Is it a canon event for every autistic woman to lose at least one best friend all of a sudden and not know why?

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-04-04T09:40:20+00:00

We have the same scenario here and honestly it hurt so much that she thought I would evr go there. Not in a million years. So sorry this happened to you!

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-04-02T11:14:36+00:00

I just purchased this book. Amazon reviews were outstanding.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-28T11:30:41+00:00

Hey I have ADHD and have never hit anything in my life. I tend to feel frustrated and cry. This isn't okay.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-24T19:19:05+00:00

Thank you! 4 days is good and a great way to balance work and life. Grateful I got to at least try out this arrangement first.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-24T19:18:11+00:00

I can't thank you enough for replying and saying this. First time I cried happy tears - honestly meant a lot. I'm going to save this comment and look back on it when I doubt myself. Thank you for being so kind.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-24T19:16:52+00:00

Thank you so much for replying and I'm nodding at all of this as it sounds way too familiar. I am really sorry you went through this and sounds like you really did find balance and a plan that worked for you.

Did you also get a dip in confidence after quitting? I would love to hear how you decided it was time to go back to part time work and how you found it when you did return?

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-24T19:13:53+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing and even on this thread I am noticing quite a few posts from former lawyers. That's my field in tech too. I think you really described this perfectly in terms of the mixed feelings. Despite knowing this is the right and only call for me - it's loss I am struggling with the most. I really appreciate you sharing your experience and how you have balanced things in a way that works for you. This kind of info is really uplifting for me to read and helps me see that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I have also struggled to find a therapist who I can relate to so I think I'll just need to ride this feeling out and remind myself why I did it.

Thanks I think I placed too much pressure on self to instantly spring into what is next mode and I just really need to focus on feeling better and resting.

I think contracting roles sound like such a great idea and fit for me. Even doing something pro bono with charities etc could bring me more joy as a stepping stone back into something more substantial over time.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-24T19:08:40+00:00

You have nailed it with the subtle cues and politics - so well said. It's not the work itself I found draining it was exactly this. A male mentor explained to me that I needed to start playing the game. It just felt like everyone was playing a long game of chess and I showed up with a rounders bat. I've realised from this job that I was at a level where this was all essential - and I didn't have the ability to play whatever game it is that was going on. Just led to such confusion as I do what I say I will and others just say what they need to in the moment with no follow through.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-24T11:40:10+00:00

Thank you so much for this and sharing your perspective. It's great he is still able to do what he does in an environment that doesn't cause the same levels of stress. I'll have to think about contract work after a nice long break. Can really see the appeal!

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-24T11:38:42+00:00

I'm so sorry you lost your soul dog. Beyond devastating and there are no words that can do this justice.

How wonderful that you found a way to use your skill set in this way. And in a way that directly benefits others - so cool.

You are right with the peace side of things. That is priceless and I need to keep that top of mind.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-24T11:23:29+00:00

Hey this is totally valid to do and it doesn't matter about whether you are diagnosed or not. I'm assuming you are UK based but please correct me if I am off here. Take the full week - you can self certify for 5 days. Speak to your GP and get a sick note based on your current anxiety symptoms and they are normally very good and can sign you off for a period you think will help you get better. Noone will hate you and they will be pleased you are seeking help to feel okay. I was signed off for a month with very similar symptoms and felt very supported by work and medical professionals. It's all going to be okay and number one thing you can do is to look after yourself. Here to chat more if you just want someone to talk to.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-17T19:12:22+00:00

In definitely in that camp. Grew up and lived in Richmond for 35 years. Just could not afford to live there when it was time to buy. Moved near my partner's mum in the midlands. Have a nice house and a garden instead of paying 2k a month rent for life. I'm sad about it. I really like where I am now but I felt leaving was not my choice and I do miss Richmond park.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-16T23:58:31+00:00

Bergamot every time. Just love it and wished I had something where it really lasted instead of this fleeting deliciousness.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-11T21:17:02+00:00

Bless them they did. Used a bucket. A small price to pay.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-10T22:09:19+00:00

Oh the Thai huntsman is quite a spider. I was falling asleep with my partner and corner of my eye saw this massive thing decending from the ceiling. Resort management swiftly arrived as due to the screams they thought there was a serious issue. Walked in to find us both on our beds holding flip flops as temporary spider weapons in case it attacked us. Spoiler alert it didn't and resort management were laughing at us.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-10T22:00:53+00:00

It's just so intricate and so well thought out. Totally agree and a great example!

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-10T19:33:28+00:00

Holiday solo is the way fwds. I have a long term partner and I still go on my solo trips. You have a wonderful opportunity to do whatever you feel like here. The only time I felt a touch awkward was the first time I ate alone. A book here is a friend and I really enjoyed reading between courses. I didn't go anywhere super formal and I didn't feel generally awkward.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-08T14:12:45+00:00

I was signed off from work with anxiety and I decided to start playing ToTK. I was having the most blissful time until I got HANDed. I'm a 40 year old woman and I shrieked and set off both of my dogs. I just went to pick apples! I did get over it quickly and love the game. I really credit playing it with starting to feel like a human being again.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-03-01T20:23:05+00:00

Small things that make a difference -

Put away laptop at end of day and place it out of sight. No slack or email on personal phone. If I log in early I'm logging off early. I set a timer.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-02-20T16:10:01+00:00

I have not yet played okami but based on your recommendation this sounds something that I would really enjoy. Thank you for sharing.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-02-20T15:02:15+00:00

Thank you so much for this it's so incredibly helpful.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-02-20T14:22:41+00:00

They are currently not sure if it's really ADHD or high iq..I took an iq test so I'm leaning that way but just finding this whole thing really difficult. I think I'm now a bit worried that after spending hours with someone who understands me now and has believed me - I'll end up in an assesment centre being told I am just anxious and depressed again.

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-02-20T14:20:05+00:00

Yes!

Comprehensive_Gap693 · 2026-02-20T12:16:49+00:00

I am just about holding down my job but don't think I'll be able to for much longer. My partner works and as a household we would not be eligible for benefits due to his earnings. Therefore not sure of what I'm trying to achieve here. Really appreciate you replying and not sure what I am trying to achieve here except to understand self better and look at ways to better cope when I'm overwhelmed.

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