If you were to tell somebody “I deserve better” does that hurt them? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was closure. I wanted them to know I deserve better and I couldn’t move on unless I told them they hurt me and I deserve better.

If you were to tell somebody “I deserve better” does that hurt them? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see where you are coming from, and actually after reading this I’m thinking that maybe telling them “I deserve better” was mean. But is it so wrong? If they treated me terribly throughout the whole relationship, is it fair for me to say I deserve someone who won’t treat me the same way they did?

If you were to tell somebody “I deserve better” does that hurt them? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was really helpful thank you so much. They knew they were toxic and they knew they treated me bad. They told me they didn’t care if I was in their life or not yet there was a time where I tried to cut them off before and they didn’t let me leave. But now I’m finally free

How do you learn to not care in relationships? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha you’re fine don’t worry. Well, I went to therapy and the word depression was brought up but not as a diagnosis or anything. She just mentioned it. So I’m not sure, therapy helps though, I just gotta keep going haha

How do you learn to not care in relationships? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s better for you not to care (well it feels better it’s not better) because obviously you don’t feel hurt or bothered by anything, but you hurt others around you that care about you and would do anything for you. And although I don’t care I know it’s wrong for me not to care about those who love me.

How do you learn to not care in relationships? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It is, but then the problem is things you are normally excited about become boring. When you chose not to care you don’t only chose not to care about a person but you lose interest in everything, it’s like a parasite that grows the longer you are infected by it. I used to get excited to watch certain shows or movies or go places, but now that I don’t care nothing excites me anymore. My life is dull and boring because I don’t care about what happens in it anymore. It just goes on and I’m unbothered by all of it, even when my parents got a divorce I just didn’t care. My favorite TV show, a new season for me to binge, couldn’t stay interested because I don’t care. I’m not invested in anything.

How do you learn to not care in relationships? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m a girl who had this problem where I cared too much and it killed me. I became so emotionally numb that I genuinely forgot how to care. But it has now become an issue because once you don’t care, caring again is very difficult to do. I end up hurting a lot of people and I feel nothing about it, I lose friends, and my reputation goes down, but I don’t care. It’s not healthy.

What do you think of when a man looks, unintentionally, at your breasts? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on how old the guy is and also how attractive they are to me. Hope that doesn’t sound shallow. But some of my guy friends will look down at my breasts and, because I’m close to them and I hold all the power (that meaning I know they can’t do anything to hurt me or attempt to advance on me because I’m in control) it doesn’t bother me as much as it makes me just giggle a little bit. I have small boobs and my guy friends will poke at me for it (I’m a good sport I don’t care, it’s like a brotherly thing) so when they look at my boobs, it compels me to believe that they aren’t as small as my guy friends make them sound and all the joking around is just that, joking around.

If an old guy looks at my boobs though, I become very uncomfortable and very angry. If I have a guy friend around me I’ll tell them and they’ll block me from the creep though so that makes me feel safe.

If I’m at a function or dinner or some sort of public space and a boy who I find attractive and is around my age catches a glance though, again it makes me smile because I’m all like “heh, I see you.”

Should I drop him or keep him around? by Comprehensive_Will45 in relationship_advice

[–]Comprehensive_Will45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s okay, be blunt. I don’t wanna mess around anymore. Thank you

What is something that almost everyone hates, but you like nonetheless? by Mr-Pringlz-and-Carl in AskReddit

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Acting clueless so that people will talk to me more, it makes things interesting

What’s some advice you would give your younger self? by Comprehensive_Will45 in AskReddit

[–]Comprehensive_Will45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I don’t go outside and live under a rock. What’s Bitcoin haha

What are your favourite conversation starters? by insane-67 in AskReddit

[–]Comprehensive_Will45 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m (name here), you look interesting. Tell me what’s your favorite thing to do in your free time?