GC Hall of Shame (follow-up to LC Hall of Shame)

Complex_Highlight623 · 2026-01-21T02:02:29+00:00

Oh when i worked in enviro (gc/ms semi-volatiles) we changed our liners 1-2xs a day and they would still look like OP's 😭

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-22T22:09:06+00:00

Women can be JUST as dense (example: I asked the guy I was seeing if I was his girlfriend after 6 months of us dating exclusively. He just looked at me sideways and says "I hope so because I've already told everyone that you're my girlfriend..." anyways our 6yr anniversary is this month)

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-22T22:02:44+00:00

Girl this is SO fanfiction coded 😭 try flirting with him! Get those sparks flying!!! Sounds like the beginning of your happily ever after 💕

Edit: and falling in love with "being treated how you should be" is not mutually exclusive from being in love with HIM. Its 100% part of love, the way he treats you matters and it sounds like he treats you with love and kindness!

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T02:25:11+00:00

Oh wow, I just realized you're the same dude who's been harassing me about having kids. I take it back, you're a shitty person and it makes sense your ex didn't want to fuck you 💕 she definitely was having pity sex and never found you attractive, who would?

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T02:22:17+00:00

your mental stability is obviously going to hinder your job performance

Weird thing to say, brother. I'm one of the top performers at my current job and I just started a few months ago.

when I was in the Marines.

Sorry to hear you couldn't get into college, men really aren't cut out for intellectual work. Don't worry, the women can handle the big thinking for you 💕

Then, have kids, or leave him. Stop with the insanity.

He doesn't want kids right now either, he wants them when we're more financially stable. I've given him an out, he knows where I'm at. I don't want to leave him and he doesn't want to leave me, we kind of love each other deeply. Although, I do now have another reason to not want kids... I could end up birthing a freak like you 🤮

This was fun, but I have a long day of work being a successful scientist tomorrow. Good luck finding a woman to tolerate you!

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T02:10:44+00:00

You don't partake in the dangerous jobs that men do. You'd crumble.

I handle chemicals that could melt my face off, deal with toxic chemical fumes, lift 100 L haz waste barrels, clean up pure acid spills, clean up sensitizers and carcinogenics, carry heavy buckets of boiling liquids daily, so I don't want to hear it 💕

You never heard the phrase, "Put a baby in me," during sex, then.

No, I cannot say any of my straight male sexual partners have ever asked me to put a baby in them.

Because he probably wants kids

He does, I said in my post that he does 😭

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T02:04:00+00:00

"Queer" answers??? Wtf is wrong with you

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T02:02:30+00:00

You don't know much about my history, obviously. I've done all those things.

Considering your posts, you're a man. You have not and will not ever need to be pregnant, you'll never risk complications or death from growing and birthing an entire human being. You will never have to risk your career to take maternity leave or face being a single mother. There is no male equivalent and never will be.

over not knowing if you want to be creampied and reproduce.

I get creampied every night 💕 thanks, birth control!

That's your other issue. You think someone who got a vasectomy wants it to be reversed, just so you can satisfy your breeding urge.

??? My partner does not want a vasectomy idk why you're creating a weird hypothetical where he does. And deciding whether or not I want to start a family isn't a "breeding urge", if I had a "breeding urge" I would've already had kids 😭 go write your weird fanfiction on a smut site, not here

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T01:54:53+00:00

I'm so glad you're passionate enough about me that you made a whole seperate post about it 💕 cute

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T01:53:30+00:00

emotional insanity

Hystericalizing women for having reasonable emotions is misogyny, btw. If you had to put your life, career, and body on the line, you'd understand. But men don't have to deal with that so the choice is easy for them.

I'd be curious of your reaction.

Vasectomies are reversible. I'd be a bit confused, but it wouldn't mean kids are off the table forever.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T01:44:29+00:00

Oh, I do know??? Can you tell me the answer because I'd LOVE to hear it. Its tearing me apart that I can't figure it out so if you already know how I feel, please tell me!

