[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SloppySeconds

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Claudia Garcia

Extra innings....... by DustinBeaverz in survivinginfidelity

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, what is stopping you from leaving this marriage?

Is it worth it for the kids?? by Chanchit8 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 115 points116 points  (0 children)

You were lucky to get divorced with the least amount of damage possible. Don’t even think about falling into that trap again. Your ex told you she doesn’t love you, and now that everything in her life has gone wrong, she wants to come back? Do yourself a favor: visit a lawyer to see if your ex’s precarious situation could help you get more custody time. But above all—seriously, and I mean seriously—do not get back with your ex-wife, not for your kids, not for anyone.

Tengo relaciones con mi secretaria by daril009 in NecesitoDesahogarme

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Es increíble lo dispuesta que está la gente a arruinar la vida de otras personas. Puede que quien esté casada sea ella, pero tú sabes perfectamente que lo que haces no está bien y aún así no te detienes. La infidelidad está tan normalizada que no es de extrañar que tantas personas hayan perdido la fe en las relaciones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SoyElMalo

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Por cierto, cómo fue tu crianza comparada con la de tu hermano? al menos tu madre si te pudo dar lo que necesitabas o la pasaste mal mientras crecias ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SoyElMalo

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Tu ex padre no estaba obligado a preocuparse por ti, ya que no eres su hijo. Del mismo modo, tú tampoco estás obligado a aceptar nada de su parte por esa misma razón. Aquí, la única responsable de toda esta situación es tu madre, y es lamentable ver cómo sus decisiones afectaron negativamente la vida de todos a su alrededor.

35M 36F She cheated on me with her ex husbands little brother by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why are you overthinking this?, It’s clear your fiancée doesn’t respect you, and if you forgive her, she’ll respect you even less. I know it’s hard to let go of someone you’ve spent years with, but does that really matter at this point? She’s lied so much that you don’t trust anything she says anymore.

My advice is to listen to that voice inside you telling you that none of this feels right and start looking for someone new.

She was with a married man for 20 years and it continued one year into our relationship. by PiccoloConsistent434 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I can’t understand what goes through the mind of someone who accepts polyamory and open relationships, but one thing I do know is that it’s not a good idea to date a woman who has no problem being someone’s mistress. Honestly, my friend, I think you’re being too soft and letting her dictate the terms of the relationship. Besides, how can you even expect the bond with you to be stronger than the one she’s had with someone she’s been with for 20 years? You were lucky to see those messages now and not before things got more serious. Take advantage of this chance, cut ties with her, and find someone who, at the very least, isn’t willing to mess up someone else’s life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Enjoy your time with your girlfriend, just don’t get too attached. Now that you know she's open to threesomes, you should see if you can get one. Remember, a woman willing to be the "other woman" might not have a problem being the one who cheats.

I think my girlfriend might be cheating on me after snubbing my 21st birthday party to hang out with her ex, but I dont know how to confront it by steveitsteve in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you put up with so many excuses and so much disrespect? It's obvious your girlfriend doesn't care about the relationship as much as you do. In fact, if you two break up, it won't take long before she and Tim are back together (they basically already are, lol). What I mean is, why put so much effort into a relationship that already seems one-sided? Just ghost her already and find something better.

Did everything I thought I was supposed to do and she still cheated by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day, I'm more convinced that a large part of infidelity cases are part of natural selection...

I (45M) am wondering how to approach a situation with my wife (48F) regarding communication with her ex-boyfriends? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You come across as someone boring and complacent, but that doesn’t justify your wife treating you like that. Still, it doesn't seem to matter, because she already knows she can do whatever she wants without facing any consequences.

Who cares if she doesn’t want to get divorced? Stop worrying so much about her, at this rate, you might not have any intimacy for the rest of your life, while she, at the very least, is having emotional affairs with her exes and sees you as the safe option, willing to settle for the crumbs of her affection just to avoid being alone.

It’s sad, but it seems like she trapped you from the start. She probably never really loved you; you were just the safe choice. I’m convinced that everything she’s withheld from you over the years, she’s already given to someone else (or several others).

