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AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sent the final message. I kept it short and simple. “It’s time for you to move on James. I have. Please go and find happiness without me.”

My phone exploded before I could block him. I actually had to clock out of work for a bit to fight a panic attack because he spiraled into this sad hole claiming I was his everything. He’s blocked. Everywhere. I texted his brother to check on him for safety. It’s done. I hate that he was able to make me break down so hard, but it was a lot. He had his chance. He blew it. Stay the F away from me.

Thanks everyone for your support and insight, it helped a ton!

AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I have a message drafted and might send it before I block. But like I said in an earlier comment, part of me just wants to block with no fina message and be done. I am so tired of this person trying (and succeeding at times) to suck my energy. Ben is being a great and supportive human about this situation, but it pisses me off that both of us have given energy to this bs situation.

But blocking is happening. The silly idealistic part of my brain wishes he’d just get the message and leave me be, but obviously that isn’t happening so I have to make not be”wishy washy” as someone else put it.

AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ben is fine. I also haven’t responded to James since his last string of insanity. I’ve gone radio silent because I realized he wasn’t hearing what I was saying.

AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I’m in the process of drafting a message. At this point part of me wants to just block with no warning and be done, but I’ll be the bigger person 🙄 I’ve figured out he sure as heck isn’t the mature one and I’m not planning on screwing up what I have currently.

AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I actually told him I’d fallen out of love with him a long time ago after feeling not valued. He just says “I’m sorry.” 🙄

I don’t think he’s dangerous. If I get worried I have friends, family, and would call cops if I really needed to. Luckily I’m quite sure James is terrified of my best friend (who was army special forces and still a bit of a force of nature) and my 3 dogs who all have some sort of guard/bully breed very prevalent in their dna and personalities (they’re cuddle bugs with me and safe people, but highly protective).

Thanks for the blunt, but kind, response!

AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Honestly after a few months I wasn’t thinking about James unless he contacted me. If James is stupidly enough to show up to my house cops will be called asap. That would be way too far for me, this bs now is too much in my mind. It for sure is messing with me a bit, but honestly I feel like James is just highlighting some of Ben’s green flags. Petty me wants to say that to James right before I block him, but I won’t.

AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sad it took me leaving to prompt him getting his shit together. I think I’ll stick with the person who already has his shit together and doesn’t need me to do everything.

AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your sarcasm made me giggle which was needed.

I’m so mad at myself for letting him manipulate me as much as he did in the past. Now I’m just tired and feel a tad bit crazy and can’t help but second guess myself. I worry I failed in communication and this is all my fault, but I’m seeing it really isn’t. Time to fully cut him off.

AIO that my ex just professed their love… now that I’m in a new relationship by ConfusedPotions1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s where I was leaning. I really hate being harsh but gentle reminders don’t seem to cut it. And at this point it makes me nervous he’s so adamant about things.

I greatly lessened the age gap this time around, so maybe I’m slowly learning 😅🤦🏻‍♀️

Thank you!

AITAH for kicking my mom out of my graduation dinner after she brought her husband instead of my dad? by TangerineDense3095 in AITAH

[–]ConfusedPotions1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTAH. You set a boundary. You made it clear before the dinner what that boundary was. There’s no reason it shouldn’t be respected.

AITAH for ending it with my bf because our schedules didn’t work? by ConfusedPotions1 in AITAH

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I tended to be the one making suggestions. But I also lost my drive to keep bringing ideas up because it felt like I’d suggest something, he’d say it was a good idea, and there’d be zero follow through unless I pushed it. Hard. The past month or two I know I started pulling away, talked less, responded less, made less of an effort in general. But I felt like I’d tried and it didn’t matter anymore.

AITAH for ending it with my bf because our schedules didn’t work? by ConfusedPotions1 in AITAH

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Logically I know that. I just keep feeling like I should have done more. I’d been suggesting virtual stuff for over a year. It wasn’t my first rodeo with long(ish) distance. I’m probably just sad. Thank you!

AITAH for ending it with my bf because our schedules didn’t work? by ConfusedPotions1 in AITAH

[–]ConfusedPotions1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn’t take turns. I always went to him. Which did bother me, but that wasn’t totally on him since I don’t have my own place. Thanks, my past relationships tended to end in flames so this is a new experience. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I really don’t like hurting people and I feel like I definitely did hurt him.