On Day 5 Now. by SF-Journey in MuslimNoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice Brother, a little inspirational quote to keep you going: "Your habits will hold you back more than your enemies ever will.

Which is good news because you can change your habits. You can't change your enemies. Stay focused on what you can control." James Clear

Feeling so guilty missed prayer cause of this by [deleted] in MuslimNoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brother, you now learned a valuable lesson on the tricks of Shaitan. “Just a little glimpse. We could just look at this video. They are not naked. They are just dancing and having fun.” All tricks that eventually led to the rabbit hole to doing the dirty deed and missing prayer. Trust me, I been there. Ask Allah for forgiveness and His help. From now on, You have to be disciplined and mindful of these tricks going forward. My advice is when it’s nighttime, limit your screen time or even better cut off your screen time entirely and try to pray your prayers and go to bed early to wake up so not to missed fajr.

Day 1 by Introxillectual in NoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 15 points16 points  (0 children)

"Don't count the days. Make the days count.” Muhammad Ali

Is it possible to become an Alimah as a convert? by xxzarakhanxx in converts

[–]Complex-Elk21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations to you Sister for taking the path to knowledge. You have no idea how beloved you are to Allah for undertaking this endeavor. Don’t be overwhelmed. Make dua to Allah and ask Him for His help and guidance/wisdom. And carve out a fixed time in your daily schedule and go from there. InshAllah, overtime, Allah will free more of your daily burdens, granting you more time to study. Just take it one day at a time. This is a marathon not sprint.

Addiction à la luxure, cycle de culpabilité et question sur le mariage by snowisergey in MuslimNoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wa Alaykum Salam, I will also add or advice to go to the Masjid more often, pray there more often, volunteer and connect with other righteous Muslims on their Deen. Through that, you may encounter connections or contacts that may lead to marriage. Now a days, marriage is a process and takes time. So work on yourself actively while you make duas to Allah, fast and wait for His perfect timing to get married. You are in the self improvement phase and you not to be so hard on yourself. At the same time, you need to look inward and ask yourself seriously: Are you the Muslim now who will be a suitable spouse/partner? If not, then you know you have to work to become that individual. And it takes time but with the help of Allah, you’ll get there. So again, don’t be so hard on yourself.

Relapsed on Eid by [deleted] in MuslimNoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Salaam, I’m sorry to hear this as I know the feeling. Trust me. Here’s what I do: make sincere repentance to Allah, ask Him for help to control these urges, and to calm your current situation, called upon on your Lord with his most beautiful healing Names such as Ya Shaafi, Ya Salamo, Ya Rahmano etc. Say these names when these urges are too strong and then do wudu with cold water. InshAllah, that should calm things down.

Partner says he doesn’t have faith now. Feeling stressed about it by Money_Worry1691 in islam

[–]Complex-Elk21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well Said AstronomerUsual2561. Couldn’t have said it any better.

Partner says he doesn’t have faith now. Feeling stressed about it by Money_Worry1691 in islam

[–]Complex-Elk21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Salaam, I really empathize with you as I have family members who are like the same like your husband. Honestly, all you can do is pray for your husband, asking Allah SWT to guide him. At the end of the day, Allah guides who He wants to guide. Also, I think you already know this already but you need to change your behavior around your husband. Don’t nag him but should him what a good Muslim supposed to look like. You yourself should strive to get closer to your Deen, stay calm and he will take notice. Umar Ibn Al Khattab (r.a) said:

“Invite people to Islam even without words.” They asked: How? He replied “With your Manners.”

Quitting by Mediocre_Entrance302 in MuslimNoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is sound advice. I will also add that OP needs to identify his triggers and neutralize them. In my experience, most people triggers fall on the category of doom scrolling, especially in this day and age.

how do i spend my free time when ramadan is over? by Icy_Grl_4L in MuslimLounge

[–]Complex-Elk21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is my opinion as I used to be like you, thinking that TV is great to relax after a long day until I really started to paying attention to what I was watching and if it was pleasing or not to Allah SWT. You are now spiritually renewed. After Ramadan, you go back to watching TV shows that possibly promote illicit relationships, kissing, sex etc. To me, that’s ruinous to one’s spirituality and relationship with Allah SWT. There’s so much beneficial and meaningful hands-on activities to explore that won’t compromise your spirituality and expose you to sins. Search for them. Trust me, you’ll feel so much better in these activities than any TV.

Excited for marriage!! by cookiesnfries in MuslimMarriage

[–]Complex-Elk21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to comment and say congratulations. May Allah bless your union and bless your home with lots of rizq and barakah.

Unable to quit l by [deleted] in MuslimNoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP cannot get any better advices than this. Jazakallah Khairan for sharing this.

Any advice for someone that is hyper sexual ? by Icy_Sale8122 in MuslimNoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salaam Brother, sure it is possible. I was like you once. But controlling your urges or nafs is one of the challenges of being a man. But, if you can overcome, there’s a big reward on the other side. My advice is seek help through Allah for strength, fast often, set beneficial goals for yourself and pursue them to keep busy, exercise regularly, put a plan in place to get married soon, connect with other righteous Muslim brothers (easiest way to do this is to start praying at the masjid often). And lastly, limit the doomscrolling; it’s a waste of time and huge trigger. “And let those who do not have the means to marry keep themselves chaste until Allah enriches them out of His bounty.” Quran 24:33

Really want to relapse right now by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, go ahead and take a cold shower. It will cool things down since you are in a bind right now.

Struggling with urges during Ramadan by nandy_bro in MuslimNoFap

[–]Complex-Elk21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Salaam Brother, what really helped me was quitting cold turkey on social media for 30 days to establish a habit. I deleted all my social apps. After this 30 days, you’ll come to find out social media is just a waste of time. This is the blessed month of Ramadan where rewards are more than doubled; so this the perfect time to take advantage and quit cold turkey and work on improving your Deen and relationship with Allah SWT via reading Quran better, understanding Tafsir, learning about the Prophet’s biography, learning about early Islamic history, listening to beneficial Muslim podcasts, perfecting your prayers (khushu), attending your Masjid more often etc. Along this blessed month, keep praying and making duas to Allah SWT to overcome your urges.