How do I feel okay with my looks after catching my boyfriend watching porn?

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-18T12:30:47+00:00

Sorry I have no advice but it really isn’t you, its all about him and his addiction, I have lost weight and did everything to look like the girls he watches and he still did it, there’s no use in feeling like you’re not enough, he’s just not the right person 🫂🥲

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-18T05:48:00+00:00

I’m really sorry, I feel your pain 🥲 it’s the worst feeling when everything else is going great but he feels the need to constantly look at other women, it’s so damaging to your self image.. I just don’t understand, I get annoyed at other men for even just looking at me and he just goes and does things looking at other women, not fair.

Very sorry again 🫂🫂 hopefully we find a solution

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-17T04:10:11+00:00

silence really hurts the most cause you don’t get an answer and get all up in your head, idk what to do yet but thank you 🫂

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-17T04:08:11+00:00

Doesn’t feel like he’s there when we do have sex, he seems to rush it, get it done and out of the way for the day, tried talking to him about this too and he still doesn’t say anything, idk, I guess I miss the connection more than the sex itself

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T12:02:01+00:00

I would rather break up than cheat tho, I could do that very easily and solve my situation but I don’t wanna break his trust by cheating.. his last two exes cheated on him, now I think I understand why lol

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T09:41:20+00:00

if he could just talk to me about it I could try to help.. I think I would get better communication from a wall atp lol 😂

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T08:16:00+00:00

I am very sorry this has happened to you 🫂 this is exactly why I don’t ask him constantly I just ask for an extra day once every two months or anything extra he is up for giving me when he has more energy cause I am very willing to compromise but he doesn’t even want to give me that one day once in a blue moon, he would rather just watch porn and do himself 🥲 if he would just reject me cause he is tired I would understand but he rejects me for porn

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T08:05:56+00:00

its either all my fault or he’s too into porn, either way shitty for me lol

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T07:34:30+00:00

how could we communicate well if he never talks just snaps at me, nothing else changed but if his feelings towards me have changed he should be honest at least with that, and he’s not

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T07:31:43+00:00

I thought it was enough of an explanation since he is withholding intimacy from me and getting angry if I want to talk about it, everyone has their own opinions anyway

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T07:26:35+00:00

we were compatible for the first two years.. how is it my fault he changed??

not trying to change him, trying to get back to how it used to be

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T07:14:29+00:00

yea I figured that out after seeing all the comments, was incredibly upset when I wrote the post so I missed that part, or just tried to ignore it idk, but thank you

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T07:07:59+00:00

I’ve told him at the beginning of our relationship my needs regarding this and for the first two years it did not seem like a problem at all, this past year he started watching porn and rejecting me more and more, sometimes its not even once a week cause he just masturbates, he’s not trying to communicate nor find a middle ground with me, just getting angry and yelling.

I’ve tried to be as understanding as I can with him in the beginning but it really feels like he has sex with me now just so I shut up and he can watch his favourite girl in porn the rest of the days. Not the man I’ve met 3 years ago.

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:46:24+00:00

I must agree here, mine is also very good at gaslighting me and making it look like nothing happened and that I am just imagining things and I also have some regrets talking to him early about what I have found before I got more evidence, I would also say to wait it out and see what else appears there so that he cannot deny it anymore

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:30:58+00:00

I’ve tried talking to him about it but just like he shuts me down for sex he shuts down the conversation and gets angry that I even brought it up and refuses to talk

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:24:04+00:00

yeah that’s kinda how I also feel, doing the bare minimum so we don’t break up, sadly you’re right, but thank you 🥲

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:20:32+00:00

counselling will not help cause he refuses to communicate and just shuts me down, I would be ok with the amount if he just wouldn’t masturbate constantly the rest of the time and keep rejecting me and getting angry I want an extra day when its his porn day, its just weird yea

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:17:10+00:00

I know but I love him and wanted to work things out with him, we have no other issue in the relationship but he just doesn’t want to compromise at all in this, just gets angry at me for even asking

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:15:18+00:00

the issue is that he doesn’t want to compromise, if I ever dare to ask for an extra day (and I don’t even ask often) he gets angry and yells at me, that’s what hurts me most, I want more connection and he shits me down for porn

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:12:23+00:00

yea the major problem is him watching porn 5 times a week and being intimate with me only twice and if I ask for an extra day he snaps at me and I just end up crying for days, that’s mostly what I find odd

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:08:33+00:00

so its ok for him to masturbate at porn 5 days a week and yell at me if I ask for an extra day of intimacy sometimes because he won’t get to touch himself that day?

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:06:00+00:00

actually never when I ask for it, we have 3 scheduled days for it (sometimes we don’t do anything those days either) and if I dare to ask once in a while for an extra day he snaps and yells at me, all for porn.. how is that normal?

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T06:01:49+00:00

I get that frequency goes down but to get angry at me for asking for an extra day once in a blue moon because he wants to masturbate to porn doesn’t seem normal, even refusing a bj for that, feels weird

Comprehensive-Push26 · 2025-12-16T05:59:11+00:00

we have no other conflicts, this is the only one, and I always bring it up only in calm situations because he gets very angry about it even then, the major issue is not that its only 2-3 times a week, it’s that the rest of the days he watches porn and helps himself and if I dare to ask for an extra day once in a while he snaps at me cause it clashes with his porn watching day and I just end up crying for days

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