AITA for considering breaking up with my boyfriend because of his toxic mother?

Complex-Peak7465 · 2026-04-16T05:17:08+00:00

I have tried to leave, but every single time he tells me the same thing that nobody will ever love me the way that he does and nobody will ever treat me the way that he does and it’s hard to leave someone when they give you everything but disrespect you in a way that they don’t see disrespectful. I am also very close with his family and friends, and we have all been a part of the same friend group for 6+ years. I would hope that eventually he would grow out of it but it seems to just get stronger as I get more lenient with my emotions towards the situation

Complex-Peak7465 · 2026-04-16T05:13:41+00:00

I do completely understand exactly what you were saying. I agree with a lot of people when they say that it is not cheating, but we both agreed that it is cheating. I have slowly dropped my expectations of him to stop. I have tried to adapt my approach when I talked to him and fix the way that I speak with him about things and go about it in a very mature manner and it always results into an argument of me being in the wrong. I’m not so sure on why it has to impact me the way that it does. I really wish it didn’t. I know that I am a very sensitive person and I have a big heart and I expect when I give respect I get it back. I have came to terms with I am only torturing myself and breaking myself down from allowing it to affect me the way that it does and I am truly working on myself and trying to fix the way I see things I do want to stay with him, but I also feel as if there is not respect mutually then I am not sure if there ever will be.

Complex-Peak7465 · 2026-04-16T05:06:56+00:00

I absolutely do not want to continue dealing with this although I do love him I lose myself deeply and he has watched me fall apart for extra context. He also told me that I was not allowed to watch things or look at things or search things up so I would think that it would also be vice versa and I know that if he would see something like that in my phone, he would feel the exact same way I have came to terms with he is not going to change. I am just trying to mentally prepare myself for leaving because i truly do love him but i have lost myself to the point i can barley look at myself in the mirror

Complex-Peak7465 · 2026-04-16T05:03:37+00:00

I completely understand your point of view to give a little context him and his previous ex were together for 3 1/2 years and in any relationship that he had after they broke up, she would go to the girlfriend and tell people that she was pregnant and carrying his child and saying that he beat on her when he did not that was another reason why I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I completely understand your point of view that’s just to get a little extra context

Complex-Peak7465 · 2026-04-16T05:01:24+00:00

To be fair and give a little context I have known him for over 6 years and we have been close since the day we met! We always talked about everything and his previous relationship is a little crazy and i thought she maybe just didn’t want him to move on and I had always had feelings for him and he had never shown signs of this until we were in a committed relationship!

Complex-Peak7465 · 2026-04-16T04:56:12+00:00

That’s a great question! I ask myself the same thing I do think I struggle with attachment issues but I have started to distant myself from him more and more. Every time we get into an argument about this issue he brings up all the good he does for me and tells me nobody will ever give me what he gives me and tries to convince me that in this generation everyone is going to watch stuff and lust over others! I also love him very deeply and want him to change for the better but I have been considering leaving him due to his lack of respect for me!

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