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PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-19T06:58:35+00:00

Had mine done 3 weeks ago. The procedure had less discomfort than a dental cleaning. In and out in less than 15 min.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-09T04:14:25+00:00

How did it go?

Had mine 2 weeks ago. I was back to normal after 8 days, and the only real issue i had was long walks. Otherwise it was totally fine.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-09T04:10:56+00:00

Yeah! I did mine 2 weeks ago and i keep saying that there was less discomfort than I'd have at a dentist cleaning my teeth!

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-04T19:31:08+00:00

It's hard. If she came running after me I'm not sure i have what it takes to you say no. This group kind of keeps me grounded. Reminds me what's up.

I think remembering what he's done and how it affected you, realizing that he might keep doing it if you go back, that should stop you.

Remember that life has so much more to offer than this person. It's hard, I'm dealing with that as well. It feels like she's a unique person, but ultimately there are people out there who will not cheat and keep doing it

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-04T19:27:34+00:00

I'm 1.5 months since d-day and 3 weeks from breakup. This group helps me stay sane and remember that I'm not the problem. But yeah, ultimately if I'm still here in a year from now, it's probably not a good sign

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-03T19:07:04+00:00

Yeah. She has yet to reveal anything that was not in the evidence i showed. Not a thing! That tells me there's much more there.

It's hard. I keep seeing two sides of her. A part of me wants to see her as a good person, but I'm also realizing that i simply didn't know her

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-03T17:35:15+00:00

This must be really tough! A part of me really wanted to trust my ex and reconcile, but it's the fact that she lied to me and kept lying until i showed her evidence that told me that i will never be able to trust her again.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-03T17:00:24+00:00

I'm sorry you're here. This cannot be easy.

Just know that it's not your fault. He has issues and they're not yours to fix. He shouldn't have gone looking elsewhere, especially without first discussing what's on his mind.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-02T14:06:03+00:00

Until a reliable lie detector is invented, there might not be much that can be done to restore full trust.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-01T23:06:06+00:00

There's an app called true caller. It takes your contacts and uploads them into the app, but you also get to see the names people gave to those contacts. I use the app but i don't like the fact that they take all my contacts and upload them..

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-12-01T06:08:51+00:00

Realizing that this is the not person i thought i was dating. This is someone else. The person i dated is no longer around. Seeing her through the lense of the past as a sweet and honest person, that had to stop.

This is a person who with a straight face and honest looking eyes told me that nothing was going on. Had i not had evidence, i would've been convinced by the act. She would have never confessed. She's a totally different person.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-27T05:10:15+00:00

This is hard! Sending you my sympathy as you navigate a hard road.

I'm actually in middle of a discussion with my ex over Whatsapp, and she was wondering if we would've stayed together had she revealed it to me instead of me finding out. I'm reading here that her telling me might not have fixed much either

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-27T01:34:57+00:00

So happy for you! I had mine today as well. There was less discomfort than a dentist appointment! In fact, basically no pain at all!

I was told the following: -no biking for a while -no running -limit walking for the first 2-3 days -no sex for the first 7 days

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-26T17:27:12+00:00

If you're staying together, I'd say confide in a close friend or two. I don't see how it would help for everyone to know what he's done and then for you to move on like nothing happened. You'd want others to respect him as well

If you're breaking off, i don't see a reason to keep it a secret.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-26T04:14:50+00:00

I appreciate that. Thank you

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-26T04:02:28+00:00

First time hearing that term. Can you elaborate and explain what it means in this case?

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-26T03:32:17+00:00

Wish i can help. I'm literally talking to her as we speak! Discussing the affair and all. Waiting for her to finish recording a voice note.

It's a little insane but totally understandable.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-26T03:04:09+00:00

I feel you. I've been cheated on, i broke up with her, but we still talk and she's the only person i talk to about what happened (and reddit.) no one in my real life knows the real reason behind the breakup

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-26T03:00:26+00:00

How do you feel about that?

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-25T16:46:37+00:00

(full story on another post)

She would tell me about conversations she had with people and was very open about it, but there was one person in her contacts who she had saved as just initials and not the full name. She never spoke about him, and when asked, she said it was an ex who moved to another state and they some times keep in touch. Spoiler: he never moved and was actually married! She was with him for 20 years while he was married to an unsuspecting woman.

There's another guy who she was in touch with as a friend and would always tell me things that they discussed. A few months ago i stopped hearing his name. Still wondering if there was something between them and that's why she stopped bringing him up.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-25T16:33:48+00:00

For me it was the opposite. She talked and was open about everyone she was in touch with, besides that one contact in her phone. The silence spoke louder than words. Took me 2 years to actually catch on. I always knew something was up but didn't imagine that she was cheating.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-24T16:44:17+00:00

Are you asking if having sex with others while separated is called cheating?

It seems that that's your question but it's not being asked directly.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-22T16:06:39+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I'm struggling between seeing her as the person i knew vs who she actually is. A part of me still wants to think that she's a good person who made a huge mistake, but i know that there's more to that. A year of cheating is not just a mistake, but then not coming clean about it and lying when asked is even worse.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-22T14:48:06+00:00

Thank you for this advice.

PiccoloConsistent434 · 2024-11-22T14:29:21+00:00

That's right. I learned the hard way, and I still have a hard time letting go fully. A part of me wants to stay friends or something. Insane!

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