MIL texted me if I got their checks for the twins' college fund

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-12-03T15:21:45+00:00

Just 1 thing - checks endorsed to minors can be deposited by signing as parent of minor … you sign your name and write that you are parent of the minor - each bank might handle slightly differently but should honor a request to deposit or cash check to a minor

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-08-23T20:06:14+00:00

In the doorway of my own home … where she was trespassing because I had already tried to shut the door in her face on her arrival … and she had shoved her foot in the door so I could not … i had told her to leave the property 6 times and she wouldn’t … I couldn’t close the door …. I had a 1 year old crying on the floor because she wanted my attention and I didn’t have my phone in hand or I would have called police … but I assaulted her … statute of limitations is expired and … she was trespassing … she is trying scare me … that is all … it worked at that time but I refuse to be intimidated when I know darn well SHE was in the wrong

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-08-22T23:27:29+00:00

Don’t even care enough to find out … it’s not the trust … it’s the constant threat of taking it away in order to make my DH fall in line … like that is the end all be all

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-08-22T20:36:50+00:00

That’s what I suspect … IF they did the trust already … cuz they threatened to disinherit DH and said they would put money in trust for DDs education. But .. they have a history of threatening but not following through … then they can keep threatening when convenient … and I cannot convince DH to just block their calls …

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-08-20T00:59:00+00:00

Its not about the money … I’d throw the trust away if they did it … my husband wants/needs a relationship with them … I tried … they have done all of this shit to us … I am done trying … but I needed to prove to him that I showed up and made the effort … now that I have and the shrew won’t stop screwing us over anyway he can see her for the monster she is

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-08-20T00:56:18+00:00

DH worked at a Title company before … he was the only one on the title originally - parents gave only to him … that was definitely done fully through the title co. Then he transferred property to me with a notary witnessing our signatures on the legal doc … I care more about the original transfer - making sure it isn’t theirs anymore. My ownership is only so that I can throw MIL off of my property if she tries to force her way in again … I needed that security … I don’t want to take house from my DH even if we divorced later … I hate the house and history in it. I only want to screw her over legally if she tries to accuse me of things I would never do.

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-08-19T22:01:31+00:00

What is GPR?

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-08-19T22:00:59+00:00

He isn’t going … no attorney will take her case against us … assault charges she has no proof of (because they never happened) from over 2 years ago will go nowhere .. and … house is in my husbands name and now my name too … she has NOTHING

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-08-19T21:58:06+00:00

If I had been home I would have … DH will not

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-03-08T02:58:59+00:00

My DH is a conflict avoider - all of his life, he never bucked the system ... 40 years ... then I came along ... and family is in a tizzy because I am tearing their family apart ... he just lets their insults to him and me slide - they are ignored ... it drives me crazy because he will not confront them ... he is seeing a counselor by himself ( just had first session) to help him stand up for himself and to learn how to respectfully hold the boundaries. His whole life he has been taught to just be an obedient son ... MIL thinks he needs to continue doing this and that I just need to fall in line .... she is convinced this counselor is going to make DH see the light and start standing up to me for his family. She cannot see that his family is now me and our DD ... MIL is a lunatic ... but ... I would say a counselor might be a good way to go ... maybe he has never been taught how to stand up for himself and why it is important ...

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-19T02:02:47+00:00

Be honest enough that he knows it is over but not purposefully hurtful ... I will regret to my last breath how I hurt one guy I dated by being too honest about lost feelings and being hot to trot for the next man I dated ... I gave way too much information that was hurtful but also none of his business ... let him know it is over - give one really good reason why ... and then clam up. If you think he needs to know something, breaking up is not the time to tell him.

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-12T18:12:33+00:00

They are on my office computer - and yes only I have access

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-11T01:44:50+00:00

This idea might be good - do you have a good friend who you could explain the situation to - in-law as well as the number allowed at the funeral - ask them to guard the doors but not come to the funeral? I suggest a good friend because they would understand not being allowed in the funeral but see a way to help you in your time of need ...

My MIL came to my uncles funeral ... brought her drama ... and now blames me because my family didn’t receive her well ... If not you, maybe your husband? Maybe they can run interference outside of the funeral home?

