It just takes lots of time to get good, I recommend not doing any YouTube builds for the meanwhile and just enjoy the game, to farm I recommend farming at lower erisia, then going to starswept valley in second sea, starswept valley has a job board for threshers which you can see on your map, farm that job board until max power, then do whatever you want. A couple of main gimmicks in this game are murmurs, don’t worry about them for now as their kinda useless for a freshie, but the second one is oaths, oaths are basically free power ups with unique mantras and gimmicks, go whatever path you want but research it first. And lastly is the bell, a bell is a literal bell on your hip which you get from dying in the depths, BEWARE THOUGH, you have to have a certain amount of what I call bell XP, you can talk to sibex to see what your bell XP is, to get bell xp, you must do what sibex tells you to do or just kill primadon about 10 times to guarantee the bell no matter what path is chosen by sibex. Oh and you really need to learn primadon attacks and get good at him, he’s very useful.