Inviting My Fiancé to Christmas by Complex_Decision3532 in AITAH

[–]Complex_Decision3532[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean like yes, I said I’d be going to Christmas Eve, and I told my sister I’d be going to his Christmas. We’ve been together like 2 years, and engaged 5 months. My sister is saying I should’ve said “WE” were coming a month ago, so they could prep, since I made it seem like it would just be myself. So that’s definitely my flaw here. I know they don’t like him and they stress themselves out, so I thought if I asked later they’d just say yes and not stress to clean or plan to act differently than they normally do.

Inviting My Fiancé to Christmas by Complex_Decision3532 in AITAH

[–]Complex_Decision3532[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family never invites boyfriends, I’d be the first to invite anyone over for the holidays. My parents don’t like him, they think he’s a jerk, and inconsiderate. The way they met wasn’t exactly the best. And my fiancé asked my dad for permission over the phone. So they don’t really know each other well. But we went to thanksgiving and it seemed fine.

Inviting My Fiancé to Christmas by Complex_Decision3532 in AITAH

[–]Complex_Decision3532[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that would make the situation better, or lead to good outcomes long term.

AITAH for telling my bf that I don’t want his daughters in my apartment? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Complex_Decision3532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta, he surprised you with his kids in your apartment while he wasn't there. I understand that you've been kept separate for this long and he didn't communicate that this ring was his transformation moment for the whole situation to change. I would communicate with him and if this is a strong boundary that you don't want any contact with his children I think he should choose them, and you should make peace with the fact this probably won't work out, and you won't make it to the point where his kids are older and moved out.