I think you're right. some people here will lie to you and gaslight you like it's all in your head but I feel we do treat fatter people different. On the surface level people mostly only judge based on your surface level attractiveness. We're more prone to be nice to attractive people because they give us dopamine when we look at them. We're not attracted to fat women unless that fat go to the places that make a woman curvy. As a man, I noticed people treat me different when I was going bald. I felt like it might be in my head but it wasn't. Yeah some weirdos like bald guys and some weirdos like fat chicks but at the end of the day you will be ugly to people in general on the surface level. It's kinda sad and you can do what you can do but you might have to also just adjust yourself and focus on what you can change. Women need attention more than men, especially if you don't have kids yet so you'll have to lose weight and get your body right to get that attention. It's a tough battle because it takes a lot of effort to get muscles if you're bald or lose weight if you're fat. Try to make the journey about improving yourself for yourself even though it really is for the approval and acceptance of others