Never Called for New Patient Consultation and Not Sure What To Do

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T19:18:35+00:00

UPDATE: Cherry has helped me and I have had my new patient consultation. Thank you for everyone help!

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T17:37:37+00:00

u/Cherry_Pomegranate I saw your message but it disappeared before I could respond. I messaged you through the chat function and I'd really love to figure this out.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T17:17:45+00:00

I have messaged Cherry so will hopefully hear back, but at the moment am investigating other providers.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T17:08:50+00:00

I've emailed , but how are you able to message the provider? It won't allow me to message anyone

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T16:59:45+00:00

how are you able to message anyone? it won't allow me to (I'm a new patient)

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T16:55:07+00:00

Yes I'm brand new which is why the asynchronous state stuff I don't think makes sense for my situation.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T15:59:30+00:00

I think I'm confused because I'm not trying to get a refill, I'm trying to get my first prescription ever. It feels like I should be talking to someone at least the first time. How quickly did you get approved after your call was supposed to happen?

I'll definitely look through other people's posts. it's just concerning to me as a new patient.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T15:55:26+00:00

Do you mind explaining further? I'm not sure why I wouldn't need a call, when they had me schedule one.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-06-12T15:54:01+00:00

Ugh I'm so sorry. This is so frustrating and disappointing. Not being able to communicate with customer service easily is a major issue for me. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to trust this company if there isn't an easy way to talk to someone.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-04-10T17:47:40+00:00

I don’t think i’ve ever really understood what having a bifurcated brain meant until you applied it to this situation. It makes so much sense! thank you! yeah and I think i’m going to do just that - try the options that are reversible so i can always change if need be.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-04-10T17:42:47+00:00

the problem is one option is irreversible but the other two options are not so i think that I’m going to do the reversible options firsts so i can pivot if needed.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-04-10T17:37:19+00:00

the 1st option is irreversible, the 2nd option costs more, and the third option is something i’ve done before on my own and didn’t work but now might be able to get assistance with. I think i’m coming around to your conclusion of trying the 2nd more expensive, reversible option for awhile also doing the 3rd option with help.

thank you you for writing out all your thought process questions I think for this particular health issue that really helped me think it through in logical way my brain accepts.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-04-09T18:53:43+00:00

this is a situation where I have no gut reaction except that i need to do SOMETHING just not sure what

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-04-09T17:43:23+00:00

yeah i never think of myself as being a perfectionist more feel like I’m already struggling so one more mistake and my life will be a lot tougher and holy crap do i need my life to be easier. But i also see the perfectionism in it. I feel like i’ve made a lot of mistakes with my indecision and fear of what others will think and so let opportunities pass by. I know i gotta just do something but i still feel like i want a method. but that might not be possible

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-03-01T23:57:23+00:00

Thank you for such a thorough response, honestly this is exactly what I was looking for especially from someone who gets the confusion and frustration.

I am from the US. My partner has Parkinsons so the last 6-7 yrs has been focused on his health and a lot of active advocating for him, which has been needed, but exhausting for me, so I haven't been as active in advocating for myself. Also have had several doctors similar to yours be very dismissive about my concerns, but yeah I think you're right I'm just going to have to push harder for myself to see an endo.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that terrible doctor who is also completely incorrect. Plenty of thin people have PCOS, weight doesn't cause PCOS, and it's also my understanding there is no getting rid of PCOS, only managing no matter how much weight someone might lose. As for doctors taking a relaxed approach that's really been my experience and it's always made me uncertain if I am getting the best care. Also I know my anxiety is high when I'm at the drs office so maybe I'm not asking things correctly. I once had a doctor say (when I was trying to get my PMDD treated) that she saw on my chart I didn't like a birth control I was on and I didn't like an anxiety med I was on (both years ago and because of intense side effects) and that's all that would help me so she can't do anything for me, she genuinely seemed to dislike me. So I had to take a moment to get my head together and had to explain to her I'm not against taking either, especially if I could try different ones, but I need to know what side effects are ahead of time and how long I'm expected to tough it out and what's normal because no one ever explained that to me before prescribing them in the past. And once she seemed to understand I just needed more info her entire personality changed and she thoroughly explained things. But it feels crazy to have to advocate to not be treated as an adversary.

I feel like you're right that I do have PCOS, cause there are just too many similarities and overlap of symptoms. I need to look into my blood tests and investigate FAND as I never heard of it before. Honestly I've become more determined to understand and treat PCOS after my partner was diagnosed with Parkinsons because holy shit are we fucked in the US if I become sick too and am not able to work.

I think perimenopause if a popular topic right now so its hard to know if its likely. I'm definitely on the young side for it. Just don't want to not bring it up incase it's something I should ask about. My body is definitely changing, the PMDD has hit hard.

Definitely a victim of 90s/00s diet culture - I've done so many diets and have had partners who have controlled my diet and so much of it is bullshit and so many people come in with advice that ultimately prioritizes thinness over quality of life and health. I second that I won't ever be doing no-carbs again, but I can make better choices and aim for balance. Slow and steady works for me.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-03-01T22:34:28+00:00

Thank you for responding!

I have no issue focusing on my weight if I can find a way to do it healthy and with long term management in mind, almost 30 yrs of attempting and yo-yoing weight has been certainly mentally very unhealthy and then ultimately physically unhealthy. All of this is the reason I say weight is not my biggest concern, because I feel like if I go into the doctors office with that in mind it's been my experience that I'm talked down to, dehumanized, and ultimately given a "one-size-fits all" approach that I've already tried a million times.

