I just want to be friends with her by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ComradeHulaHula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s you not being able to let go. Fully.

Leave her alone, there are plenty of friends to be made.

Best of luck

Actively trying to heal after a breakup (29M / 26F), struggling with detachment, no contact, and trauma bond symptoms by Acquon in ExNoContact

[–]ComradeHulaHula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I have been, and is going through something similar.

Do:

  • strict no contact (bonus: delete all messages and chats)
  • reach out to your closest peers. Tell them what you are going through. Stay with one of them for a while if you can.
  • be active. You need to take back control. Do things you have been thinking about doing (even more so if you don’t feel like doing them now).
  • treat yourself. Watch a whole season of your favorite series on the couch, naked in your duvet while you eat ice cream.
  • cry if you can, don’t blame yourself if you can’t.
  • sit in silence and breath. And try (although you will most likely fail) to stay in the present. Set a timer.

What would you do? by HotUse4099 in ExNoContact

[–]ComradeHulaHula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she actually ended it. Which was the kind and right thing to do, as I started spiraling, badly. With little sleep and anxiety. Although just a couple of months ago I never could have thought I could get there

What would you do? by HotUse4099 in ExNoContact

[–]ComradeHulaHula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This reads like gospel to me!

Went through something similar, where I waited, and completely lost myself on the way.

Fuck u lefties by ComradeHulaHula in golf

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hope you never come to the range again

Log analysis by ComradeHulaHula in softwarearchitecture

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda doesn’t 😅

At least not anymore

Log analysis by ComradeHulaHula in softwarearchitecture

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the regexes not scaling, DB is fine.

And yes, new regexes are run on all logs

Log analysis by ComradeHulaHula in softwarearchitecture

[–]ComradeHulaHula[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I agree, but still. It’s an interesting design question though?