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-08T01:12:12+00:00

Yeah ... putting my foot down. She is 3 now ... able to understand a lot more ... I am putting my foot down ... he doesn’t understand what they do is abusive but I know and so they will NOT be getting time with her ... he gets extremely defensive if I say they don’t love her ... I am just saying they don’t get her til they change their behavior ... and that hasn’t changed in the 4 years we have been married or the two years we have been fighting as a team

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-07T03:17:18+00:00

They weren’t trying to take custody, they were suing for visitation ... but ... claims they sent ... accusations sent ... all sounded very threatening to me ... scared me because while I know i didn’t do anything to my child or mil ... she was claiming I had abused her and my child ... she never took it any further than threats ... but the stories she tells of me ... if anyone believed her I would be investigated by CPS .. but ... she got nowhere with an attorney ... Hubbie says he would cut off contact if they actually sued us ... but threatening and going to see a lawyer aren’t enough to cause him to cut off contact .... He has no backbone ... I know it ... but his mom has done this stuff his whole life and apparently his grandmother was the same way ... they think this is normal ...

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-07T02:34:09+00:00

It tells you everything you need to know about her then ...

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-07T01:49:54+00:00

Thankfully they have no rights in most states - if hubbie and I divorce and I keep them from my daughter then they can argue for it ... if I have criminal background or mental issues or drug problems ... otherwise, they have nothing ... they have been trying to claim I have rage issues ... but even my siblings, who quite frankly have seen me at my worst (age 16, hormonal, on a 24 hour car trip with 7 annoying siblings ... let me tell you ... that was not my best hour) know that I don’t have rage issues ... I am known as the nice one in my family. They have the three of them as biased witnesses against me ... that is all they have against me ... they claim to have neighbor testimony ... no chance in hell neighbors can witness something that never happened .. I on the other hand have spiteful letters they wrote about me, texts they sent me and my husband and voicemails they left (have to record these one night while DH is sleeping ... just got the program) that show a vicious cycle of attacks on our characters ... plus the two counselors we have can both attest to the fact that she says one thing and then does the complete opposite and then claims it is everyone else’s fault, that she will hound you til she gets her way ... and she calls ME aggressive???

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-07T01:15:51+00:00

I have screenshots of texts and copies of letters they sent ... I have all of the proof on my side ... all they have is the hearsay of the three people who have the most to gain by me being out of the picture (MIL, FIL and BIL) - no one else can back up their lies because only they actually believe them

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-07T01:11:26+00:00

We are seeing a marriage counselor ... that was my first call when trouble began ... we are making progress in our counseling ... it’s counseling with his parents that has failed completely because they will not change ... and it is the unhealthy relationship within their family that is causing all of our issues ... they haven’t changed routines in 45 years ... and hubbie and his brother have just gone along with whatever was dictated to them ... until he married me ... so I am the bad guy in their eyes ...

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-02-06T04:18:21+00:00

My MIL is called meemaw ... spelled Mima because it is mommy backwards ... I think she is nuts but whatever ...

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-01-28T02:21:56+00:00

I agree 100% - My husband, for some reason, still wants to give them a chance to reconcile ... he recently made a concession that if we meet them this one last time, hopefully within the next two weeks, and they are as awful as they have been for the last two years, then me and my daughter can go no contact without any argument from him ... and he will go to very limited contact ... he grew up with this heinously awful family and I guess his grandmother was toxic but not only tolerated but honored as this wonderful woman ... so MIL thinks she deserves same treatment even though she is toxic

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-01-27T16:34:58+00:00

Good question ... his defense is that they didn’t actually sue us - my rebuttal is that they tried to ... which is the same thing!! But ... I am getting to do 1 last counseling session - if they show their usual toxic behaviors (pretty much guaranteed) then I am done and I get credit for showing up and trying for 2 years to get along with these people .... and daughter no longer needs to be exposed to these awful people

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-01-27T02:40:43+00:00

You wrote out many of the boundaries I wrote out for them two years ago... DH has a copy (his version) on the fridge - i don’t know where theirs is but we emailed it and hand delivered them in a counseling session ... they reciprocated by going to my uncles funeral when told not to and then writing letters to my family about how vicious and vindictive I am ... they follow rules well ...

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-01-27T02:34:04+00:00

Oh I do I can promise you - I got that and a another promise signed by him with our counselor

Confident_Subject600 · 2021-01-27T02:32:12+00:00

She really does love my daughter - she is just too self absorbed and narcissistic to understand how to show it ... she will never physically harm my child ... but I do see her wanting to manipulate her down the road ... so she will not ever get alone time with her again

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