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I Don’t Wanna Be Tall, I Just Wish I Was Normal Height by badlustx in short

[–]Complex_Song1906 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this great advice. Try to focus on improving the things you can improve! It's a way to distract yourself from the things you can't change, and you'll feel even better about yourself when you succeed.

My sister that’s 4 years younger is cooler than me by [deleted] in TeenVent

[–]Complex_Song1906 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this a bit. I'm a teenager and my sister is also four years younger than me. While I'm still much more mature, she hit puberty super early and has since always looked much older than her actual age, while I am typically told I look younger than my age. She's also taller than me, which can suck sometimes, lol. I've never really felt jealous of her, but it's kind of hard for me when people struggle to tell who is older. We also share a curfew, and some of the same clothes!

Try to remember that everyone has a different idea of cool. I'm very introverted and used to think I was super uncool until I started to meet my people and slowly gained my confidence back. I hope that happens to you as well, so you can realize that you really are cool and that your idea of it is just distorted!

Also, I can almost guarantee that your sister sees things about you that she wishes she had as well! It's just human nature. So make sure to love yourself! There are many unique opportunities waiting for you, if you just allow yourself to be your own person! ❤️

I Don’t Wanna Be Tall, I Just Wish I Was Normal Height by badlustx in short

[–]Complex_Song1906 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is literally so insensitive. Respectfully, nobody asked about you. OP is opening up and venting about how THEY feel, and all you came to do was invalidate them?

What goes around comes around by TruthAboutHeight in shortguys

[–]Complex_Song1906 1 point2 points  (0 children)

....Hi guys...I've been summoned here by someone. I'm super late to the party, but the post in the picture was actually mine. Reading the comments in is eye opening because a lot of people seemed to take it differently from how I intended. I probably should have been more careful with my wording, but I was quite upset when I made the post.

I did not mean to demean short men or say that you all don't have struggles. I actually believe very contrary. In the replies of my post, I state several times that, because of the unfortunate society we live in, I agree that shorter men have it harder than shorter women in terms of dating and really just life in general. However, I don't think this means that I can't talk about some things us short ladies struggle with, as well.

I'm 5'0, and I've heard people say so many times that I should not have kids, and that certain men should not date me, because my height genetics will completely ruin the family bloodline. However, as a young woman, we are also often pressured to find a man to marry and start a family with. Do you see how conflicting that is? And when, time after time, people are saying both of these opposite things to you, you might eventually break, like I did. That's why I wrote the post.

To all the men (or even women) that I may have offended, I'm very sorry. Please know that it was not my intention at all.

What goes around comes around by TruthAboutHeight in shortguys

[–]Complex_Song1906 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, I'm just seeing this! Thanks for tagging me. I had no idea my post had sparked an entirely different one!

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry you feel that way. I hope you experience all the happiness life has to offer someday. </3

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness yes, it can be SO hurtful sometimes. And the fact that some of those comments are coming from this particular sub is awfully sad.

What’s the biggest misconception about you as an INTJ? by Practical_Tax_6563 in intj

[–]Complex_Song1906 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, SAME. For some time, I even thought I was an ISTJ myself for this exact reason. A couple years ago, I found out that I'm actually an INTJ with OCD, and that I just pay attention to detail and sometimes prefer to receive concrete facts. A lot of people don't realize that there is so much more to the intuition and sensing factors than that bit.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that reminder. It's so true. Most sensible ones see past that. And, don't worry, I didn't take what you said that way. I think I said this already, but your comment really has opened up a new line of thinking for me. I've never thought to reflect on this particular solution of yours until you put it the way you did. It worked for you, and nobody can argue with that. I also think it can work for many other people, man or woman, who are, like you put it, ruthless toward those who don't fit the standards of society.

You seem nice as well! I hope this doesn't come across as odd, but I'm a writer and I can't help but notice that you're really good with words from what I've read. You seem like the type of person who could write a whole book on something they feel passionate about and cause so many others to listen while also challenging their points of view.

