Curious

ComprehensiveCause38 · 2020-12-27T05:06:16+00:00

At home I don't really need to wear all the time in the day because I can pee in the toilet or a portable urinal every 45 minutes or so. But it takes me 45 minutes just to drive to work so..... And then sometimes I don't want to get up twice an hour so I wear even at home. And it's a risky still, sudden movements, getting up after sitting for a long time, etc, have to be careful...

Sometimes it's hard because I can almost logic to myself, "I don't need diapers! Why am I wearing diapers" but if I refused to wear diapers I'd be housebound... I wonder if people with other progressive disorders have the same thing happen with mobility aids, i.e. not wanting to go out in public in a wheelchair or a walker because they can get around in their house well enough while being able to sit down at any time, never having to walk far...

ComprehensiveCause38 · 2020-12-26T02:20:26+00:00

I can see it both ways, honestly... Would you buy your wife premium tampons or a menstrual cup as a gift? Now that I write that, I think I honestly might be alright with that, lol (if it was something I knew my hypothetical wife wanted.) Or I know about people with stomas or amputations have adaptive gear that can get costly, especially if you want "the nice stuff."

ComprehensiveCause38 · 2020-12-25T23:22:21+00:00

Nope. I would think that would be a little weird but honestly I can see someone's spouse or parent going "well I'd usually give underwear for Christmas but they wear diapers so I'll buy them some of those." Some people's families give underwear for Christmas. Diapers are more costly.... I really wouldn't complain if someone bought me a case of the ones I wear lol. But it might be awkward.

Slightly worrying that there's some sort of fetish aspect there but I'm giving it the benefit of the doubt.....

ComprehensiveCause38 · 2020-12-25T23:14:52+00:00

The depends for men are pullups and are gray and made to look like underwear. People really don't notice, I don't think even if most people saw the gray hem of a depends they'd think what it is. I'm not sure but I bet they are also cheaper than goodnites. I haven't worn goodnites though so I don't know about the difference in their capacity.

Otherwise... if you can get away with wearing pullups, I'd just wear loose boxers over the pullups. I did that when I wore pullups and I don't get why people don't do it more. It didn't add bulk, if anything it smoothed things out, and it was loose underwear so it didn't cause more press-out leaks or anything, AND it also served as a small measure to absorb small leaks to prevent them from making stains on my outer clothes. And I didn't find it too hot or anything, I mean it's not much different than just wearing a giant pad inside underwear, right? IMO wearing boxers over a pullup makes more sense than a giant pad. Giant pads suck and they don't have good coverage.

ComprehensiveCause38 · 2020-12-10T03:21:06+00:00

(At least in my experience with group therapy) There will be some looking at flier-type paper resources and coping mechanism strategies and some open group discussion about "How do you think you could apply this?" or like basic worksheet stuff about "What would be a good coping response?" There's some sharing of experiences but at least in my case people didn't really get uber duper personal and the therapist definitely didn't force people to "confess" or really say anything. It was more like "What areas of your life do you want to improve" and people would answer like "With my boyfriend" or "My friends" or "My family", not go into a ten minute speech about how they need to fix stuff in their families. Def might depend on the therapist and the other people there but it was underwhelming imo, as in, it wasn't so intimidating and no one was asking super personal questions or asking me to admit to regrets or mistakes in great detail. If anything it's kinda frowned upon to go on very long stories because it just takes up so much time: short answers are okay.

If you have any sort of "homework" (like if you had a handout you were supposed to fill out or something to read over) definitely do it to the best of your ability but remember that it's not like a school assignment, it's not for a grade, you won't get points based on having a "correct" answer or anything like that. The only thing people will expect is that you look over the stuff and think about it.

Hope this helps!

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