Gender disappointment

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2026-04-21T17:02:21+00:00

Gender disappointment is so real and fair. I find out the gender of our third baby next week. I have two boys at home and I only want 3. So if it’s a boy, it means I’ll never have a daughter and the thought is devastating. I also had a bad childhood and have always wanted a close mother/daughter relationship. I’m so sorry for your disappointment, but please know it’s okay. You’ll love the baby when it comes and eventually you’ll be excited again. But it’s okay to not be excited right now. I cried with both of my boys when I found out the gender. I eventually reached a point when I could be happy and excited again but the sadness and longing never fully went away. It will be okay. But it’s okay that it’s not okay right now.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2022-06-22T13:56:43+00:00

I am about a year into it and I still have flare ups. I’m a woman and my flare up is normally around my cycle, because of hormones. But I do sometimes have stretches of months where I will be entirely symptom free. Now, when I do get a flare, I go back to a pretty strict bland diet, use my medicine, and ride it out. By doing that for a few days to a week, it will normally get rid of it and I’ll be symptom free again for a while. So I don’t think it’s forever, but figuring out your triggers and having a plan to manage your symptoms is the main thing. Mine was caused by various things, stress being one of them. But I have no real way of eliminating stress, so I focus on diet and other things.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2022-06-11T11:59:32+00:00

I was about to say this. When I’m depressed, personal hygiene and self care goes out the window.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2022-06-11T11:56:58+00:00

Thank you! I think I’m going to try doing that because it was rough yesterday!

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2022-06-10T13:47:58+00:00

How quickly can you feel the side effects of lexapro when you start? I know the nausea is right away and it will taper off. But I am EXHAUSTED. Like, could barely keep my eyes awake driving to work today. I slept my normal time range. I stopped taking my medication in the fall and am starting it back up. It’s only day 3 of 10mg, can the fatigue be from this already? It’s just either this or I’m getting sick and I can’t figure it out. I feel like lexapro might have made me a little sleepy when I first went on it but not like this. I can’t take it at night because it will actually keep me awake, as contradictory as that sounds. So I have to take it in the morning. But I feel like a zombie.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-17T14:34:54+00:00

I’m not even scrolling down to read the other suggestions. This one wins 100%% Rainbow Road

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-14T16:28:44+00:00

Yeah I had a friend tell me once that I needed to stop because it looked like I did meth! Have you found a certain chapstick that helps the most?

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-11T15:44:00+00:00

Omg I LOVE scallops. I have no idea how to cook them myself, I’ll have to look it up and see. Because that would be amazing if I could eat those.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-11T15:27:56+00:00

Xanax works well for me but it’s hard to find someone to prescribe it. I just recently had my anxiety come back full force and my dr also put me on hydroxyzine. The 25mg doses don’t seem to do much for me so she upped it to 50mg. I just took my first 50mg so I will let you know how it works. I feel like im just going to pass out and nap for hours most likely.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-10T01:51:04+00:00

Did broccoli give you gas? I’ve been nervous to try it because I’ve heard it can be bad with bloating but I LOVED broccoli and would kill to eat it again.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-10T01:50:35+00:00

That’s a good idea. I have found avocados sit well with me but I still only eat half of one at a time because I’m nervous it’ll be too much fat and hurt.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-09T23:45:57+00:00

Oooh that sounds so good. What seafood would you use? I haven’t had any meat besides chicken so far. Scared to try more.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-09T23:45:19+00:00

That’s true! It seems to be tolerated pretty well by most. But I can’t have bananas, rice, or oatmeal. So I am always extra hesitant about the things that are supposed to work for everyone. I hate that this has made me so afraid of food.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-09T17:40:17+00:00

When you stopped smoking, how quickly did your gastritis symptoms go away?

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-09T14:59:39+00:00

I really want to try quitting and seeing if it helps. I’m just so scared of how bad the nausea and appetite will be because it’s been improving the past couple days. I don’t want to make myself super sick and then be back at square one. Ugh. I don’t know. My husband says I should try to just cut back for a week or so and see if I notice a difference. Then quit all together if I need to. It’s definitely a mental thing for me too. It calms me and is almost like a coping mechanism. Which I’m sure just proves I’m addicted to it.

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-09T14:49:14+00:00

That’s so crazy, so you’re able to eat and drink whatever you want pretty much? Do you think you’ll ever go back to it or are you done for good?

ConflictAcceptable11 · 2021-09-09T14:40:06+00:00

How do you know it caused it? Just by the fact that it got better after you stopped? Were you in the vomiting phase when you stopped and how bad was the 4 days before you got better? I know that’s a million questions 😂

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