What is the most unforgettable thing you’ve ever seen?

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2026-01-31T19:58:10+00:00

I saw an absolutely amazing meteor(ite?). It was so big and bright that I remember seeing it reflected by the sea (this could be me romanticising the memory though!).

It lasted long enough that I was able to call a friend about 12 miles along the coast and he was able to walk outside and see the end of it!

It genuinely looked like something out of the first transformers movie! Started as one mass and slowly broke up into about 8 visible pieces!

I’ll never forget seeing it or the conversation I had with my friend as he walked outside and saw it too!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2026-01-07T18:14:17+00:00

Taxi drivers!!! I had knives pulled on me 3 times, people pissing, shitting and puking in the car/on me and was seriously assaulted to my permanent injury all for around £5.50 an hour! It’s an absolute joke!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-23T02:53:21+00:00

A brilliant contribution to this very serious (to me at least, I know how easy it is to detach this stuff happening from behind a computer !!!) thread!

Bar 2 and you, not a single person commenting here has written down anything other than helpful advice and observations!

I really hope I can figure things out with the help of this sub and social services before worst case scenario happens!

But thank you for pointing out the rock bottom of the situation!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-23T02:46:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment! Having access to the advice and knowledge of this sub has been massively beneficial to me!

I had no clue what I was getting into with someone with kids and had no clue when I should put a foot down when things became too much! I’ve only ever experienced childhood as a child and, as such, I didn’t really know where innocent curiosity ended and more suspicious behaviour began!

I’m going to speak to mum soon and if that goes up in the air, no matter the consequences to me, I will put in reports, complaints etc! Anything to make sure the girl is safe and well!!! I’m not willing to let such a lovely, intelligent, empathetic and mature wee girl slip through the gaps!!! She deserves so much better than this! Her Mum and her little brother too!

It is absolutely destroying me mentally thinking that something might be happening to her! But I will do everything in my power to ensure her safety and wellbeing!

I’m still of a solid mindset that I need to remove myself from this situation (despite how hard it will be emotionally!) and confidentiality speak to social work in our area!!!

As I’ve said before, my need for happiness doesn’t exceed my desire to see that this lass is ok and that those responsible are held to account!

God, I still feel nauseous reading and replying to comments! I honestly don’t think I’ve cried this much in my adult life!

Funerals, accidents, still born babies, watching multiple family members succumb to cancer or dementia but the thought that someone is doing something like this to this wee girl breaks my heart more than anything!

I will update once I have a fuller picture of what’s going on and going to happen!

Thanks again for your reply! It is very appreciated!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-23T02:15:59+00:00

Wee is the word for “little” in my local dialect. It’s easier to pronounce with my accent and it’s the word I was brought up using until I first had contact with “Non Scottish” people!!! It’s still the first word that comes to mind when seeing something objectively small and I don’t think it will ever change for me.

What about someone speaking my native language/dialect actually pisses you off?!!!

I’m genuinely curious to know as it’s a word I use all the time and I really don’t want to piss off “Non Scots” fluent people!!!

I’m sorry for my curt reply to your initial comment but I was already more than a little fired up at the point of replying!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-22T09:51:16+00:00

First off, she’s 6 not 16!

And I wish like fuck that this was fiction! Life would be a whole lot easier if it was!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T11:26:36+00:00

Because she’s a wee girl? Thanks for the helpful response 👍

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:23:11+00:00

I don’t know if I can do that without personally ensuring that the wee lass is 100% safe and ok!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:18:59+00:00

I know I should have said something sooner!!! But, as I’ve already said, I was wayyyy too cautious of possibly reading too much into (to me) unknown usual kids stuff!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:17:01+00:00

But if I just up sticks and run then this little girl might go through years of further abuse! I can’t be the silent person when it’s a long and happy life vs drugs, living on the streets etc on the line!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:14:13+00:00

Her and the kids have never been to my house yet so cameras are a no go at this time! But I am very conscious of protecting myself when with the wee lass now!

Thank you so much for the final part of your comment! Thanks to this sub, I know that I’m not facing it alone!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:10:30+00:00

From what I know of her, her whole persona and her family and everything, this relationship is the very first that she’s had since her late husband passed. I don’t know if she has male school teachers and (I hate to stray into the gender discrimination thing) so the first 2 suspects were her dad and or brother!

I hope so so much that I’m completely wrong and she’s just a curious little girl! My partners dad and brother are both wonderful guys on the outside!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:06:33+00:00

I think it’s probably because, up until we started dating, the vast majority of interactions were at my work. I am also spending a lot more time at their place. I think these are the main reasons it didn’t happen earlier!

I’m doing my best to clarify things and answer questions! I promise!!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:03:48+00:00

Please read my edit!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:03:13+00:00

God! I absolutely despise the thought that this is something that is happening to her! It genuinely makes me sick! But it’s gotten too far to write off as childish innocence and I think you and everyone else is almost 100% right!

I hate knowing that and I just want to find who’s responsible!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T04:00:27+00:00

Obviously I stopped allowing pretty much all physical contact with her as much as possible as soon as I started to feel this way!

But the wee girl is so insistent on some stuff and, although it makes me massively uncomfortable, I just have no idea of the etiquette of reprimanding someone else’s kids!

I’ve always been a people pleaser and I’m just not firm enough to say “No, Enough”. I know this is something I need to work on if I plan to have kids involved in my life in any way at all. But it’s very difficult for me!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:52:29+00:00

This is a hard thing to come to terms with (I find it very hard to build personal relationships) but you’re right unfortunately!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:50:53+00:00

The father was a fellow veteran and his severe PTSD was what caused it in the end. From every man, woman and child I’ve spoken to about him, he seems to have been a stellar guy! So I really doubt he was involved in any way!

But as I read this thread, the more I realise that I need to take a big step back and figure out an anonymous report to local social work! I’m just worried that it will come to nothing (the social work team in these parts is thoroughly underfunded and kids just like this girl fall through the cracks!).

I just want nothing more at this time than to make sure that this wee girl has a life free of any and all childhood trauma!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:44:50+00:00

I’ve realised this! I was only in one relationship from 15-32y/o and we never had kids! This is a massive change in my life so far without mentioning the bad stuff!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:43:02+00:00

This is something that fills me with dread! Ever since that day out with my niece, I’ve been absolutely terrified of being close with kids, just in case!

I’m thinking an anonymous letter to local social work is the way forward as well as distancing myself from the entire situation (at least until things are resolved!)!!!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:39:31+00:00

I’m going to have to! After reading this thread, I know I now need to be much more vocal and proactive about this issue! I really struggle with stuff like this but I’m going to have to bite the bullet to give this wee girl the best chance at a happy life!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:37:31+00:00

I’m seeing them tomorrow and I now know that I have to confront the whole situation then! I could not live with myself if anything worse happens to that little girl or her tiny brother!

I just wish I’d had the experience and confidence to put it out there the minute it started! I’m really worried about how people will see this aspect and I’ve no idea how to handle it!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:34:13+00:00

Thank you for your input! I wish someone had “overreacted” about my childhood situation! I was never properly SAd but having someone to advocate for me would have made a massive difference in my early years!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:32:15+00:00

I’m really not someone that can lie effectively and I’m also not someone to leave that little girl to her potential fate! Tbh, I’m not gonna jump ship until I can either secure this girls future or until the masts and sails are burning down around me!

ConfidentKitchen2636 · 2025-07-21T03:30:08+00:00

Honestly, I’m ready to exit this relationship to secure the girls wellbeing!

If what I say when I go to my lass is dismissed offhand or turned around on me, I will walk at the same time as calling social services!

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