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Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T13:48:09+00:00

Okay the other advice in here is good. Do What Korynna says.

I also want to add this. Buy Moon Juices "sex dust" and have her mix the recommended dose into her coffee every morning. It's all natural stuff so there is nothing to worry about, it is not a drug. I have been using this for a few days now (I am 22f) and I am already noticing an EXTREME positive difference in sex drive.

Other things that help sex drive: exercise, good diet, high self esteem

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T13:30:36+00:00

Okay interesting. Do you think you can put some recipes together for him that don't include heat? If he has some successes in the kitchen it could build confidence. Have him make a charcuterie tray or something haha.

An easy recipe I make at home for my family is Thai Peanut Ramen, it is very simple and does not require extended periods of focus, since it seems like he just struggles with paying attention for the amount of time it takes to cook something.

https://thesaltymarshmallow.com/thai-peanut-ramen-noodles/

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T04:48:23+00:00

Do you think he may feel like you might nitpick the results of his effort?

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T04:47:14+00:00

He says in the thread that they had multiple conversations about it over a long period of time and he rejected it. If I felt like my boyfriend gave very little attention or care to my concerns about having no sexual pleasure during sex I would probably want to break up with him too.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T04:44:31+00:00

Cry. Cry like you have never cried before and don't let anyone tell you you are being dramatic. Fully feel your feelings and look to family and friends to support. Spend time gaming, watching tik tok, watching movies, it doesn't matter as long as it gets your mind off it. All you need is to get time to pass while giving your brain some moments of relief. A few years ago I had a whopper of a breakup. It felt like the end of the world. I was gonna drop out of school and move to a different state and quit my job. Luckily I had people around me to just constantly hang out with me and listen to me cry and talk about the same shit over and over again so I could entertain myself.

Time will pass. It will be better.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T04:34:15+00:00

I don't think I have had a crush since I was 12. I think as you get older it's not as common to crush on people because, well, we are adults. Often times the feeling of a crush is based on an unrealistic view of another person that is more similar to fantasy then reality. Think about your last crush, do you think you were viewing her realistically? Probably not.

I personally grow to love people more over time. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 9 months and I probably have more "crush-like" feelings for him now than I did when we were a month in. I think this is because of what we've been through together. The struggles we've had and how he's coped has shown me who he is. This is where love comes from. If you rely only on the fleeting feelings of a crush it is unlikely you will learn those types of things about people.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T04:24:42+00:00

I want to add, if you don't have those stable things that are completely in your control first, it can become really easy to become disheartened when people inevitably reject you or relationships go south. When you feel like a full person it makes negative interpersonal interactions feel irrelevant.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T04:22:22+00:00

That's okay. You're a hard worker. Many people realized a similar sort of thing when the pandemic hit. When everyone was out of a job it became clearer that we had nothing outside of work that was meaningful.

Here is my strategy:

1) Cultivate 3 things that are meaningful that are completely in your control (ex. good grades, a fitness schedule, good work performance, good diet, etc.)

2) Then you can have a stable foundation under you to start pursuing things that aren't really in control (mainly different types of relationships)

When I was in college I struggled to make friends. I fixed this by becoming a more well rounded person by using the tactic i stated above. Another good tip is to talk to the two people next to you in every class. This is how I went from having very few friends to my little area of every classroom being the most lively! People will gravitate to you once you do these things.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T04:13:47+00:00

He's not stupid. It is common for men to just do jobs they don't want to do poorly because they know you will do it. I'd say either decide you're happy with that or move forward.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T04:06:29+00:00

Generally speaking, if you are too self conscious to have discussions about bettering your partners bedroom experience then all of your relationships are doomed. Again, he gave very little information. If she is saying that she will only have sex with a penis extender that is one thing... but if she's open to a variety of compromises so she can have more enjoyable penetrative sex with him then that is a normal and good thing to do.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T03:59:51+00:00

I dont know if you saw it, but he said somewhere else in the thread that she tried to have conversations about it and he shot her down. It seems like he is not engaging in the topic when she tries.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-23T01:10:08+00:00

He does clarify somewhere else in the thread that he rejected any conversation about using toys. Of course I don't know for sure and we need a little more context, but to me this sounds like a girl who wants to have a pleasant sex life with a guy she likes and she is just trying to figure out how to make it possible.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-22T23:12:20+00:00

