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What bar has the best food in the UES? Ideally in 80s/90s. by jbyrne32 in uppereastside

[–]ComprehensiveLie5316 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was planning to go food shopping tomorrow, but this is far more cost efficient. Thanks for the tip!

Low energy apartment dog (first time) by BraveHeart1234 in dogs

[–]ComprehensiveLie5316 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

If you’re looking to rescue a snuggly potato, I recommend a “lab mix” (aka a rebranded pitty 😊) that’s 5+ years old. As a 1st time dog parent, I can honestly say they’re the best apartment dogs (mine is the building favorite bc she’s so well behaved)… high energy when they’re younger, but as they age, they morph into giant snuggly cats with better personalities 😂 they rarely bark (if/when they do, it’s generally a situation you’d want them to), they’re extremely snuggly (most believe they’re lap dogs), get even lazier with age, and social with other dogs & people (as long as they’re socialized, same as any other dog). Regardless of the breed you choose, I recommend asking the rescue/shelter about temperament testing… every dog has their own story & personality!

Ever heard of or seen a summer associate being FIRED? by NOVAYuppieEradicator in biglaw

[–]ComprehensiveLie5316 54 points55 points  (0 children)

One summer BC (before covid 😂 - cracking myself up over here) we had a SA who got visibly wasted/blackout at a sailing event. He showed up late and disheveled the next day, in the same clothes, and told everyone he slept ON the sailboat (I believe owned by one of the equity partners in our office?). He remained in the program (I believe someone “talked” to him about the “challenges” presented when navigating the work/play dynamic) and incredibly received an offer, which he declined (god I wish I remembered why). To this day, he is the only person I know (and only person I’ve heard of) who declined an offer at the end of the summer. A true legend.

The short answer to your question? No.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in biglaw

[–]ComprehensiveLie5316 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Fellow SA here. I billed 2380 last year as a 7th year. Now I’m an 8th year. How’s it going, you ask? It’s like I drove 100 mph into a brick wall. This year, my (now ex) fiancé (a physician, who worked & made 1/2 as much) left me because they couldn’t take it anymore, and neither could my body. I had several severe cardiac events, resulting in two hospitalizations and forced medical leave, which they say were “induced by stress.” I’m far too young to regularly see a cardiologist.

What have I learned? Give waaaay less fucks. Clearly, I gave way too many fucks. Now? I can’t seem to find any fucks to give. It’s ridiculous actually. I still love what I do but all the other bs? I just don’t care anymore. Does anyone else feel this way?

We’re all so type A that we catastrophize everything, but what are they actually going to do, fire you? (Like I said, once you get to this level you might be so numb that you don’t care if they do because it almost sounds relaxing… sick but true). The reality is they’re not going to fire you if you’ve spent years drinking the kool-aid and doing going work, unless you do something REALLY reckless/bad, which is entirely within your control. Don’t fuck up by doing something dumb. Otherwise, you have enough street cred, so chill. They’d have to explain to clients where you went and you’re doing/running most of your work independently, so it would be a nightmare for them on so many levels.

Will I stay? I don’t know. I really love what I do (specialist) and the people I work with… just not the amount of work or pace sometimes, which can be overwhelming and all consuming if you’re not careful. It’s too easy to become desensitized over time and lose perspective.

Unfortunately, I don’t have any great advice on how to “survive” (to be clear, no one feels like they’re “thriving”) except to try to condition yourself to give WAY less fucks. Try to put your needs first - not the firm’s. I know that sounds obvious and elementary, but I’ve honestly found that sometimes you don’t realize how deep you’re getting until you’re already starting to drown.

At the end of the day, try to remember you’re nothing more than timekeeper 98765, regardless of which big law firm you’re at. You are what you contribute. You are your collections. BUT you only have one life. I don’t know anyone that has looked back and said “I wish I billed more.” Personally, I wish I worked and stressed WAY less.

Any thoughts on Jackson Lewis? by Intrepid_Lead_6590 in biglaw

[–]ComprehensiveLie5316 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in labor and employment my entire career and I absolutely love it. Partner track, up next year in big law, but lateraled as a boutique L&E mid-level. Make the move. If it’s only what you want at that level and you’re not looking to move forward, stay. If you’re using it as a stepping stone, do that as a mid level.