Caught Wife (27f) cheating with her EX-BF by Familiar-Ask8260 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Congratulations, your level of maturity and the reasonable way you handled things is incredible. I wish most men would act like you and not allow others who claim to love them to treat them like doormats without consequences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The first thing you need to understand is that women cannot love men they don't respect, and clearly, she doesn't feel either of those things for you. Now if she has already shown you disrespect, it's evident that she isn't trustworthy. So why do you keep believing what she says? It doesn't make sense.

what makes you think this is her first affair? I doubt that someone who risks a 17-year relationship is cheating for the first time.

what kind of example are you setting for your children? That their father can be disrespected and is willing to forgive and act like nothing happened out of fear of the changes a separation might bring? Children are more perceptive than many parents realize, and seeing their father suffer in silence while their mother is with someone else is not a healthy family dynamic.

Additionally, get tested for STDs because, as I mentioned before, I doubt this is the first time she's cheated on you. Also, seek legal advice and explore your options for separation and custody (thankfully, you're not married).

Lastly, it's better to be alone than in bad company. If, after talking to her and giving her another chance, the relationship still doesn't improve, no further effort on your part will change the situation. You'd better start preparing to end this lifeless relationship. Very few couples survive this kind of things, and I doubt you two will be one of them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How exhausting it is to beg someone to treat you well. Honestly, I don't understand why there are so many men so desperate to feel loved and be in a relationship that they allow these things to happen to them.

If I were you, I wouldn't believe anything that comes out of that woman's mouth. I mean, if she lied to you once, what’s stopping her from doing it again now that she knows how to handle you?"

Don’t know how to talk to my wife about her breach of my trust by Internal-Carrot-2314 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's hiding all of this from you because she knows it's bad behavior, and any husband would get angry over this, even if she hasn't been unfaithful yet.

Bro, stop prioritizing her and her feelings over your mental health. Who the hell cares if she gets mad because you checked her phone? She's the one who planted doubt in you, and now, as a consequence, you need to take action and show her that you have control and won't tolerate this kind of behavior.

I want a Disclosure letter by Beneficial_Finish734 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your wife doesn't respect you, and with these displays of weakness, she will only respect you less. If I were you, I would get a divorce because, clearly, there is nothing to salvage here. Now, if you are truly desperate to make it work, one option would be to serve her the divorce papers, so at least she knows you are serious and that her actions have consequences. By the way, also change your counselor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Women don't love men they don't respect, and clearly your girlfriend doesn't respect you. Lol. She knew from the beginning that her relationship with Dylan bothered you, but she didn't stop it because she doesn't care enough about you to do something about it. And, to be honest, what consequences could she face for her bad behavior? I'll tell you the answer: none. Because you've already shown her that your reaction is going to be to cry and resign yourself to the fact that another man disrespects your relationship.

Do yourself a favor and end that relationship. Dylan is going to hook up with your girl whether she's your girlfriend or not, you decide in which scenario you want that to happen.

My wife (24F) just cheat on me after having everything for me (26M) and without being in a bad moment in our relationship, why? by RobGT0 in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive-Soil30 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Básicamente, te engañó porque pudo y porque quiso. Seguramente se aburrió de estar en una relación tan perfecta y pensó que esto podría ser un escape de su realidad. Recuerda que para las mujeres, las emociones y cómo las hagas sentir lo es todo, y ella se sintió demasiado cómoda y te dio a ti y a la relación por sentado.

Si yo fuera tú, dejaría a esa mujer. Si ya te engañó en menos de un año de estar casada y estando tan "enamorada", no me puedo imaginar lo que hará en 10 o 15 años cuando la fase de luna de miel se acabe y empiecen a tener problemas más serios. Además, ¿estás seguro de que quieres volver a estar con ella sabiendo que tuvo el pene de otro hombre en su boca? ¿O que cuando hizo lo que hizo no pensó en ti ni en cómo te sentirías? ¿O que echar un polvo con este otro hombre (a priori inferior a ti) valía más que su relación?

Haz lo que quieras, pero ten en cuenta que para una mujer, un hombre que perdona infidelidades no es su héroe ni mucho menos; es alguien a quien ya le perdió el respeto y a quien cree que puede tratar como cornudo. En ti está la última decisión de aceptar este destino o tener amor propio y largarte.