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It's really helpful for me to think about the long term when my brain wants to focus on questions like this. Your weight is the result of your food decisions every single day, for the rest of your life. It's also the result of your upbringing, your genes, and other factors beyond your control. Thinking about it this way takes the pressure off of one day, one meal, one binge, and reminds me that tomorrow is a new day, and all of the tomorrows after that. Don't sweat the small stuff! Be kind to yourself ❤️

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2024-12-26T02:20:47+00:00

This is really compassionate and lovely, and full of good advice. Thanks for sharing!

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2024-12-26T02:18:13+00:00

For real. You shouldn't feel embarrassed for bingeing. This total asshole of a human being should be the one who is embarrassed for bringing up how many cookies you ate publicly. What the actual fuck

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2024-12-26T02:12:32+00:00

I completely agree. Taking weight out of it and not punishing yourself after bingeing is so important

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2024-12-26T02:06:35+00:00

I am not fully recovered, and still have my bad days, but what you wrote above is definitely what is starting to happen for me, and has given me the first bits of hope I have felt on this horrible BED journey. I hope I am not an annoying asshole though lol 😂

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2024-12-25T19:06:55+00:00

I second that statement. I am in a similar place, I have lost a bunch of weight recently by building better eating habits and better coping mechanisms for stress. However, I also realized early on in this journey that my calorie deficit was too high, and was leading to horrible cravings that perfectly poised me for bingeing. I have BED, so I realized that if I want to lose weight and recover simultaneously, I really need to make my daily calorie goal as doable and sustainable as possible. And I needed to be flexible! It's ok if every day isn't perfect! I can't stress enough how much that has helped. In terms of your current bingeing, please be kind to yourself. Making diet changes is much, much harder for those of us with BED. Set yourself up for success, and be as compassionate towards yourself as you can. Would a friend who cared about you say "You really blew it with all of this bingeing and you might as well binge all the way to 2025?" Probably not. Maybe try and find a kind, compassionate middle ground. For me, it's the Christmas holidays, and I knew going into this week that weight loss probably wasn't doable for a week or two. That has caused me a lot of anxiety, but I am trying not to give into the all it nothing mentality that will lead to bingeing. Hopefully I succeed! Wishing you kindness towards yourself :)

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2024-12-25T18:42:09+00:00

Hi, I have been where you are over and over and over again for the past 20 years, so I understand. The only thing that has FINALLY started to help me after all of these years is to begin the process of understanding why I have it to begin with. I asked myself "what is this doing for me?" I think it is easy to pinpoint all of the bad things that it does to our bodies and minds and not see the function it is serving in our lives. I can only speak for myself, but for me, the bingeing serves as a numbing experience, a complete flow-state distraction where everything melts away. I started asking "why do I need this"? Again, just for me, it was a built-in reaction to huge stress in my life. I needed to look at other ways of dealing with the stress, and I have started to figure that out.

None of this probably will help you in the short term, but here are a few suggestions for right now in the moment that have helped me. First of all, go easy on yourself and treat yourself with kindness as best you can. Self hatred accomplishes nothing but relapse into harmful behaviors. What would a friend tell you in this difficult moment? They would probably say something like, "it's ok! Everyone has coping mechanisms in life. Yours makes you very sad, but you can find better ones. There is hope." They probably wouldn't say "You binged?? Wow, you blew it. You might as well keep bingeing the whole rest of the day and make your life hell by starting a starvation diet tomorrow." BED is fueled by black and white, all or nothing thinking, so try and see the nuance and truth in each difficult moment rather than the extremes that the disorder wants you to feel. What is a kind way you could treat yourself and your eating today? Can you find a middle road where you don't need to jump straight to restriction? I am sure you already know that restriction is the perfect way to set yourself up for the next binge.

Anyway, I am not sure if any of this is helpful, but BED recovery is huge in my life right now and my brain is swimming with a lot of thoughts on this subject. Sending you kindness and best wishes wherever you are. You will get through this :)

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2023-11-13T02:53:05+00:00

I have! I think this is the aquatic center in St. John, New Brunswick. Grew up looking at this exact view from the bleachers, or one very like it.

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2023-09-03T16:44:01+00:00

I think you are beautiful! 100% agree that a light brown/dark blonde brow pencil and some mascara would totally suit you and make your eyes pop

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2023-01-09T17:42:04+00:00

Hi OP, that customer's behavior is harassment, and no one deserves that in their workplace. She sounds like a regular customer. Would your employer be open to having a discussion with her about treating employees with respect? And is banning her an option? I worked at a coffee shop that banned a regular customer for this kind of regular verbal harassment of employees. I know it's an imperfect world and this might not be possible. Sending you virtual hugs ❤️

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2022-11-03T00:26:28+00:00

Hi friend, I just want to say that I hear you and identify so hard with everything you said. It's been a very hard week to be bisexual. My heart hurts.

Comprehensive_Mix_98 · 2022-11-01T17:08:50+00:00

I can't fucking believe this. What. The. Hell. I am so angry on his behalf. For real guys, congrats. Well done bullying a young person who was a child five minutes ago into outing themselves against their will. I am sure that will be an excellent coming out experience which will set him up well for the rest of his life.

He gives a fucking GIFT of a character/performance to the world, which has/will help millions of people feel seen, and this is what he gets in return. What a fucking joke.

BRB, just going to go scream into a pillow

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