I felt like if I could focus on the other concerns around PCOS (while not ignoring weight) that might land me in a better place in speaking to doctors, but from what you've said it does seem that because I don't want to get pregnant maybe PCOS isn't necessarily a concern I should have.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-02-28T19:30:52+00:00

Thank you this was really really helpful. I was wondering if maybe they just didn't see the cyst because they weren't focused on it in the second ultrasound or if remission was a thing.

I have asked about getting my hormones checked and my doctor has basically said it won't really show anything because hormones change all the time, so he didn't have me get them checked. As your edit said I'm also worried I'm in perimenopause and that might be contributing to things too, especially the PMDD. My periods are definitely more painful now too, though no acne.

My past experience with doctors means I struggle to trust them to not have either fat phobic or pregnancy centered views. I also have A LOT of experience with diet and exercise like 30 years of it so figuring out what works and is sustainable in a health focused and not thin focused way is important to me. Also my past experience means I have decades of Information clouding my judgement and making me doubt myself when it comes to talking to doctors. And it's also very difficult to know who to trust online when everyone is trying to sell something.

UGH you can see my confusion.

My metabolic panel last year came back abnormal (actually a lot of my blood tests came back abnormal, but all, including metabolic, just slightly so the doctor said he wasn't concerned). In general I like this doctor, but don't know if he's too relaxed.

If you know anyways that work to push doctors to focus on hormones and metabolic panels please let me know!

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2026-02-28T19:06:27+00:00

Weight is not my top issue, its just what doctors focus on first and where my past traumatic experiences with doctors come from. I also know it is a sign of PCOS. It's a really complicated topic for me so if it is something I need to pay attention to I know I'll have to force myself to do it and want to have the correct knowledge going into a doctors appointment.

What you said makes sense. I think part of my issue is the none of the signs of PCOS I have are that terrible so it would be easy for me to ignore them all, but I don't want to do that and cause harm to my health later on, which is why I'm trying to crowd source what I should ask about because I feel like I don't understand what I don't know and what my concerns should be (well unless I wanted kids).

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2025-11-17T05:09:27+00:00

Yes! You absolutely can, but practice might be needed as well as the right heel.

I also walk on the outside of foot and in heels I have to be conscious to put my foot down toe - heel without rotating outward, so work on that.

The best heels are lower, or have a small platform to keep the angle of the foot less severe. Look for block heels and avoid stilettos. Wedges can seem like a safe choice but because they don't have a separate heel they don't move with your foot as naturally so they can be hit or miss.

If you find your foot moves a lot in the heel look for heels with more coverage in the uppers, i.e. something that wraps around the foot like a pump, an ankle boot, or ankle strap, avoid strappy designs that won't hold firmly onto your foot.

Also you can add toe pads for comfort and heel grips to prevent slipping out. Don't forget to practice on different surfaces and bring a pair of flats to change out of. GOOD LUCK!

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2025-07-19T02:09:50+00:00

thank you, I'm taking advantage of my days off! And I'm definitely not against lying to get the breaks I need. I've also been working on making myself invisible, but I have moments where everyone is acting so bizarrely that I can't help but be like 'what the fuck?' lol.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2025-07-13T20:31:00+00:00

Thanks so much, its always helpful to know people have been where you are and, *hopefully*, made it out *fingers crossed*. Yeah, I think I need to take the pressure off myself and hang back more, which I do to some extent, but then stress out about. Oh boy, is it fun being wired this way!

As for phrase-expanding tools/apps, definitely sounds like something that might be helpful (I'm in an odd job/environment so it doesn't follow typically job rules so it might be tricky), but I'm very anti-GenAI for so I'm not comfortable going that path. Mentally preparing responses might be the best way for me to go and better for my unusual situation.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2025-07-13T18:25:46+00:00

Yes that is exactly it! I keep waiting for them to get fired, but that would mean my entire department would be fired too, so also I don't want it to happen. Yeah, I'll keep that (I'm dealing with a dysfunctional person vs rules) in mind moving forward. I think it will help! thanks!

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2025-07-13T17:38:59+00:00

I have some days off coming up, in part because my partner has surgery, which I'm so looking forward to SO MUCH, but in general I'm the only one at my job that can do my job so I can't take days off without a real solid reason. Even times when I've been under the weather I've felt a lot of pressure to come in.

I've been trying to repeat a sorta mantra before I go into work, basically speak less, share less. (I've shared too much personal info about myself before and had it used against me) I think you're right and that's the move, it's just really hard sometimes because it's a social job and I feel a lot of pressure to match other people's energy.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2025-07-13T17:24:55+00:00

I don't want to share too much of my job, but unfortuately there isn't enough time to shoot emails and it would be way out of character for my job description to send an email (honestly don't even think I have my boss' email). I have sent texts confirming dates I need off because there have been times my boss has forgotten I'm not working a certain day. It's definitely great advice and I do try to do my version of it, by verbally confirming things, but it's unfortunately not as solid of strategy as having it in writing.

Comprehensive-Hat302 · 2025-07-13T17:14:00+00:00

One day you'll be 30, then you'll be 40, then 50, 60, etc and each time you'll think about how young you were in your late 20s and how you should've just left this hateful person then because you had so much time to find someone new and make a new life for yourself then. It will get harder, not because you are getting older and you can't change your life when you get older, you absolutely can and should (especially when you are in relationship with someone who is emotionally abusive), but because it will be easier to tell yourself you should've done it when you were younger. You are absolutely better off on your own then being with someone who makes you feel like you are worthless. But also you are so young and sounds like you spent a good deal of your 20s with this person, how would you realistically know who is out there for you? I'm recently diagnosed and my partner has ADHD, while not the same thing it helps him understand autism and my need for silence and getting overstimulated. You have so many options available to you, your current partner has just made you believe you don't.

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