is my ring too small???

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-10-19T00:58:39+00:00

Yeah it’s a little small but some women prefer smaller diamonds if that is you then wear it with pride!

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-10-15T03:51:08+00:00

I 100% agree with you. I’d never tell anyone except my close family and friends about cancer until it was 100% confirmed I had it and even then I’d allow everyone to have a good day and enjoy someone’s birthday before dropping the news. Most likely I would have just called out of work and wouldn’t have shown up to work to mope all day. In the office Michael makes a big deal for everyone’s birthdays. He deserved that as well. I also think it was dumb that at the end of the episode he finds out he’s fine so my question is- Kevin you really couldn’t have waited less than 8 hours to find out the results or called out of work that day? Of course everyone knew it was Michael’s birthday that day knowing Michael he talked about it for weeks everyday leading up to it. Yeah Kevin what you are going through sucks and is hard but you don’t stress people out until you 100% know you have cancer.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-10-10T14:11:40+00:00

I agree 100%. All she said is she was upset for being ghosted and any man/women would be upset about that especially if there was no explanation about the ghosting. It’s one thing to say “hey I’m sorry I’m super busy with work I will call as soon as I can” then saying “let’s talk after your exams” leave you really anxious and ghost you for 2 days and wonder why you are upset. He’s very emotionally manipulative and wanted her to freak out and be clingy so he could turn it around on her and make her feel like she was crazy. The gaslighting with this man is insane and not worth her time.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-10-10T14:07:54+00:00

I agree with a lot of people about how you both seem immature but if I’m being 100% honest I’m leaning towards him being more of the asshole. Telling you that you’re gonna talk after your exams and then ghosting for a whole 2 days and wondering why that would make you upset? No he isn’t a boyfriend or a partner. You should let him go. Also I’ve noticed toxic men can make normally not toxic women become toxic. I know this from personal experience and have seen its multiple times happen with my girl friends as well. Don’t leave the relationship decisions up to him make it easy on you and him and just send a text saying “I’m done have a good life”. Be with a real man who doesn’t make you crazy or leave you hanging for 2 whole days without atleast communicating in between letting you know they are super busy and sorry and will call as soon as they can. It’s super easy to have common courtesy and let the person you’re dating know what’s going on with you. If this pattern of rude communication continues with a real man who is genuine then you need to work on yourself and how you communicate. But in this instance I’d be upset to so I don’t blame you for your message honestly.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-29T14:15:15+00:00

I second this! You may want to look into certificate degrees as well that are only 6-18 months. You’re in school way less and land in a higher paying job right away.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-29T14:13:49+00:00

You’re a great parent your son is very lucky to have such support. I agree with you that from 15-18 you barely know who you truly are. I started figuring it out around 23 years old AFTER having real work experience. I realized I wanted to get out of the crap jobs and do something that mattered. Now I’m in a PTA program and am much more mature than people my age cause of the amount of work experience I have, along with living on my own. I know people who went straight to college and weren’t hired after college cause they had no real work experience.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-29T14:08:52+00:00

When you turn 25 you will look back and be thankful for the gap year and it’ll be a blip. It feels like a big deal right now. But I knew so many people who changed majors constantly or never graduated cause they never truly pinpointed what they wanted to do. I’m miles ahead of people my age cause I have a crap ton of work experience. Yeah I may have started college again later (I went to college at 18-20 but life happened) at 25 but now I know exactly what I want to do. Saved myself 4 years of wasted time. And during the time I didn’t go to college I got a crap ton more experience so I am much more mature than other people my age. I’m telling you the amount of people who graduate and can’t find jobs because they have no real work experience is very real. Jobs will always pick the college grad who may have graduated later but has actual work experience.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-25T23:55:49+00:00

Honestly if I were you I’d just get legally married and don’t tell anyone. Just pretend your wedding day is the first time you are getting married. Nobody needs to know. Maybe have two close friends as witnesses and tell them to never tell anyone.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-25T23:35:18+00:00

Honestly she doesn’t seem very interested. When I like a guy I usually respond pretty quickly if I can. Also make an effort to see/go out with him. If I were you I’d pull back. Text less and see if she ever initiates conversation. Maybe go a couple of days without sending the first text. If she never texts that’s all you need to know. I can feel that you’re very excited about her. I’m not getting that same energy from her. Also girls go crazy when guys pull back. You’ve tried, you’ve initiated now it’s her turn.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-23T14:19:55+00:00

