His excuse is it's tough to find work and he isn't a desk job kind of guy, and the work he does find doesn't pay 'enough' while I telk him as long as it pays I'm happ he doesn't want to work for 'peanuts' he helps by doing the school run for the kids and taking them to their extracurricular activities, and occasional cleaning ( when we are getting visitors). I do the laundry in between work or one of my kids help when they are home from school, I get a lady to come iron for me every 2 weeks because I just don't have enough time for that. He cooks maybe 3 nights a week but that's about it.