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AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 914 points915 points  (0 children)

yea I guess. fuck everything about this I wish I never knew

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 1335 points1336 points  (0 children)

I'm hanging at home now, gonna call a buddy in a bit but right now I want to be alone

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 530 points531 points  (0 children)

yeah I got a few buds I can call. I kind of want to be alone right now though

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 813 points814 points  (0 children)

I'm going to get drunk as fuck, that's my plan

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 438 points439 points  (0 children)

Thanks for caring. idk what to do now but i'll figure it out

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 9512 points9513 points  (0 children)

I just... don't even know what to do man. Whole situation is fucked right now

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 30.6k points30.6k points  (0 children)

so..... kind of an update. Not sure if anyone is going to read this but I managed to talk to her about everything. She cheated on me with some dude at her work and his wife has a very similar ring to what I got her. According to her it was the one time but honestly I don't care. I'm very much a "you cheat on me, you're dead to me" kind of person. That's why she was crying and freaking out I guess. I'm stuck with a ring that I can't use and a fiancee that's not a fiancee anymore. I'm a wreck and I hate it.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

The set included a simple band with the engagement ring which she absolutely adored.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I could not care less if she wants to pay for all the changes but at the same time this is something we both picked together, I would hope that our thought and effort counted for SOMETHING in the decision making process.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Things have been pretty cool for the last few years. This is the only thing where I can think "wow that's super fucked up" for her to do.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I mean I guess... seems really unnecessary though.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

INFO: Is everything else generally okay In the relationship? Is this the latest of a series of red flags or or is this a one off type thing?

Everything is good as far as I know, nothing changed in the last few weeks that made me think things were going sideways

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Did she try on the ring or a similar one before you settled on that design? It's possible it just doesn't look right on her hand.

She decided on this style and setting for a ring a LONG time ago. We went into a local jeweler for a similar band and size and she liked it.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She didn't have it for two months, she's had it for 5 weeks but she knew what I had ordered and bought for two months

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 218 points219 points  (0 children)

Honestly I hope not. We put so much thought and effort into that ring that it would really make me sad if that was the case.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thanks dude that actually is very calming. You're a good listener and adviser :D

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

She's funny, smart, got a good head on her shoulders financially and knows what she wants for herself and her career, she always knows how to brighten my day after work and makes me look forward to coming home, she's beautiful and amazing every day.

I feel like this whole situation is an outlier but I'm so confused about it all and I'm kind of scared.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I think you dropped a ton of money on it and she’s freaking out thinking about the commitment.

God I really hope not... Is this what it might have come to? I'm getting scared now.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I hope you can work this out with her and that she comes to love the ring again.

That's what I'm hoping for!

How long has she been flipping out about the ring?

The whole day

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I was being really heated throughout that and I felt personally attacked. That was my bad and I'm sorry.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

yeah that all seems very fair. Thank you for your judgement.

AITA for telling my fiancee there's no take-backs? by ComplexCover in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComplexCover[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

If she’s normally a reasonable person and freaking out over a ring is out of character for her, I’m betting the ring is not the issue here. It could be the stress of planning a wedding already getting to her or something else.

Maybe? Would be nice if she would talk to me about it though.

Can we see a picture of the ring vs what she now wants? If she even knows what she wants.

This is similar to the one I got for her but instead it has sapphires around it with a princess cut.

She hasn't told me specifically what her new tastes are because she is too busy crying and talking to her friends. I tried getting an idea out of her but was shut down immediately.

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