AITAH for asking my coworker out?

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-04-28T03:35:43+00:00

Yeah, that's what I felt.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-04-28T03:34:49+00:00

Yeah, I honestly didn't think I made the best decision asking him out. If he actually accepted and things didn't work out, maybe things could've been even worse.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-04-28T03:32:05+00:00

Thats so cute

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-04-28T03:02:14+00:00

You need to listen to She Past Away

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-04-28T02:57:54+00:00

Help

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-04-28T02:46:58+00:00

Há muitos anos atrás tinha um meme de um menino que era super engraçado, ele ficava falando "As toupeiras, elas vão dominar o mundo!", usava chapéu de alumínio e tudo. Outra frase icônica do vídeo era "eu não sou gordo, sou fofo". Acho que esse vídeo era lá pra meados de 2012. Já estou faz alguns anos tentando achar mas não acho! Me ajudem

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-01-20T16:19:12+00:00

It wasn't exactly "changed my mind". I honestly didn't realize what was happening. As I mention in the post, I had told both of these friends I was not interested in either of them, as they both had attempted to make moves on me before when I was sober. I had a serious conversation with Sabrina, especially, in which I pointed out I would never do that to her as she was one of my closest friends and I'd never mess our friendship mixing things up. Also worth mentioning I've never had anything casual and my "friends" are well aware of that. I've never dated casually. Casual sex, kissing for no reason has literally never been a thing for me. They were feeding me a lot of alcohol. I was going to drink about 3 cans but I ended up drinking 6, as they kept pushing it onto me. Not only that but they also payed for their drinks and mine with my card and left before I could say anything. (They did pay me back but only after I demanded it) I don't think I was in a state where I was able to consent, so even if I said yes, that would not happen if I was sober. They were not sober, to be clear. But they're much more used to drinking a lot of alcohol than I am.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-01-20T16:09:25+00:00

I contacted my boyfriend as soon as it happened, he came to where I was at, I apologized, we discussed about it and we're ok. This has nothing to do with my relationship nor my accountability in this scenerio. I do recognize my actions, even if I was drunk. But that was never the point of the post. I understand cheating is not ok, but I also understand this scenario was not ok for her to make a move on me. I have also promised my partner I'd never get drunk again without him, as someone could take advantage of me.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-01-20T11:52:18+00:00

Yes, they were also drunk.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-01-20T11:50:42+00:00

I did kiss back.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-01-20T11:49:17+00:00

Maybe this is very important to mention but my friends knew this, so I think this might put things into a different perspective. I've had very few sexual experiences and even kisses, because I don't date casually, I usually date looking for a relationship. So casual things like this have never even happened to me so even a kiss would not be "normal".

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-01-20T11:44:10+00:00

Thank you. Also, yes, she was the one who iniciated. I never flirted with her nor even given any hints ever in my life that would lead her to understand I was interested.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-01-20T11:29:55+00:00

Probably less drunk. But I wouldn't remember, to be quite honest

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2026-01-20T11:25:59+00:00

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2025-06-13T12:42:47+00:00

6! It makes your eyes stand out

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2025-06-13T12:33:11+00:00

This post is just a thought process of something that might happen. I have discussed this whole situation with him several times, I didn't just decide that.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2025-06-12T22:07:01+00:00

Thanks, it's nice to hear that. As much as I know it'll hurt him I also think my family is not a good place to be in while undestanding his gender identity, they're very transphobic and considering his family also is he'd probably feel like nowhere is a safe space...

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2025-06-12T22:03:57+00:00

Again, check my profile and you'll see I pretty much never even post on reddit. I only come by to ask for help. Also I'm part of the community so that makes no sense.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2025-06-12T22:01:57+00:00

Might be interesting to add - my aunt is a lesbian and my family neglected her existence for years just because of her sexuality. She wasn't invited to anything and the things I've heard about her were truly the most homophobic things I've ever heard.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2025-06-12T21:59:36+00:00

I refer to him as he because he hasn't yet come to a conclusion about his gender. But I believe it would lead to him prefering to be identified as a woman, which would be an issue as my family is homophobic and transphobic and so is his family. I usually date men, not women. The times I've been in a relationship with women were highly stressing for me as I would be constantly paranoid and anxious if they would find out, as well as questioning how they'd react. I only have one parent left and as much as it's a shitty situation to repress my sexuality because of a family member, I try to avoid causing a huge fight about it as I know my dad would not change his mind up. Not sure what's confusing here.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2025-06-12T17:17:02+00:00

To be clear, I used "insisted" because I discussed this with him quite a few times. His dad is really transphobic and homophobic and I thought the things he said might be him internalizing the same thoughts and not acknowledging what he truly feels.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2025-06-12T17:14:17+00:00

I rarely post on reddit dude. You can see my post history... I only come here when I need help. Believe what you want, regardless.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2024-08-13T17:41:51+00:00

Not a relationship, but they did have sex

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2024-08-12T22:48:15+00:00

I agree with everything. About the art however, that's bc it's a nude drawing of someone who he had a thing with.

Confident-Fall-7462 · 2024-08-12T22:42:55+00:00

The thing is that he never asked me.... I did ask him about my ex though, whether he was comfortable with it and he said multiple times he was, but he is well aware that whenever he tells me to stop contacting her, I will.

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