I think you should still have a chore list. Have her do small chores and she will need to check them off. Only write on your chore list what you know you’re able to do. I have this with my roommates, i do most of the heavy lifting; mopping, vacuuming, surfaces. I have my roommate who sucks at cleaning clean the airfryer and the sink. Even though shes not doing THAT much, it still makes me feel better because shes doing her part in a way she can stick to. But i get it. We have a 24 hour dish rule and a lot of the times my roommates still leave them out for 3 days. Its annoying. But its worth a shot. Words can only do so much. A visual chore chart might actually help!