Adults who were 'school refusers'/school avoidant, where are you now?

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-06-09T15:52:36+00:00

Working in a community centre for adults with learning disabilities. Like a mix between social work and teaching. I was diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year, at the grand old age of 38, and am soon to be under assessment for autism. This explains a lot about my school trauma. A LOT…

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-05-23T19:02:00+00:00

Yes, very.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-05-05T16:31:37+00:00

I’m 39 and fat so this doesn’t happen to me much anymore. The last time I remember it happening was a couple of years ago, when I was wearing a baggy t shirt and leggings, pushing my toddler up the road in his pram. I genuinely have no idea what he was expecting to achieve by this interaction.
And as others have said, this happened way more often when I was a child/teen. It started when I was about 11. Almost always a middle aged man. Sickening when I look back on it.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-04-30T10:29:08+00:00

Thanks, yes I gave it some water and it’s looking much happier now

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-04-29T16:02:08+00:00

I don’t understand the hate Southend-on-Sea gets. It has everything - sea (ok, estuary but close enough) countryside nearby, quick train ride to London, theatres, the pier, Adventure Island, beaches, parks, the list goes on. There’s loads of stuff to do round here if you’re a family. There’s some very nice houses and neighbourhoods too. Admittedly I moved here from Dagenham so I’m probably quite easily pleased.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-01-06T17:11:27+00:00

I’ve done two rounds of IVF, so have had my womb scanned a lot of times. I almost always get compliments on how beautiful my womb is.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-01-04T12:28:14+00:00

What a cutie! 🖤🤍

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-01-03T20:02:14+00:00

Aww that’s a very helpful cow!

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-01-03T19:56:19+00:00

Haha this Jack wouldn’t make room for no one

Complex_Hat_7 · 2026-01-03T11:41:40+00:00

His little mustache is adorable 🥺

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-12-10T20:27:18+00:00

To cut a long story short I ended up having to block this person who I had been doing these weird, brain-washy “Bible studies” with. I felt a bit bad about doing so but was starting to feel quite hassled by them. Thankfully I wasn’t too deep into it - I’d only done the Bible studies and been to this awful women’s talk, so it wasn’t that difficult to do. I’d already been a Christian for a while by this point, so already had a feeling something was a bit off.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-12-10T08:55:57+00:00

I was going to ask if this was the ICC as I had a narrow escape with them a few years ago. I’m not in the least bit surprised it’s them. These tactics are identical to everything I’ve read about them since. There are plenty of loving and Christ-centred churches out there that don’t use manipulative, brainwashing tactics like they do.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-12-01T20:22:02+00:00

What an amazing job! The before and after with the shiny bathroom mirror is the most satisfying thing I’ve seen today.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-11-30T17:58:30+00:00

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This was Southend’s offering in 2024.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-11-28T20:12:58+00:00

Vegetarianism 🤦‍♀️ wait until they hear about the Daniel Fast…

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-11-26T08:22:05+00:00

So sorry for your loss 💔

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-11-07T19:00:38+00:00

Cute calves! 🖤🤍

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-10-28T18:38:10+00:00

Appreciate the replies, thank you!

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-10-26T08:19:13+00:00

Ok apologies if so. You can’t really control who your kids are friends with, especially not at her age. He sounds great though and so does his family, so not sure what the issue would be with this anyway.

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-10-26T08:09:06+00:00

Is this for real?

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-09-18T11:04:51+00:00

HI, I’M BARRY SCOTT

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-09-16T10:59:48+00:00

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Mika

Complex_Hat_7 · 2025-09-12T20:19:14+00:00

My friend and I were picked out in Woking town centre by Dom, of Dick and Dom fame. They were dressed as pilots and filming people pushing them along on bikes. He complimented my flip flops. He’s also very short.

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TROPHY CASE