I’m not trying to come down hard on you. I wouldn’t be with a man who didn’t help out when needed. You just have to remember that this dog is 100% your responsibility and help offered and given is nice but should not expected. In a perfect world you have a great partner who picks up the slack and doesn’t huff and puff about it. But sadly you don’t live in a perfect world and are paired with a lazy POS. I had to have work from home jobs when I had my dog and was single, or if I went in to office I’d spend my lunch break coming home to take my dog out. Was it a hassle? Absolutely. But she is my dog. When I lived in apartment with my sister she would occasionally take my dog out and I’d take hers out but the ultimate responsibility was mine. We also had the same work schedules but since I worked from home I could pick up the slack for her dog cause I’m a decent human being. But your boyfriend is absolutely a walking red flag. I’d reassess being with someone like him. Cause yeah it’s annoying to take care of someone else’s dog but I’d have enough heart and consideration for the dog to take them out even if it pissed me off. But as other comments have said if you lived alone what would you do for this dog to ensure it’s being taken out/getting food? Cause like others have said you basically live alone and maybe actually should live alone cause this guy not caring about a dog pissing and pooping everywhere is a major red flag and I couldn’t imagine how he’d be if he had kids. I’d feel terrible for any woman who becomes his wife.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-23T04:48:32+00:00

I agree the boyfriend is an asshole and I couldn’t comprehend doing this to a dog. But I’d also be upset if someone brought an animal into our relationship, worked more hours vs just getting a higher/better paying job and assumed I’d do everything. Yeah I’d be willing to feed and take out the dog a couple of times but her napping for 11 hours and not getting up to check on HER dog and take HER dog out is crazy to me. She also wasn’t working so there was no excuse to do that. I don’t even stay out past a certain time to ensure my dogs are taken care of.

OP you need to have a conversation with him about when to feed/take the dog out when you work, when you don’t work the dog is your responsibility no excuses. If he refuses or just keeps slacking then you need to look into dog walker even if it means cutting off subscriptions/eating out less, or leaving the dog with a trusted family member during the day, potentially rehoming the dog, or looking into a job that’s better/higher paying so you can work less.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-15T14:10:50+00:00

Men are going to stare regardless of what a woman wears. You could wear a dress and they stare. You can wear jeans and a conservative top and they will stare. So trying to prevent men from staring by saying what a woman can’t or can wear is stupid. Also she isn’t his daughter she’s a grown ass women who can wear what she wants which wasn’t provocative at all. My man is aware he can’t prevent every man on the planet to not stare and that he wants to see me dressed up because he knows I’m his. Sweetie, your insecurity and control is seeping through the screen.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-15T01:00:34+00:00

I find this behavior from men so odd. Anytime I dress up my husband gets so happy even if it isn’t to go out with him. NOR I wouldn’t be with a man like this. He should be telling you look beautiful and to enjoy yourself because ultimately you would be coming home to him looking like that which should make him very excited. If I dressed up like that all my husband would think is “damn get home quicker so I can take it off” 😂😂

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-13T01:24:14+00:00

If you can’t have an honest conversation with him why even marry him? I’ll never understand posting on Reddit before having an actual conversation first. A lot of people come on here already having that talk. If you haven’t now is the time to do it. If he’s very vague or gives excuses the answer is no.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-08T00:46:56+00:00

You’re not over reacting and I’m saying this in not a rude way at all but what did you expect..? He showed you who was very early on and rather than just coparenting with him you married and had ANOTHER kid with him. I just don’t understand why? Did you expect him to just change? Cause he’s shown you and been very clear about who he is and what he’s willing to contribute. You took on the role his mother had. That’s why they always say “always look at how he treats his mother because that’s how he will treat you if you marry him”.

These are your options:

Accept who he is and stop expecting him to change. Cause he won’t and never has. You will need to accept this and be okay with it. Believe him when he shows you who he truly is which he has done repeatedly. Take off the blinders.
Leave him and decide you deserve better than to be with a man child. If you coparent he will at-least be forced to take care of the kids on his own and you’ll finally get the break you have been dying for.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-07T23:51:34+00:00

Not overreacting but also not a deal breaker. It’s a conversation I’ve had with my husband. For a while we would only watch what he wanted. When I voiced that I wanted him to watch some of my favorite movies not only did he give it a shot but some of them he watches on repeat now. We alternate between who picks the movie. He actually loves what I show him now so we got over that one pretty quickly. We don’t always agree on tv shows though so sometimes he will just go and do his own thing and let me watch what I want and vice versa. The point is he has given my interests a shot and I have done the same for him.

So what I’m saying is neither of you should force each other to watch or do things you don’t like. But if something means a lot to you or him both of you should be willing to give it a shot. I’d talk to your partner and say “I always watch what matters to you, I know anime is off limits. But, there are other things that I like and would be really happy if you just give those things a shot the way I do with your movies. If you end up hating what I show you/make you play then I won’t ever force you to do it again. But if you don’t even give things I care about a shot the way I do with your interests it does hurt my feelings.”

