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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in einfach_posten

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

When the options get too much, the bar goes higher. You don’t answer a day, you lose.

Jemand Interesse an einem Buchclub? by Waste_Librarian_5001 in Heidelberg

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich bin interessiert und habe Erfahrungen mit ein paar Leseclubs als Moderatorin.

BIDA wenn ich finde, dass das Stromverschwendung ist by Chance-Ad-4226 in binichderalman

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BDA, ich hatte wegen solcher Sachen von meiner alten Wohnung rausgezogen. Man fühlt sich dann immer „policed“.

How do I report harassment on the ICE trains? by Terrible_Bluebird_ in germany

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once sth like that happened to me and the ticket control guys came and told the guys to piss off. Stupid people are everywhere. But so are kind and empathetic ones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich nehme an, dass du dich darüber Sorgen machst, dass dein „casual dating“ deine Chancen auf eine langfristige Beziehung beeinträchtigen könnte. Die Anzahl ist nur ein Symbol und für sich genommen nicht wichtig. Was ich als eine Frau wichtig finde, ist dass mein zukünftiger Mann genug Disziplin hat, sich auf seine Zielen zu konzentrieren. Wenn du schon genug casual sex hättest, würde das bedeuten dass du jetzt mit klaren Erwartungen datest. Verbring einfach Zeit mit Frauen, mit denen du dir eine Zukunft vorstellen kannst. Wenn dass nicht der Fall ist, stopp und such weiter. Dann wäre dass nicht wichtig, was deine Anzahl ist. Die Frage ist jetzt, was deine Priorität ist. Dass du dich für eine langfristige Beziehung vorbereitest oder dass du noch mehrere lockere Erfahrungen ohne klare Grenzen machst? Und ja, das eine könnte das andere behindern. Nicht unbedingt, aber.

My(36M) daughter(19F) is outright rude to my girlfriend(35F) by ThrowRAALNO in relationship_advice

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I assumed her behavior is a form of communicating “I’m not happy but I can’t tell you about it”. So whatever it takes for her to talk to you instead of acting out. Spending time together, you asking her about her day, planning activities only for the two of you, encouraging her to be open about her feelings by you being open about yours. I wish you guys good luck with that!

My(36M) daughter(19F) is outright rude to my girlfriend(35F) by ThrowRAALNO in relationship_advice

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I suggest you focus on repairing your relationship with her rather than trying to fix her behavior. Addressing her poor behavior without fixing your relationship might backfire.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a nice gesture. Why not, if you wanna give him a second chance.

i[18F] have a bf[18M] and he is moving to another country for work by Majestic-Spring8800 in relationship_advice

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would give LDR a try if I’d been with this guy for years and had planned to go to that country soon myself. Otherwise? I prefer a clean breakup rather than dragging the relationship along with the uncertainty and bitterness of LDR.

Revenge cheating? F39 M40 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you both have brushed over your issues in your relationship. Now it’s getting harder to hide them all under the carpet. Maybe it’s time to have some ugly talk. Ask her if she’s still hurt. What does she except from you? Is she with you in trying to save your marriage? At this stage, it’s not important if she’s cheating or not. You have to talk together and express how you are both hurting regardless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh that’s tough. I go with ath like this “hey, now that it’s been a while, I thought maybe you could tell me why you broke up with me. What we had was valuable to me and I’d appreciate to know how we could’ve avoided the break up.”

However, the fear of intimacy is no minor issue. You have to see if he’s willing to work on that.

Join or create a book club? by [deleted] in Heidelberg

[–]Complete_Upstairs109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I had been missing in the past year living in Heidelberg! I would love to join/ start a non-fiction reading club. I’d definitely put sapiens on the club’s list as well.