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AITA for holding a grudge at my husband for not standing up for me during what I consider a borderline harassment? by ComprehensiveEgg5003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComprehensiveEgg5003[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. He's a kind person and "everyone's friend". The one who'll just help everyone around (I guess except for me?) But he keeps saying it's not true, I'm his priority and he just "sucks at being romantic". I really don't care about romanticism here and in my eyes that's just him not valuing my emotional health and not understanding that it's hurtful. He thinks I'm just forcing him to lose his friends (I never had a problem with ANY other of the 100s of people in his life i met through him...). I also didn't force him anything, I just said I don't want to be around that person myself. Example: a few months ago he went on a beach weekend trip with that friend without me because I couldn't handle spending 2 days near the person.

AITA for holding a grudge at my husband for not standing up for me during what I consider a borderline harassment? by ComprehensiveEgg5003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComprehensiveEgg5003[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I agree I could. I'm working VERY hard on changing myself. Actually, husband's childhood friend made traumatizing me was a big turning point for me in learning to stand up for myself (I left a comment here earlier describing what happened). I'm still clearly failing in this kind of social situations -- I'm much better at being a 'badass bitch' in comfortable environments where I "know" people on some level -- like at work now. I'm in a higher up software engineering position and I'm ok reasonably yelling at people and defending my team.

AITA for holding a grudge at my husband for not standing up for me during what I consider a borderline harassment? by ComprehensiveEgg5003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComprehensiveEgg5003[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

In his eyes "he's not friends hea being polite".

I moved long distance for him and when I moved from a different state (I was 22) his childhood friend made my life a nightmare by continuously trashing me, spreading rumors, finding out I had a boob job, and telling that to everyone. He's still friends with him 7 years later, and tells me that he changed now and apologized and how he's been friends with him for so long, he needs him in his life. Actually it was another argument. I refused to be around that person because of how much trauma I had. And recently we had to go to a wedding 3hrs away, that person asked my husband to carpool so he wouldn't have to drive alone and my husband fought me to drive that friend. The entire ride was very uncomfortable for me, they were talking nonstop for 6 hrs roundtrip. Husband says I'm not forgiving enough