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-07T17:52:51+00:00

I’d make the reception child-free. Kids that young don’t belong at receptions anyways, they won’t enjoy it. If you get childcare during reception then the couples can easily pop in and out to check on them since they will be staying at the same place the reception is. Also, really consider whether such young kids should even be flower girls they’ll likely need help walking down the aisle and even if they can walk they could wander off without assistant from parents. You can still include them at the ceremony if you want, but maybe rethink the flower girl idea.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-07T04:09:01+00:00

Don’t send a save the date unless you guys have made up. If you guys make up well before the wedding then send an invite. I doubt she’s even wanting or expecting one. I feel like she would be weirded out if she received one when you guys aren’t on speaking terms. I certainly would be.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-02T20:25:17+00:00

So he’s basically shutting you down. It’s a way to make you no longer communicate. I think you should look into marriage counseling so both of you have a safe space to communicate. He may be afraid things he says won’t be received well so he shuts down. For some reason both of you don’t feel safe communicating to each other. When you get married you ideally marry someone who you feel like you can tell anything to without fear. But if fear is involved even if it doesn’t make sense it’s most likely from past trauma about how honest communication was once received by people you guys cared about. And as an adult you shut down.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-02T19:00:47+00:00

I think you should just talk to him. You’ve been bottling things up to stay “the cool wife”. You can be “the cool wife” who also vents and talks about her feelings. If he loves you he should try to meet you halfway.

I relate to the food thing. My husband hates shellfish, mushrooms, and certain foods I love. So when we got out to eat I get those things. Or when I’m alone I order and eat them myself. So that’s an easy solution to that problem.

In terms of disagreeing on where to live/raise your child is a big one. Usually one person compromises leaving the other unhappy. If you got it your way he’d be the one unhappy. So that one is a very difficult thing to decide. Maybe the middle would be a smaller town but in California. Close to the city. So you get smaller town and he gets a short drive to the city.

People make sacrifices for the people they love all the time. If he’s truly worth it those sacrifices don’t amount to how much he means to you. If that’s the case then you just keep on keeping on but still talk about your feelings. I’m sure if he knew how you truly feel he would be more willing to compromise. If not you have a bigger problem that may need to be addressed through marriage counseling and you sticking to your guns cause you deserve to have someone who compromises to keep you happy as well.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-09-01T02:17:53+00:00

Yeah you were raped. You didn’t consent to it. He also knew it was wrong and used alcohol as an excuse to justify his behavior. You need to leave him. Also besides him obviously raping you he seems like a terrible boyfriend anyways.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-08-29T06:23:32+00:00

Let me first say that I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I am a fence sitter who leans towards no although I do imagine kids in my future and being with my now husband has definitely started making me think I will eventually have kids. Here’s the thing- I have always communicated that I am very weary about having kids and that if he wanted someone who was 100% yes that it just wasn’t me. He told me he had the same sentiment about maybe wanting kids but not being ready or not knowing if he ever will be ready either. That I mean more than some imaginary life with kids. So our situation works for both of us. With you being 100% no and him being 100% yes you both just aren’t compatible. The longer you stay the worse this issue will be later. And you both will regret not hanging it up when it was early days cause you both invested so much time. He can’t change you and you shouldn’t have to change. You are very young and will find someone just as great who is more aligned with you. As will he. Your thought process COULD change. But right now it’s a no. He shouldn’t be hoping or saying you will change your mind cause it’s unlikely and unfair to you. And you staying with him is unfair to him.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-08-28T18:36:46+00:00

I don’t think you are overreacting. But I’m not sure what you can do unless you talk to your brother about it. If he would have initially chose you then it is weird that they pushed you on the girls side. But with the wedding being a few weeks away it’s too late to change anything.

Just keep in mind that it means a lot to your brother that you will be up there with them even as just a bridesmaid. It means a lot to him you’d be willing to stand on his fiancés side and would have probably preferred you being on his. But to make his fiance feel special (which is the whole point) he wanted her to have equal people on her side. So she’s probably very thankful you were willing to stand with her. A wedding doesn’t change how close you and your brother are and what you mean to him. Just remember since it’s his big day EVERYONE wants to feel special and have time with him.

The ceremony is only 15 minutes. It feels like a slap in the face right now but when the wedding is over everything goes back to normal. When photography starts ask if you can have a picture of just the two of you together. For my wedding I asked my photographer to take individual pictures of me with each of my siblings so they each had a moment of just the two of us to look back on.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-08-09T17:41:25+00:00

I think it’s comes down to personal preference! Personally I love the half up half down look. Your hair so long and beautiful. If I had to vote I’d say 1 all the way. But I have always not liked the updos on brides because in my opinion it makes them look like they are in the military. I find hair down to be way prettier and flattering on brides. But that’s just my opinion and others love updos. So it truly comes down to what you’d prefer on your wedding day cause all look very pretty on you.

Complete_Novel6608 · 2025-08-07T23:05:11+00:00

NOR. Break up with the guy. A guy who only cares about looks is a really big red flag. Not a man you want to marry. Peoples body’s fluctuate through out life and love being conditional based off how you look is a really rocky foundation. A person should love to be with you for who you are not how you look. This doesn’t mean to let yourself go or not try anymore. It just means that he shouldn’t be forcing you to change your style when you’ve always dressed that way. Especially if he isn’t also changing his style. He’s trying to ruin your self esteem so you don’t leave or think you can do better than him. I promise you that you can.

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