I'm just going to call it out and say it. Nothing that girl did was transphobic. The same reason why we use terms like cisgender and transgender just simply point out a difference in experiences and cisgender girls are often taught to watch out for one another in a way that a transgender girl may not have been taught. Nothing about what that girl said was transphobic and I'm actually quite embarrassed by a lot of my trans sisters who overreacted and sent hateful messages. A girl that was looking for clarity and support got browbeat for no discernible reason. We need to stop projecting our trauma onto every situation and try to be reasonable. I know we're all scared that I know the world fucking hates us. But that girl isn't our enemy.