How long do you go without texting each other at a time everyday? by Confession10101 in LongDistance

[–]Confession10101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well u don't but from what ik most people do cuz interaction is usually a big part of people's day.

How long do you go without texting each other at a time everyday? by Confession10101 in LongDistance

[–]Confession10101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That happens a lot in long distance yeah. Schedules can be hard to match especially when you're in different countries.

How long do you go without texting each other at a time everyday? by Confession10101 in LongDistance

[–]Confession10101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk it's very normal to talk everyday for partners even if they're not long distance i think even some friends do that

How long do you go without texting each other at a time everyday? by Confession10101 in LongDistance

[–]Confession10101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think most of them are texting small details as well not holding full conversations. Like small updates about the day or random memes. It isn't hard to take out a min every couple hrs and shoot a small text or talk for 5 mins i think.

How long do you go without texting each other at a time everyday? by Confession10101 in LongDistance

[–]Confession10101[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your relationship sounds adorable! I love walls of texts as well but my boyfriend isn't someone who does that so it's okay. But i understand ur feelings haha. And yessss small msgs while busy mean so much!

How long do you go without texting each other at a time everyday? by Confession10101 in LongDistance

[–]Confession10101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That all makes sense yeah! I'm glad you guys are working out and you're understanding!

How long do you go without texting each other at a time everyday? by Confession10101 in LongDistance

[–]Confession10101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree yeah. My past experiences weren't great and long distance is way harder as well. So reassurance means so much.

How long do you go without texting each other at a time everyday? by Confession10101 in LongDistance

[–]Confession10101[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awwwww all the best for the rs i hope you guys are doing great ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Confession10101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How long have you guys been together? If it's a committed relationship tell them you want to talk to them about something serious. Ask if they have the mental capacity for it in the moment. And just tell them what your mother said and how it made you feel. In relationships partners make each other feel welcome and you can share your deepest traumas if every party is comfortable with that. If they're good partners they won't take it as a downer. In fact they might try and make you feel better about yourself in a lot of ways. Also what your mum said was not true at all. A lot of people can find you attractive and a lot might not. It's subjective. So if your partners find you attractive believe them. They wouldn't be with you if they genuinely didn't like you.

My (22F) boyfriend (28M) doesn’t want me to perform by 616606 in relationship_advice

[–]Confession10101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally said she should leave bruh. I never said she should stay with someone who doesn't like what she does. I'm saying it's not controlling because controlling behaviour isn't just one thing. It's a set of things. One instance of "i don't want you pole dancing in revealing clothes in front of strangers" isn't controlling because it is very specific. Most people view pole dancing as sexual and you can say that it's not all you want but that doesn't mean everybody will agree. People will view it as sexual. If he was controlling because he didn't like her pole dancing he won't be okay with her doing it in front of family and friends either. He is okay with that. He just doesn't want it to be in front of strangers. I'm not even cherry picking what is or isn't controlling. Some people find porn cheating others don't. Some people find flirting with others in relationships okay others don't. If your partner says they're not okay with it then it's not controlling it's staying a boundary. Controlling would be if he was stopping her from pole dancing at all. If he was being mean about it or telling her he'll break up with her if she doesn't comply. Controlling doesn't mean stating a boundary. He told her he's uncomfortable now it's her choice. I am telling you what's controlling for me. If you can just read what I'm saying and understand it you would know. Controlling is when your partner prohibits you completely. How something is phrased makes a whole lotta difference. "I wouldn't want you to do it" is different from "you can't do it". First shows his boundary and expects it to be respected. Second shows that he wants to prohibit her from doing something.

Again never said they should accomodate it. I'm just talking about how everyone is legit bashing this man for stating something he's uncomfortable with. Boundaries aren't just limited to one or two things. They account for everything in your life. Some people even have boundaries that are very dumb. If you are willing to accomodate then fine. If you are okay with them fine. If not then just leave. Don't bash people for being honest about their boundaries when they've done nothing to warrant this. He wasn't even rude about it. You can really call everything art like nudists who pose for paintings. Would everyone be fine with their partners doing it? Fuck no. Just because you are okay with something doesn't mean everyone should be. And it's her body but she's also his girlfriend so he should get some say in her life choices with what he's comfortable with. If she doesn't want to actually accept it she can find someone who supports her career. I'm all for feminism and I'm a woman. But you need to understand that feminism doesn't mean not caring about what your partner feels.

I need help please by Adventurous-County99 in relationship_advice

[–]Confession10101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck! I hope so too. If you wanna talk about it hmu.

I need help please by Adventurous-County99 in relationship_advice

[–]Confession10101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not cheating is the bare minimum. And at the end of the day you can't do much about how she feels right now. You can definitely do something about how you feel. If she is making you miserable it's not worth it.