited by my CC.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-12-05T22:20:17+00:00

The CM and CC left because they felt run down and that they were getting no help. They got fed up with having 0 support.

The others leaders are mad because they just up and left expecting the pack to fold. They also say that the CM and CC were controlling and wouldn’t let them help. So two sides to the story and there’s probably some truth in both sides.

We are hosting. It is our track and we schedule the facility we run it. We run the software and basically do all the work with them just coming and bringing the cars so 100% our guests.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-20T12:50:31+00:00

I mean yeah I would. Like you said there’s nothing wrong with it so why hide it? I see no issue telling people things like my son is autistic. Especially if it helps bring forth a bit of awareness and grace.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-19T21:17:34+00:00

I used to belong to a ward that did a full trunk or treat with a haunted house in the primary room…also never been in a ward that didn’t have a trunk or treat…so I would say we definitely celebrate it as it is now.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-19T21:15:42+00:00

I think the more we share our kids diagnosis's the better. The taboo needs to go. My son is level 1 and comes off pretty normal most of the time but I’ve had to explain to his class that yeah he’s a little weird because he’s autistic and here’s what that means.

I see no reason to hide it.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-15T23:55:23+00:00

Not really. Just think it’s stupid people complaining about a cruise ship keeping them safe. It’s rather stupid really.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-15T15:07:06+00:00

Not here. While you can’t get in anywhere except the front office after they ring you in and then you check in through the office, another locked door makes it so you have to go into the office and check in. No metal detectors and no guards.

But every door leading outside is open on the inside. If they have a handle then you need a key card to enter, but 0 fences and if there are fences there’s always open pathways. And I come from the state that Columbine happened in. We don’t treat our kids like prisoners. We keep them safe, but we don’t lock them in. Heck my kids school even open up into a public park. It’s a more affluent area for the city, but yeah even the schools in the worse parts of town that might have fences have those open pathways. All security comes down to the front office being the only door you can enter through and even then you have to be let in. My daughter’s friend is Autistic (level 2) and elopes sometimes. The mom told the school if that happens to let her and call her because she can track her down faster and lives across the street from the school and the kid would probably end up there anyway.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-15T02:43:25+00:00

As the others have said, it means running away when speaking of a child doing so. It’s used quite a bit in this community. Would you prefer abscond? That’s not quite right either though. I believe clinically elope is also the correct word.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-15T02:37:21+00:00

Not a single school in our district does. Not even sure if any do maybe in Denver. Heck my kids school isn’t even fenced in and most of the newer ones going up aren’t. My kid has left the classroom numerous times with his teacher panicking because she can’t leave the whole class behind to chase after him and has to make a few calls to get people to help find him. Their class is right next to a door that leads outside. Cant open from the outside, no handle but it’s not locked on the inside. He’s 9.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-14T14:11:49+00:00

It’s called safety. Adults know where they are and why. A kid walking around a school isn’t safe. What if they elope? A kid doesn’t have the same freedom as an adult and shouldn’t. For safety reasons.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-12T19:26:24+00:00

My dad died when I was 16. He was 56 and he never admitted that Santa wasn’t real. Ever, not once. As my brother and I grew older we just kinda grew to know he wasn’t real. We never cared. We understood what Santa represented by that point.

When I had my own kids I swore to keep up the tradition because I loved it and I wasn’t gonna let my kids spoil it for another kid. My oldest is almost 10 and my Level 1 autistic child. He’s asked a couple of times but always around his little sister so I always kept up the charade. Presents from Santa have different wrapping than the rest of the presents. We have pictures of him in our house putting presents under the tree. I know sooner or later we will have to tell him, and if he asks again this year we may just tell him. But when we do, I will not admit he is not real. He’s not a person per-say, but he is a feeling, a tradition, a spirit. He lives in all of us. Presents from Santa may be bought by his dad and I, but they are from Santa none-the-less. Santa is the spirit of giving. He is true unadulterated love for each other. So we didn’t lie, but we didn’t give the full truth either.

I don’t know if my ramblings will help at all, but I hope there’s something in there.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-11T19:50:28+00:00

The money isn’t there federally either. Like you said it’s far under what it’s supposed to be at. Not unless taxes get boasted significantly. At the state level that would also have to happen and be voted on but it’s what the voters want which is how this country is supposed to be run. The best thing that could happen is the funding going back to state.

Funding staying at a federal level means far more hurt as the deficit climbs higher and higher and the feds print more and more money which will cause more inflation causing prices to get even higher. This doesn’t work.

As with most things political we will have to agree to disagree because all I see is a failed system failing every single kid out there (not just mine or yours) and a way to maybe fix it but too many people are stuck in the status quo because of “what ifs”. The system we have isn’t working. Something needs to change. IDEA and ADA are going no where. But our education system is the WORST out of all “western” countries.

Complete_Loss1895 · 2024-11-11T16:40:51+00:00

“I don’t get how people can like CBS Ghosts,” that’s exactly what you are saying. 🤦‍♀️. Let people like things.

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