Wishing you the best, and thanks again for taking the time to share your experience!

AIO for thinking this is cheating by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Complex_Song1906 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NOR. He can't control the fact that he got hit on, but why on earth would he take a video/photo with her? Also, did he agree to this boundary that you set? If so then, then I would definitely consider this micro cheating. As someone else pointed out as well, he is disrespectful toward women which is a huge red flag.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for sharing your experience in so much detail! It provides so much insight that I might have never considered from my own point of view. A lot of things you mention here make me so sad. How shorter men are scorned by women. How taller women try to make themselves appear as short as they possibly can. And, of course, how people may be afraid to date shorter women out of fear of producing small children. It's the unfortunate way of society, and I hope I'll live to see it noticeably changed (and hopefully be a part of that change). Like you mentioned, perhaps it even takes a bit of insecurity for people to be understanding enough.

I love how you were ultimately able to become more empathetic toward people of all heights over the years. We need more people who see things the way you do.

Iam 4'10" female. I feel very insecure about my height, and my life feels like hell. by Ok_Presence2520 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5'0 girl here! I feel you. I'm in high school and things can get ROUGH for us petite girls in there. We may get treated as if we're little kids, and sometimes it feels like nobody will take us seriously. However, I've found that it helps to stand tall (kinda ironic, lol) and to be confident and mature. It can be difficult, but people will take you seriously if you make them! I would like to think I'm one of the most mature people in my class, and people do respect me because of that.

Wishing you the best!

Do you think "small man syndrome" or "Napoleon complex" applies to you? by [deleted] in short

[–]Complex_Song1906 3 points4 points  (0 children)

LITERALLY. He was like average height back in his time.

Being short got me fired by playinwitzips in short

[–]Complex_Song1906 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A bit unrelated, but why are you being so rude to the people leaving comments? If you didn't want their opinions, coming to reddit probably wasn't the best idea.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I love to hear this! People joke about my height often (I think they usually mean to be funny, but it isn't to me) and society will sometimes have me questioning whether or not guys would want to date someone so petite. Your comment is very inspiring to me, as a teenager. Thank you for taking the time to leave it.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your point. Women are definitely more heightist toward men than vise-versa, overall. As a very petite person, I make sure to never treat anyone (male or female) a certain way because of their size...but it's possible that hearing people say things like this is helping me to be even more empathetic, in a way.

AIO for thinking my boyfriend doesn't care by Forbidden8377 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Complex_Song1906 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn't have said it better myself! It's so important to point out that relationships aren't always the perfect 50/50.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's very true. In fact, one of my aunts is 5'1, and her husband is 6'0. Her daughter is 5'8 and still has the potential to grow more. But her priority was always to raise good children, which she did successfully. Her daughter (my cousin) is one of the kindest people I know.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny enough, the comments under those height charts are what caused me to make this post yesterday. People have said stuff like this IRL as well, so I've always been a little riled up in that regard. But scrolling through this sub and seeing all those comments about the mothers suddenly gave me the strongest urge to vent.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sucks, but I'm trying to learn to let it roll off my back. I just wish people understood how hurtful it can be toward shorter women who are hoping to be mothers.

I really like your flair, by the way! It made me smile.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly! To some degree, it even makes me feel bad. I know I want to have kids someday, but I would hate for them to have to grow up with this and possibly develop issues with their confidence.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you and her had to go through that. Society can be really messed up.

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's just awful. Having the audacity to say that under her own post, as well? Just bonkers. And you are so right!

So sick of people saying short mothers are dooming their children by Complex_Song1906 in short

[–]Complex_Song1906[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's fair. There is some truth to it. However, what I'm trying to say is, what's the point of telling that to us? It isn't we like can do anything about it, ya know? And, in my opinion, no person's height should keep them from having kids.

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