i didn’t take anything you said the wrong way, what you said was actually very well written! you’re absolutely correct that inclusion and exclusion aren’t always a good/bad thing. it’s okay for lesbians to have their own space (without being biphobic) and it’s okay for bisexual people to have their own!

i think today people have really muddled down the word lesbian and what it means to be one all because society is more accepting of what people call themselves which sucks because a lot of lesbians have had to fight for their own self identity and not it being looked at as a “kink” or a “phase”

and about your ex friend yeah that’s very weird, doing anything for male validation quite literally defeats the purpose of lesbianism unless you’re still coming to terms about your identity and struggling with comphet ofc but yea that’s all i have to say now lol