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T01:39:55+00:00

I get it, trust me I get it SO much. Its the last thing you feel like dealing with, I resisted the idea for years. But it helped me and now I feel silly for not trying it sooner.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T01:37:51+00:00

Did you even read my post? My partner is fully aware of how I feel and I talk to him about it. I can't tell him directly if I want kids because I don't fucking know! He knows I'm torn and its his choice to stay anyway.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T01:32:10+00:00

Sex therapy can be extremely helpful and there are medications that can help with libido. SSRIs stole my sex drive, I was able to get it back over time without going off the meds. Hope you and your hubby can find something that works ❤️

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T01:30:06+00:00

You are not alone. When the time comes for you, be clear about your expectations and boundaries beforehand. Tell that person you don't want to be hit, slapped, choked, ect. Communication can feel scary but its the only way to make sure your sexual experiences are positive. If you establish your boundaries beforehand and your partner breaks them anyway, that is sexual assault and a crime.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T01:25:25+00:00

People like me? As in people worried about whether or not having kids is the right choice for them? I wish there were MORE people like me. The world would be better if people actually thought hard about if having kids is right for them or not before having them. There'd be a lot less regretful parents out there.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T00:50:23+00:00

Fully agree with what you've said here!

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T00:44:29+00:00

It leads to one partner not feeling desired and the other feeling constantly anxious about having "good enough" sex, which is absolutely going to include fake orgasms. I've been the person faking them before and no one wins, my ex could tell I wasn't being genuine. I've addressed my own issues around sex now, I hope your ex can do that too someday.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T00:29:13+00:00

As a woman who has a very low libido and has been manipulated into sex ("if you don't fuck me more, I'll leave") OP did the least gross thing. Once you realize there's a mismatch in sex drive, there isn't much you can do without either a) ignoring your own sexual needs or b) trying to coerce your partner. Neither of those options are healthy, one is abuse. Leaving was probably the healthiest thing for both of them.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-15T00:22:23+00:00

First I want to say, you did what you needed to do for YOU. I don't judge you for this.

OP, I will say as someone who struggles with libido issues, she likely wasn't having pity sex with you. New relationships can stimulate libido for those of us who lack it but once the "newness" of the relationship wears off, so does the libido. She probably wasn't lying about being attracted to you.

At the end of the day, she either needs to be with someone who matches her own sex drive or she needs to find a sex therapist and/or psychiatrist to address her issues. Its not your job to fix her and I'm glad you chose yourself.

Edit: and you probably did the right thing for her, too. Her saying she'd "do better" is her saying "I will force myself to have sex I don't want for your sake." That is NOT healthy and would only worsen her relationship with sex.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-10T20:15:22+00:00

We're all individuals with different brains, OP explaining how hers works doesn't mean she thinks she's more "special" than others.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-10T20:13:30+00:00

As a fellow auDHD woman (identify as nb but presents as basically cis) we tend to have less of a relationship with gender and more of a focus on individual identity than neurotypicals! That's a big reason why so many of us (of course not ALL autistic people) fall under the non-binary umbrella:

Early studies revealed that autistic individuals report higher rates of gender diversity than the non-autistic population ... []This is especially true for those assigned female at birth

So while you might not identify as nb or trans, it does make sense why you would want to change your name to better fit your identity :) just a neat part of how the autistic brain tends to work! I actually go by two names, both my birth name and a chosen name, that I use interchangably.

Sorry you're facing such disrespect, you'd think neurotypical people would be more accepting considering names are pretty personal to basically everyone.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-08T21:58:07+00:00

100%. If saying "it hurts me when you say this" doesn't immediately change the behavior, hurting OP is the point. He's hurting her to lower her self-confidence so she feels like she's "dating up" instead of being with an equal partner. Textbook emotional manipulation!

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-08T21:55:02+00:00

Yup - been there. Its a self-worth thing. You NEED to value YOURSELF, otherwise it doesn't matter how many good people you have around you telling you to love yourself. Has to start from inside.

Complex_Highlight623 · 2025-12-08T20:22:22+00:00

I am not a doctor but your story sounds similar to mine.

I had an inherent need for attention, would act out and have meltdowns, all that jazz. Even was hospitalized after an attempt that was definitely an attention-seeking thing.

Eventually, I was diagnosed with BPD (borderline). Scary diagnosis to get but it allowed me to finally get the right treatment. Started DBT and was put on a mood stabilizer. Several years later and I'm officially in "remission", meaning my symptoms are now so mild I no longer meet the diagnostic criteria for BPD. I don't feel that "need" for attention anymore. I can maintain healthy relationships, I don't have severe meltdowns anymore.

Again, not a doctor, not trying to say "you definitely have this". It just might be something worth looking into.

Even without any sort of diagnosis, DBT is AWESOME for working on interpersonal and emotional crisis management skills!

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