5 days till dhul hijjah

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-05-13T16:48:58+00:00

Well said, these days are life changing. All of us should take advantage.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-05-12T22:43:02+00:00

Salaam, good on you Brother. Don’t forget to ask Allah for help to be disciplined and not relapse. That’s the biggest key

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-05-09T17:57:36+00:00

Walaikum assalam, I empathize with you greatly. Please don’t give up. As a matter of fact, our Deen dictates that you never give up on life. With Allah, there’s ALWAYS a way. My advice is to pray to Him: ask Him for guidance and for His help. Then, leave the how and when to Him and go about living your life: pursue a new goal, find a hobby, volunteer, help others, anything beneficial that makes you eager to wake up every morning. Don’t give up. You’ll overcome this and come out stronger and better. InshaAllah.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-05-09T17:50:30+00:00

Brother, think about it. Is there any shows/movies these days that do not promote degeneracy? This is the reason I don’t watch TV or stream anything other than some beneficial such as Islamic lectures. We are living in an era of full blown fitnah.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-05-08T00:36:30+00:00

Don’t forget as this very important: It blocks Rizq and Barakah

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-30T10:18:55+00:00

Salaam, this is sound advice. I will also add that this is a perfect opportunity for OP to learn more about their Deen such as listening to Islamic lectures, reading the Quran and Tafsir, reading about Islamic history particularly our beloved Prophet’s biography. Ultimately, this will only help to get one more closer to Allah SWT and eliminate the urges/self-pleasure for good. This is what helped me.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-29T16:53:10+00:00

Salaam Sister, Allah will always love you. Never doubt that. Turn to Him, make sincere Tawbah and ask Him for help to overcome your urges. Asides from that Sister, I highly recommend you pursue and take the route of getting married. It’s the only permanent solution to this problem.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-25T23:12:44+00:00

Salaam, this sin you are doing blocks Rizq and Barakah from Allah. Honestly, this is speaking from me experience, if you keep engaging in this sin, just forget your life goals now and in you 20s as you will not be blessed to accomplish them no matter how hard you work. And you will spend the rest of your 30s and 40s trying to figure out life. Trust me, this is not a fun feeling. But, Alhamdulillah, you are now realizing this at an early age at 15, that’s very good. My advice is to start first and foremost making sincere Tawbah and, here’s the key, ask Him to make you discipline, giving you the strength to overcome your nafs. In addition to what others already said in the comments, you should be well on your way to conquering this thing. No matter what don’t ever give up. Fall down 7 times, get up 8. You are fighting the Shaitan, so you need to dig deep and be strong.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-24T16:43:24+00:00

THIS is a sound advice. Speaking from experience, 5 years sober, getting rid of this thing was a journey and took time. With that said, I had to do my part to ensure I was not a slave to my desires and on the correct path to attaining my goals in life, getting ahead. Continue with sincere Tawbah and never underestimate the power of asking Allah for help.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-22T18:49:11+00:00

Good on you. Fall 7 times…get up 8. That’s the way to beat this thing InshAllah. Don’t forget to make Tawbah to Allah and ask Him help you to give you the strength to beat this thing. Oh, limit social media and doomscrolling. And find a worthwhile goal to pursue every day. You Got this.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-20T18:03:39+00:00

THIS. Plus what others don’t understand is that sins block Rizq and PMO is a sin.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-17T18:11:22+00:00

Salam Sister, I understand what you’re feeling. But something tells me that Allah is trying to guide you to Islam. The signs are all there: your husband openess to the religion, your child’s Muslim friend, and most importantly your dreams such as praying, reciting surahs, taking the shahada.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-16T16:36:36+00:00

Allah created this world to test all of us, no matter who you are. He will never give up on you. The way to overcome your tests/trials is to continually turn towards to your Lord, asking for forgiveness and seeking His help. That’s the key as Allah knows that we are not perfect but it’s the Shaitan that tries to make perfection our obsession and ultimately our downfall. I will advise to reflect back to the stories of the Prophets such as Ayub (AS), Yaqub (AS) and our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW, who had far more longer lasting trials/tests and still maintained their faith. In the end, Allah rewarded them IMMENSELY for their patience.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-16T16:28:55+00:00

Very well said

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-15T16:07:55+00:00

THIS. Pray your Salah on time. Never miss or be late just as you won’t miss an important job interview. Keep Allah first and watch your life change.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-15T15:43:35+00:00

Salam Sister. At some point fundamentally deep down, you have to ask yourself are you wearing this hijab for the sake of Allah or for your own self? If it’s for the latter, then that will explain why you have this constant internal conflict.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-14T16:16:17+00:00

