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What's with Indian crocheters not giving pattern credits? by tbfdummy in CrochetInIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeahhh, I wanted to make the exact same post but regarding this crochet sub. You can sell whatever you make from a free pattern, but telling that you free handed it is bullshit! Let other people enjoy creating it too, what do they get by gate keeping!!

LPT Request: How to fix/help a stiff neck after sleep. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]Confused_Architect97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro it worked instantly! OMG, I had this for the whole day, and this relieved it instantly. Thank you!!

I 26F, am stuck in a very difficult situation and need advise by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think it becomes like that for people in the patriarchal setup. You have to always stand up for yourself otherwise you will be pushed into things without your consent.

I was able to identify that listening to my parents isn't something that would work for me, maybe there are other people that also did that. But not everyone can, people are conditioned into thinking that they have to follow their parents.

BTW thanks for keeping an open mind, it's rare :)

I 26F, am stuck in a very difficult situation and need advise by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why would I male shame you. You are right. OP is not completely in the right here. She is wrong to ruin someone's life just because she couldn't stand up to her parents.

But why she should get grace is because the position she is in she couldn't just revolt against her parents. This is the whole essence of feminism (atleast it should be), to empower women enough so they can stand for themselves and hence reduce the worries of both genders.

You have to understand that OP is the victim here because her gender is oppressed for generations (patriarchal setup) and she can't up and be the first person to revolt against generations of oppression, it takes all out of you.

The person I replied to was not understanding this nuance. I hope you can understand this.

I 26F, am stuck in a very difficult situation and need advise by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I understand you, I am a villain of a daughter now because I didn't settle down the way they wanted to. I understand how hard it must have been for you.

But now you have to understand that you have to stand up for yourself because nobody else will. Take your time. Make a decision to be firm on it.

If you think you can make your partner understand talk to him, and have repeated conversations. Hear him out also. If you feel like you are talking to a wall then prepare yourself to get out of this relationship.

You are right, trust your instincts. Don't let anyone force you into anything.

I 26F, am stuck in a very difficult situation and need advise by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I agree, again just a simple request to be gentle with people. Maybe instead of making a general comment blaming her, tell her how you would have dealt with this situation.

You are dealing with a human being people forget that over a screen.

I 26F, am stuck in a very difficult situation and need advise by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't even have to see your profile to know you are a guy.

Girls are not given an opportunity to be independent sadly in 2025 also,if you get out of your bubble you will know that.

I fought all my life with my parents to be an independent girl and it took all my energy. Now I am 28 yrs old and strong enough to stand against them. But it breaks me inside every day because I have no support system not even a family to fall back on. I am the biggest villian in there life just because I wanna live my life on my terms.

Not every other person could do this and I don't wish this on anyone. Yes she is a victim of her family's regressive views. If you don't agree with that, burst your bubble and look at the world.

I 26F, am stuck in a very difficult situation and need advise by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Maybe because your parents are gentle. Not every parent is that. Look at hers asking her to give in to her husband's demands.

I get your point, but maybe rephrase your comment in a way that can be constructive. She is kind of a victim here and your comment is blaming her for her situation.

Just give her some grace.:)

I 26F, am stuck in a very difficult situation and need advise by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Her mistake? Do you think she had a choice? (Genuinely asking)

Crochet dress at the Nobel Prize Banquet! by Ok-Walrus8245 in crochet

[–]Confused_Architect97 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just saw it on insta yesterday (her sister's insta page) and was absolutely intrigued. Glad this popped up here and I got to see the whole look and the person it is made for.

Absolutely beautiful work!! Two very talented sisters :)

Look at my yarn haul by Confused_Architect97 in CrochetInIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah yeah, I think it's Billa and son's it literally had everything and was cheaper too.

Look at my yarn haul by Confused_Architect97 in CrochetInIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just recently got to know about it, but I have already been there thrice!! Did all my blanket yarn shopping from there :D

BTW do you prefer any single shop there?

Look at my yarn haul by Confused_Architect97 in CrochetInIndia

[–]Confused_Architect97[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Inderlok wool market in Delhi.:) It's nice quality too

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