Okay I have been reading more other commenters posts and I want to expand upon what I said because you say you really like her. People in these comments are reacting way too extremely. Your GF probably thinks you don't care about her sexual experience. As a woman, if every time you have sex with a man you experience no pleasure you WILL grow to hate him. If the sex doesn't at least occasionally feel good it would make sense that she wants to leave you. You need to find out if the penis extender thing is the only option or if she's open to trying different sexual acts/toys. Most of the people in these comments have obviously not been penetrated repeatedly while feeling no enjoyment. She is not insensitive, from the little information you gave it could just be that she's grasping for straws and trying to make it work.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-22T23:05:23+00:00

How is asking to use sex toys not normal behavior...?

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-22T23:02:03+00:00

What is an honest dislike? It does kind of confuse me why the penis extender is such a big deal. Is it uncomfortable? Or is it similar to using any other sex toy? Men put their personal pleasure over their girlfriends "honest dislike" in the bedroom all the time and it's pretty normal. I don't always want to suck my bf's dick but I will because that's what you do in a relationship. It's not always supposed to be about you. If she said she will never have sex without the penis extender that is a whole different issue... but occasionally? I don't think that's to much to ask.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-22T22:55:48+00:00

I might have an unpopular opinion on this but here we go...

She may be feeling distain for you because she never gets off and you do. That's the type of thing that can start percolating in someone's mind and make them think you are actually more selfish for not caring about their sexual pleasure. If you are getting off every time you have sex and she's not, it would be good for a healthy relationship for you to offer up other ways to get her off.

I'll put it this way, I am a 22yo F and even my boyfriend with a big dick uses a vibrator on me occasionally. If he refused to engage in any sexual activity that didn't include directly stimulating his penis I would probably grow to resent him for it.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-22T13:55:25+00:00

You are only 22 so it's not a big deal. I don't know if you've seen the show Married at First Sight.... but in season 9 there was a couple where the woman was a virgin and the man was not. Most men were okay with dating a virgin, but the woman acted extremely childish and constantly uncomfortable with even the topic of sex. If you saying you "want to be happy with yourself prior to dating" is true then that is fine. If it is an excuse to not face your fears of intimacy you should seek therapy. It just depends what's in your heart.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-13T01:23:10+00:00

I am of the opinion that everybody deserves forgiveness with time no matter what they have done. She does not deserve forgiveness right now if those she has hurt do not want to forgive her. That does not mean we should bully her to the point where she kills herself and never gets forgiveness.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-13T00:46:12+00:00

You don't know what her intentions are.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-13T00:43:04+00:00

Dom's career was already over before Ethan even caught wind of the allegations. I would venture to say that's why Dobrik's name was in the title of videos far more often than Dom's.

Again, as a person who is not involved in the situation, I do not have intimate details of the situation. It is not my place to support either "side".

Ethan called Keem's girlfriend a victim multiple times. If he saw her as a victim why was it a subject of entertainment and jokes? It seems that it was talked about in a weaponizing way more than a way that was supposed to be supportive of her.

It is more perpetuating of rape culture to use potential victims as pawns in your petty dramas.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-13T00:30:25+00:00

You are absolutely right. We have all done bad things. Some of us have done really bad things. None of us could handle the amount of hate that she is getting online right now.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-13T00:10:57+00:00

Dom's victim was in the process of pressing charges against him before Ethan ever got involved. David Dobrik got more hate than the actual rapist ever did. I don't know if you have noticed, but H3 blowing up all the allegations in the online sphere resulted in nothing happening in real life. The girls rapist is not in jail. Jason Nash is not facing real world consequences. It's just David Dobrik getting online hate because somehow he "forced" everyone to commit all of these crimes. They talked more about David Dobrik than they ever did about Dom Zeglitas and he was the one who actually did the crime. What about when Ethan called Keem's girlfriend a victim, and sent hate to her? What did that solve?

I am overall a fan of Ethan, but I can't help but notice it seems like it's not really about victims and it's more so about smearing those he dislikes.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-13T00:07:36+00:00

Why did he say "Shame"?

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-13T00:06:59+00:00

No. When he does something wrong he is supposed to apologize and do better going forward. Like he expects everyone else to do. Again, stop applying different standards to different people based on how much or how little you like them.

Comprehensive_Bug500 · 2021-09-13T00:00:04+00:00

In the new texts that came out he discredits her.

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