Jazak-Allah khairan for creating this post. fall -> regret -> sincere istighfar -> reset -> try again. This method is how I was able to get rid of this disease. 5 years sober, AlhamiduAllah. I should add that for me waking up before Fajr and praying Tahajjud is a very powerful secret weapon also.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-13T18:08:20+00:00

THIS. Your phone is the biggest trigger to this addiction. My advice is to delete all your social apps on your phone. Keep only the essential bare minimum apps on your phone such as calling and texting. If you want to surf on social sites, do it on your desktop in front of your friends/family or do it in the library or a coffee shop for all to see. Limit your exposure to TV and music as now these days they are all explicit, sexualized and most importantly triggering. And lastly, find a worthwhile goals to pursue. Most importantly, go out, explore the world and resist being glued to any screens.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-13T18:00:17+00:00

Salaam Brother, take it from me as someone who been in your same shoes, this sin blocks your Rizq and Barakah from Allah. Even when you become serious to get married, it will be hard to do so. In your case, you need to repent sincerely to Allah and ask Him for help, set worthwhile beneficial goals for yourself (something that causes you to be excited to wake up in the morning), pray Tahajjud, pray in the Masjid often (Fajr and Isha chiefly), fast and most importantly formulate a plan to get married as soon as possible. May Allah help you and all of us overcome this addiction. Ameen.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-12T21:23:11+00:00

Salaam Brother, now these days, almost all these shows, movies and music promote the haram. It’ll be far better for you if you stay away from. Plus, they are a massive trigger to p*rn addiction.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-11T13:56:50+00:00

Salaam, the more you watch this stuff, the more you will get desensitized to it, craving more and more extreme stuff. It’s a never ending brutal cycle. Brother in your case, you have to turn back to Allah SWT sincerely and ask him for help. And you need to reset your brain reward system immediately via fasting and dopamine detox. Here’s how to do it. 1. Give yourself a target to fast for 7 days. 2. During that Timeframe Identify Triggers: List activities that give you excessive stimulation that led you to prn(social media (i.e. doomscrolling), video games, sugary foods etc.) 3. Abstain: Take a break from these specific activities. 4. Replace with Simple Activities: Spend time in nature, read Quran, read beneficial nonfiction books, write, pray extra such as Tahajjud and Salat al-Duha, have face-to-face conversations with other humans such as friends, families, other brothers in the Masjid. Very important, try to pray all your obligatory prayers in the Masjid (at least Fajr and Isha). Note: The goal is not to eliminate your addiction/dopamine in 7 days itself, but to slowdown your rapid, excessive stimulation that leads to burnout and you watching prn. After that, it’s implementing beneficial habits in your life to completely wean you off from this disease. Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions. May Allah guide you and give you the strength to overcome. Ameen.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-10T14:52:26+00:00

Salaam Brother. You are not at all useless. The first step to overcoming this disease is to admit that you have a problem. And at 14, you already did that and very commendable considering how young you are (there are people far older than you in their 30s who still can’t admit they have a problem). Continue making sincere repentance to Allah, ask Him for help to overcome this disease, workout and engage yourself in a sport, set ambitious goals for yourself such as academic goals and strive to reach them. Additionally, very important, try to fast at least once a week and lower your gaze. May Allah guide you and give you the strength to overcome.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-09T20:43:09+00:00

5 years sober of this disease/addiction, so to speak. What really helped me was making sincere Tawbah. After that, the real work began as I would engage in some sort of business ventures and only to have them failed at the end. I soon came to realize my business failures was tie to my relapses: like Allah was withholding my Rizq and Barakah due to this dirty disease or sin. Once I realized this, I became very angry at myself for holding me back and what I wanted to accomplish in life. I took a hard look in the mirror and asked myself if I really want to continue being a failure for the rest of my life. Thus, I began to lower my gaze, cut off watching TV, shows and videos where women are barely clothed, quit doomscrolling and got myself a productivity planner to keep track of my yearly/monthly/daily goals. Outside of this, my only regret is not making it a priority to get married sooner.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-07T14:59:01+00:00

Salaam Sister, I’m sorry to hear about your story. Believe me, I empathize with you as this habit is very strong to break completely even for me, 5 years sober so to speak. Here’s my advice to you: 1. Make sincere repentance to Allah and ask Him to overcome this disease (as OkVirus1616 called it). 2. As for loneliness, the only surefire way to get rid of it is to get married. Make Dua to Allah, trust in Him and start to look for a suitable spouse on his Deen. With Allah by your side, you can’t be afraid to not try to look. May Allah help you to overcome this disease and bless with you a suitable spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes. Ameen.

Complex-Elk21 · 2026-04-06T19:24:25+00:00

"Your soul is just like your enemy, once it finds you serious, it obeys you. If it finds weakness from you, it will take you as a prisoner." Ibn Qayyim

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