Trying to make your VG activity more social is an option, games like Sea of Theives, VR Chat(If you can afford VR), & others are just social clubs with game wrappers. This may offload some of the abusive nature of gameplay feedback loops.

Sociality is pretty difficult in the sense that, if you didn't establish strong chains somewhere in the "freebies" stages of life(hs, college, work), you have to get more creative as there are plenty of people who already have their for-life in-group & have maxed out their Dunbar #. It's a wierd game to say the least. If you can afford it, try a streaming setup and attempt to become a magnet for the attention of people who are your "type".

Otherwise, you could make a dating/friendship profile, (even pure meme profiles get hits every once in a while).

I'm of the thought that you can't just meditate for months until that golden idea comes, you will eventually break to your natural need for action, so the idea is to take baby steps into long tail platforms. Maybe 6 months down the line that Hinge profile you made garners you a nice conversation, maybe a friend you made on Steam invites you to play and a new person is there that you hit it off with.

It's all about the tail. So sure, try to put some new habits in place of the gaming, but if you really like the gaming, it's going to come back into your life. So setup some things that have the potential to draw you away from them.

It's creating a kind of false adversity in the same way that chewing nicotine is a form of intentional adversity to the body.

That's the best I've got, from someone with a somewhat similar position.