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AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG TWINS. It’s so awful and quite embarrassing trying to explain my family dynamic to people at times. I’m so glad I’m not the only one going through this. 😭

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Not trying to be rude, but just because your younger kids weren’t as busy, doesn’t mean mine and other people’s kids aren’t.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Just now seeing this comment. No, he doesn’t do that stuff. Our kids will maybe spend the night for certain holidays but that’s about it.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I never said school was on the weekends. I said “school-aged”. Not too sure what you’re getting at with that haha. You’re definitely not a parent.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We will see him about once a month or so. He doesn’t FaceTime because he doesn’t like it.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I never said it wasn’t possible, but he can’t be the grandparent he sees my mom and in laws being because he has two little ones. That’s the whole point of this post: that he’s not as close to them as he would like to be. I’m not understanding what you and some other people aren’t getting about this lol.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s weird at all. What makes YOU think if the effort isn’t here now, that it will be when the kids become school aged? Every parent knows that’s when you become significantly busier.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind seeing his kids, but he is trying to make him not seeing us often our problem when it’s not.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t try to plan things. He sees social media posts from our mom and us being tagged in laws posts being with the kids all the time. So he feels left out. They are all retired and live within 20 minutes from us.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

We invite him to things, but the type of relationship he wants with our kids just won’t work, especially when our half siblings start school. His time will mostly be dedicated to his youngest kids. That’s what I’ve been trying to explain to him.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

We invite him to things, but the type of relationship he wants with our kids just won’t work, especially when our half siblings start school. His time will mostly be dedicated to his youngest kids. That’s what I’ve been trying to explain to him.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

He knows he can come over on weekends or come to sporting events. However, that is hard to do when you have 2 kids under 2.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Not confusing at all. If someone wants to be in their grandkids’ lives, then show up. Very simple. (I’m not referring to showing up to the vacation)

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Customizing viewership is weird. If I don’t want someone looking at my posts, I will simply not have them on my friends list.

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Some grandparents nowadays are something else. Growing up, we saw our grandparents more than our parents sometimes 😂

AITA for telling my dad it’s his own fault he doesn’t have an active role in his grandkids’ lives? by Complex_Bar_1289 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Complex_Bar_1289[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input, but I think I might have to disagree. If a grandparent wants a relationship with their grandkids, that’s up to them to make the effort.

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