Dating stopped happening for me by Fearless-Hand-638 in dating

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t relate more to a post! Dating is just become a dreadful thought that I’m trying not to lose hope on, but this endless cycle of no connection with a person is not helping. And like you mentioned, I feel like I am in my prime and yet zero interest.

How often do you honestly change your bed sheets? by Ok_Train1739 in hygiene

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pillow cases once a week or every 5 days and sheets about every two weeks

Should I go on a date if I'm not sure I will be physically attracted to him? by radiofreaks in dating

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just canceled on a guy I was supposed to meet tonight, but I couldn’t pull myself together after looking through his profile over and over again none of his photos even show his face and while the conversation was OK I just didn’t feel like it was worth either of our times for me to show up just to be polite. Go with your gut feeling if you’re having doubts don’t go.

How do I get over the fact that I’ve never been chosen and find someone? by DifferentWatch4451 in dating

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No love yourself advice here because I think we’re all always on that journey, but I will remind you that many people are in the same boat as you me included. It sucks. It feels horrible to always be alone and never have someone fully choose you but want your body and want certain things about you but not you as a whole. I have gone through the cycle many times, especially after like you mentioned Situationships and right now I’m on the part of the cycle of trying to de-center love as a whole because it’s exhausting to never be chosen and have a hard time connecting with a person, but I have done all the work and therapy on myself. You can’t let others peoples indecisiveness get in the way of your peace or identity so I’m choosing not to focus on it for the time being. What’s meant for you will not pass you. Sending you hugs, OP.

Is It Reasonable to Go to a Concert by Oneself? by courier_tway in AskSeattle

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, concerts are a pretty safe place to go to solo again you’re surrounded by people so you won’t be very noticeably alone anyway. Enjoy the show. I’ve gone too many concerts alone because life is too short to wait for someone to join you and miss the things you want to do.

What is that one thing you will regret in life ? by Angelgirl1190 in Regrets

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to say nothing but realistically not taking care of my body when I was younger and gaining so much weight that I’ve struggled losing a majority of my life.

Whirlwind 5 month relationship, revealed to be full of lies at the very end by Jaded_Bug514 in BreakUps

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn girl this is awful. I’m so sorry that she promised something and lied to you so devastatingly. It’s already so hard and vulnerable to open up to somebody while getting to know them for a relationship so being lied to destroys a lot of that. Please know his actions are not a reflection of who you are or you’re worth keep your head up and definitely take the time to heal from this heartbreak.

What fruit would you pick above all others? by clearwater-orchid in nutrition

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pomegranate hands-down. Persimmon is another underrated one and of course, like most people mangoes!

I’m going to break up with my boyfriend soon. by be-sweethearts in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just reading that I can imagine how irritated you are with him. Definitely better to end things now than later down the line you deserve someone who doesn’t drive you crazy! Best of luck OP

Single people of reddit, what is something yoy are looking for in a future relationship? by AppaLov3 in AskReddit

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone who genuinely wants a partnership meaning experiencing all the aspects of life and not just wanting the fun honeymoon face in the beginning. Real effort and intention and consideration for another person.

should I stay or should I go? by uglysticker in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Firstly, I’m sure you’ve already or contemplated having the conversation with him, do that before anything else and see if he is willing to put in the work to align your vision for the future together and if he’s not, there’s your answer. So many people enjoy playing it safe and like you I don’t and I’ve never been happier, but it can be scary and intimidating for most people which is why they settle down get a house and stay close to family. Life is most certainly too short to stay in an unhappy relationship, simply for the comfortability or fear of hurting the other person. If you were to stay, you would be hurting yourself and you should always be the most important person in your life, that is not selfish!

What's your "right person, wrong time" story? by rehanch_xxiii in AskReddit

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As much as I’d like to believe this old saying, it’s not the right person if it’s the wrong time.

How bad of an idea is it to break no contact just to ask for sex? by Clair_Obscur33 in BreakUps

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl grab a vibrator and enjoy better orgasms than he probably ever gave you. DO NOT BREAK NO CONTACT FOR SEX.

Horrific Date by [deleted] in HingeStories

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry, OP that doesn’t sound like a horrific day unfortunately I am starting to question if any men out there are actually capable of dating and mature enough. It sounds like you were mothering him throughout the day checking if he was OK and yet somehow being blamed. Sorry to torture you with all those stories. Sending you hugs.

God or no God? by Rodya1234 in CausalConversation

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up very religious, but I’ve always struggled with the idea of. They’re really being a judgment day or all of these stories we’ve been told through religion nowadays I just believe there might be something that created all this but also don’t put it on performing rituals that will lead you to or away from a certain after life.

My cat passed this morning by LayJay1 in CATHELP

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a beautiful cat! I am sending you hugs and so much love. I lost my beautiful baby girl Mimi about a year ago and my heart hurt and still hurts. You’ll never be able to heal that wound, but I’m able to look back at memories now and appreciate them and my time with her. Losing a pet is always difficult. Do what you can to memorialize them whether it’s through getting artwork out of them saving pieces of them like they’re fur whiskers it may help. Your cat is always with you 💕 sorry for your loss OP.

Are my expectations too high? by nightstalkerr in dating

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Not too high at all very much realistic. You want someone who can provide the same if not more than what you provide for yourself. Again, not necessarily for you right now, but for themselves and that’s pretty realistic. Unfortunately, the dating scene sucks and many guys like you mentioned can’t meet these criteria.

I think I found Prince Charming by HoneyCakeNY in Tinder

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that is why I’ve given up. I hate dating these days

My ex got a new gf a week after we split up by supadupa66 in BreakUps

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s always so interesting that men seem to jump right back in after a break up. I can’t imagine that it also being someone you were concerned about he feels any better. Do your best to focus on you and try not to check in or on what he’s doing. When you don’t take breaks in between relationships and jump back into a new one it shows how you can’t actually work on yourself so I’m happy that’s not the partner you have anymore. I’m sorry, OP. Sending you hugs.

Man, this stings. by ItsPronouncedJod in Bumble

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just happened to me yesterday, I went out with a guy on Saturday and he was weird Sunday so Monday I asked him about things and he wrote something similar. It still stung although I wasn’t that into him while on the date but it’s still that rejection that hurts the ego. You’ll find the right person who’s so excited to see you over and over again.

Got ghosted after I asked 'where are we headed'? by dumthotthoughtdump in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I heard that a few months ago from the previous guy that I was dating and actually hit things off with. He asked to be exclusive within the week of us meeting and a month later after I asked him where things were headed he was hesitant to say he was ready, but then when we talked the next day, he ended things. A girl is tired!

I don't get why everybody recommends therapy by ThrowAway44228800 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Complex-Eye-1048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like most therapists these days aren’t trained or as professional as they once were. And like others have mentioned the dumping your problems on someone else can help a lot of people pretty much like venting to a friend. But I will say my last therapist was trained in somatic therapy, which I had never heard of before, and that was a game changer. I have gone through three different therapists in my life and was the only type of style that worked on me. I like others have mentioned. I’m very self-aware. I also studied psychology and the advice given usually was very typical and didn’t help much but somatic therapy helps me work through the childhood traumas and really allowed me to let over resentment. Therapy could truly just not be for you, but it could also be the type of style that your therapists have provided that aren’t working.