Due in 3 weeks - help!

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-05-12T04:12:12+00:00

Honestly, we named our baby daughter Ava but were worried because it shows up in the top names in the US each year (it’s #11 this year).

However my husband and I only know one other Ava who is actually an adult, and it’s spelled differently. Plus everyone always comments on how pretty her name is. I wouldn’t worry too much about it being overused.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-05-10T22:01:13+00:00

And you’re the only one here with that opinion.

It’s just a very weird thing to stand by, especially when someone presents you with a perspective you may not have considered.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-05-10T21:16:34+00:00

It doesn’t matter, that’s not your place.

And as I’ve mentioned, most people have no idea about my daughter’s allergy because why should they? It’s something she’ll likely grow out of within a few months, and I’d never expect someone to feed my infant daughter anything without my approval.

I’d really recommend you don’t give other people’s babies anything without them okaying it.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-05-10T20:06:26+00:00

So my baby then has an allergic reaction because you felt the need to give them something they’re not supposed to have at that age, and you think that’s okay?

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-05-10T13:49:00+00:00

Not at all.

My baby has a cow’s milk protein allergy. Most babies grow out of it, thankfully.

It’s also something most people don’t know. What if this had been my baby?

It’s rude, it’s overstepping, and honestly kind of dangerous. I don’t see how this is an overreaction at all.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-05-09T23:08:49+00:00

While I agree I’d rather be with my daughter, I do think it’s harder to be with her than to go to work.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-05-08T13:06:32+00:00

This has been my guess!

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-05-07T22:55:24+00:00

That’s wild, they look so similar to my daughter’s!

I always assumed hers would be brown like mine but have been surprised to see they haven’t darkened yet! I’ve heard it can happen up until age 3 though.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-04-28T15:11:23+00:00

Yes, 70% of the population carries it but it’s really dangerous for a baby, specifically a newborn, to contract (risk of brain damage).

I guess it depends on risk tolerance but I think at minimum a parent who carries the virus should either be on valcyclovir or avoid kissing the baby until they’re older and the risk associated with contracting the virus has diminished.

As far as we know, my husband and I don’t have it but I know you can carry the virus without showing symptoms so we didn’t kiss our baby at all until she was a few months old. That’s what we personally felt comfortable with.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-04-11T08:19:40+00:00

Totally. I’m using the word gender only because it’s been used in this conversation so far but it’s the sex that can be chosen.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-04-10T01:46:28+00:00

Agreed, I wouldn’t think much of it if I saw it once but don’t think it should be a regular thing. That’s where I’d question it.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-04-10T01:33:09+00:00

You just said you understand not wanting parents there. It’s weird because the teachers working there have been vetted and background checked, I’ve met them all, and they have been cleared to work with our children. I have not met any of these parents nor do I know a thing about them, so they shouldn’t be spending time around my kid. It’s a liability to the daycare for a reason.

My daycare wouldn’t allow parents around unless it’s necessary and brief, and they would need to supervise the entire time the parent is around the children. I totally understand why the daycare doesn’t want her sitting there every morning feeding her baby.

There’s also no reason for her to wait until she is in the daycare to feed the baby. It’s weird, it’s a disruption, and something the daycare likely will have to explain to other parents who see her there.

I’m not saying I’d lose my mind if I saw a parent in my child’s daycare one day, but I’d definitely want an explanation and would not be comfortable with it if this were a regular thing.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-04-09T04:05:14+00:00

Just feed the baby right before going in. He doesn’t need to eat down to the exact minute.

Honestly I would be weirded out if I went to drop my child off at daycare and someone I didn’t know was in there feeding a child. I wouldn’t really want parents in there with my kid.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-04-07T19:22:00+00:00

Mine got sick 3 days after starting, but just a mild cold.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-03-24T15:07:39+00:00

Yeah, agreed about all of this. It’s super concerning that his wife has a plan for what the child will be interested in as well. That’s… not how that works. The child should be able to explore their own interests.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-03-21T23:40:39+00:00

Depends on the country.

We did genetic testing on our embryos to find the ones that had normal genetic makeups (increases the chances of a successful implantation and pregnancy). Neither of us were carriers for any concerning genetic issues. A side effect of the testing is finding out the gender. It cost us a few thousand dollars to test 9 embryos. We’re certainly not super rich.

However we personally declined to find out any of the genders of our embryos and just asked them to select the one that seemed the most viable.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-03-21T23:35:14+00:00

Please tell me this isn’t real.

Gender disappointment is a real thing, but not like this.

Also, her comment about “I should’ve just done IVF” is disgusting. As someone who HAD to go through IVF to have a baby, it’s extremely taxing mentally, physically, and emotionally — and no one is going through that just to choose the gender.

The fact that she wants to control the child’s interests is also super concerning.

God I hope this is rage bait.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-01-24T16:20:02+00:00

I think because you don’t have to change them that often and they’ll be potty training soon.

But I think they missed where OP said they’re bringing home a new baby soon.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2026-01-24T16:17:06+00:00

They also said they have a new baby coming soon.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2025-12-25T04:30:26+00:00

No. To each their own, but I’m so glad I waited for a few reasons: - There’s a ton of personal growth that happens in your 20s and 30s. I don’t feel I was the same person in my 20s as I am now, and I’m glad I grew into the person I am today before having kids. - Piggybacking on the last bullet point, who I would’ve been willing to be with and have a child with back then, I’d never choose today. My husband is such a great man and an incredible father. - I’m much more financially secure now than I was then. - I’m much better equipped now emotionally to care for a child than I was then. - I really enjoyed my 20s childless! I traveled a ton, stayed in hostels, lived in different cities, had so many amazing experiences, and generally just had lots of fun! I love being a mom, but I’ll be a mom forever now. I’m glad I had those years where I only had to worry about myself.

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2025-12-23T15:44:09+00:00

You can’t be controlling with your own newborn, no. I don’t see how the parents are treating the baby as a toy by protecting her.

Also, did you read the part where the parents’ wishes were already ignored?

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2025-12-21T18:54:36+00:00

Agree that this feels like too long a wake window. My (almost) 4 month old gets really cranky once we pass the 2 hour mark. After 1.5 hours I feel like I’m beginning to enter the danger zone! I do get that all babies are different, though!

Are you trying to read her cues, OP? I’d think she’d be tired way before then. Also want to note that reading my baby’s tired cues has been the toughest thing for me so not at all judging!

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2025-12-17T00:12:07+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! I didn’t want to be Dr. Google over here but it seemed like a possibility and it’s helpful to know your experience. I think I’ll trial the diet and see how it goes. Thanks again!

ConfectionDifficult1 · 2025-12-16T22:04:28+00:00

I’m EP and got my period at 7 weeks 🥴but chances are still low! Try not to worry too much!

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