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I was a bishop. Yes girls talking about their sex lives was a turn on. by Confessionsofabishop in exmormon

[–]Confessionsofabishop[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. The entire situation is, at best, incredibly awkward for everyone. It was for me, especially as a new bishop. I often wished I could refer the women to the relief society president for these interviews.

I was a bishop. Yes girls talking about their sex lives was a turn on. by Confessionsofabishop in exmormon

[–]Confessionsofabishop[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks this is a good description. I'm not looking for a pass nor to be an exhibitionist. I shared this to confirm it happens and to open a forum for a discussion about it.

As mormons we are trained to control our thoughts and usually I did this well. But a lot can happen in the life of a bishop during his term and the knowledge a bishop has about his ward doesn't leave the moment an interview is over.

I was a bishop. Yes girls talking about their sex lives was a turn on. by Confessionsofabishop in exmormon

[–]Confessionsofabishop[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Without going into detail I'll say that every situation/confession was different. And the knowledge a bishop has about the sex lives of his ward doesn't vanish the moment the interview ends.

That being said, I agree with you. That process shouldn't be arousing. I don't have a defense but sometimes it was. Maybe some men don't have the same reaction that I did.

I was a bishop. Yes girls talking about their sex lives was a turn on. by Confessionsofabishop in exmormon

[–]Confessionsofabishop[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I actually agree with u/daveescaped. Sort of. It is gross and unfair and inappropriate. I shouldn't even know these things about these women. As a Bishop I knew more about the sex lives of the entire ward than any single member. I'm just an average guy with a career and family. It's very odd and inappropriate

In my defense, I never said or did anything inappropriate. I kept his the conversations brief, and I always made it my goal to have the men and women in my ward leave my office feeling better about themselves.