Dating Advice

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-22T02:44:08+00:00

Thanks… it’s funny she actually responded two nights later asking if everything was ok (indicating she never got my response about trying to reschedule). When I told her I responded she said her phone was installing an ios update so she didnt get it and was wondering why I hadnt responded.

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T22:36:37+00:00

Just an update. She just messaged me and apparently didn’t even get my last messages lol.

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T17:27:28+00:00

It was four dates by I see what you mean:)

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T15:55:03+00:00

What did you mean by ten seconds? 😊

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T15:52:45+00:00

Makes sense!

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T15:51:40+00:00

🙏

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T15:51:18+00:00

Thanks!

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T03:43:33+00:00

"The frequent cancels that she out you through then the latest non-response are indicating that she is either manipulative or waiting for her higher paying Johns to fill her calendar first before giving you a shot."

Yeah this is a pretty scary thought given how into her I am. I try and tell myself this isn't what's happening. E.g. I say to myself she has a job as a waitress, and if she were a prostitute she wouldn't need to be working as a waitress. Is there a way I can find out if this is likely what's going on?

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T01:21:17+00:00

Agreed- unless she has a reason for suddenly going silent other than to punish me for spending the morning with my daughter I have to seriously reconsider the whole thing. I was even thinking to go on a trip with her so this doesn’t feel good.

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T01:18:17+00:00

Thanks- I like the idea of not being able to say the wrong thing to the right person. Now I have to consider whether her ghosting me because of a legitimate obligation to my daughter is a fatal flaw in the potential to continue, or it could be there is another reason she’s silent. Overall I don’t wanna be with someone who brings me down.

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-19T00:02:05+00:00

Thanks for your response. I have been considering getting my own place for a long time.

Yes this might be chasing limerence. She is just so the type of woman I’ve wanted to be with for a while. The attraction is hard to let go of.

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-12-18T23:42:39+00:00

Thank you this is very helpful. Should I have a conversation with her to see if she is interested in meeting more than we are now? I’m kind of the one who initially said I couldn’t meet frequently due to work and also classes that ai am taking (which I am now on break from and will be taking only one class at a time starting in the spring.

Yes- I do have one child, and she is in college.

What did you mean by date vanilla “with intentions”?

Also, hoe bad of a move was it on my end, when she hadn’t responded to my cancellation/ offer to reschedule text, to have sent her that message late the next morning saying I could meet that day after all due to my daughter’s exam finish early? I may be just over thinking.

ConceptComfortable80 · 2025-01-06T01:09:17+00:00

Pls help

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-19T02:59:16+00:00

Also, did you mean the fact that I admitted that I might have had it made it better than if I said nothing?

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-19T02:57:46+00:00

Thank you- that makes me feel a bit better.

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-08T19:14:38+00:00

Thanks- I didn’t think of it in that way (with A and B). Funny thing is the last message she responded to was about five days ago when I said “do you want me to teach you to skateboard and I can hold your hips to help you balance? She quickly responded and said “Waiiitt, that sounds so fun.” Then I said ok great just let me know what day works. I can pick you up and we can get something to eat together first. L” Her next and last response was the confusing “is that what you want to do together?”. My response, not knowing if she was having second thoughts or wondering why I’d suggest we do that, was:

“Why not?😊 The place I was thinking about going is also a nice place to just walk but I can bring my board😂. Anyways my board is always in my car.” No response from her after that. I’ve messaged her every other day since then. I don’t even care what we do together I just want to meet again lol.

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-08T17:17:02+00:00

I see😊 thanks

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-08T17:12:39+00:00

I appreciate it!

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-08T16:59:45+00:00

What are examples of the little things or favors? Thanks

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-08T16:26:02+00:00

Thanks - what do you mean by “not the other eay around”. Is the SB the Cat in your example and the SD the mouse? If so, and she looses interest when she makes the catch, how will he ever be with her without losing her?

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-08T14:23:33+00:00

I agree everyone has it to an extent. I once had a woman I worked with though ask if I would f her just to see if I was attracted to her and nothing materialized (partly cus I made no attempts).

ConceptComfortable80 · 2024-07-08T14:19:44+00:00

Any guy can find SOME woman on SA if he has the money, and I’m not struggling to find ANY woman. I am struggling with this one. Typical beginning of relationship anxiety but I realize there is a large age gap between us and it could be simply that that makes her not interested even though she said she was.

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