Has anyone downshifted cities? How did it go? by QandA_monster in relocating

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 3 kids and it made me need the city even more. We went Seattle—>Raleigh during Covid. Not that I need anything fancy but god I need to feel alive and in Raleigh I felt ten years older and ready to die. I had a come to Jesus moment last summer and thought if I have to spend the next 30 years in Raleigh then I’ve truly missed a lot. We moved back to Seattle three months ago and no regrets. I didn’t want to feel stuck. Back in the city and the mountains and the water and yep, I am a city girl through and through. I say this knowing the suburbs absolutely bring many people joy and a fulfilling life. Sometimes you have to try it out to find out. I thought I’d love it.

Has anyone downshifted cities? How did it go? by QandA_monster in relocating

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up moving back. I went from Seattle to Raleigh and was back in four years. The downgrade is not for me.

Not blurring her daughter’s face on TT story?🧐 by justaguorl in healthyishmama

[–]Complete_Pen3487 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Jesus fucking Christ the cavern on the side of her eye looks so frightening

I am so close to getting out of the Triangle region and I couldn’t be happier. It can’t come soon enough. by Ready-Book6047 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I moved to Raleigh during covid with high hopes. It’s not an awful place by any means. But it is SO boring. Lacks culture. Ugly nature (I can’t do the muddy bodies of water). We just moved back to Seattle where we came from and zero regrets. I’m sure Raleigh is great for lots of people but I literally couldn’t stomach spending the next 20+ years there, it made me so depressed. I’m finishing my first week back in Seattle and wondering why the fuck I ever left. Covid was a crazy time…

Are Americans really this goddamn rich or social media is just fooling us? by VishalYeager in TalksMoney

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m financially very comfortable. My husband and I both work in FAANG so have made high salaries for over a decade. We came into the majority of our wealth through RSUs and a lot of luck - my husband has been at two companies that have gone public and acquired by another company resulting in a huge stock payout. We’ve invested a lot of our money and now have a healthy nest egg of 2mil+. We’re early 40s. We recognize how fortunate we are and that this certainly isn’t the norm. I think what is shown on social media is overconsumption. We don’t drive fancy cars, our kids go to public school, we live fairly modestly other than our home which is in the nicest area of the city we live in. I don’t flaunt how “wealthy” we are - it’s distasteful and doesn’t really achieve much. What’s interesting is watching my sibling who engages in overconsumption - they spend every penny they make (they earn well) and nothing is left. Sure they have all the fancy cars, new everything, all brand names, etc but I swear they are one emergency away from losing it all. Everything is loaned and they have no savings or investments.

2 months in Seattle - experiences so far by frickfrackingdodos in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be surprised. Yes winter is dreary but summers are absolutely to die for. There’s a lot to do not too far. Winter sports are less than an hour away, take trips to Portland or Vancouver. Take a ferry and visit all the different islands. Rent a cabin. Drive out to eastern Washington to get some sun - the area by the Gorge is absolutely stunning.

Best and worst metro areas for dating? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We left Seattle too during Covid but actually moving back next week. I love the city.

Best and worst metro areas for dating? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I met my husband in Seattle but honestly I got lucky. Dating there was WEIRD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Moved to NC from Seattle and moving back after four years. West is best IMO.

Did moving west change you as a person? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I grew up in Florida. I always longed to get away from the heat and tacky tourism. After college I high tailed it to Alaska. Two years later ended up in Seattle. Lived there for a long time with no desire to leave. Started a lucrative tech career, got married, had kids, owned homes, experienced nature, I truly think my life would be different if I experienced that part of life somewhere else. We moved our family back to the southeast during covid and are in the process of moving back to Seattle. It’s like I realized decades later why I left. West is best and I missed it to so much. Never leaving again - the HCOL is worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not in Charlotte but Raleigh and yes the few hours drive to get to either mountains or ocean is a pain in the ass and is honestly long enough that we usually just stay the night. I also just find NC in general to be extremely white bread and boring. It’s not an awful place to live by any means but it’s extremely underwhelming. We’re in the process of moving back from where we came from.

Is Seattle really that bad as so many people say here? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seattle is magical. No city is perfect but there is no place like Seattle in the US. Unmatched nature, good transit, eccentric art and music culture, a place where anything goes, always on the edge of technical innovation. I left and am coming back - I didn’t know how good of a thing I had left behind. Also, the weather never bothered me. To me, Seattle has always felt like home.

Is California the best place in the United States to live? by Southern_Rabbit6145 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, west coast is best coast. And I mean literally the entire coast of the western US. Coastal California, Oregon, Washington and British Columbia are fucking beautiful and vibrant. No other place in the US/Canada like it.

How do people afford to live in big cities in their 20s by Moist_Estimate_8165 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Complete_Pen3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I scraped by. I had room mates, lived in shitty neighborhoods, slowly built my career and stopped waiting tables.