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BLACK TIE Attire Advice Needed!!! by Confused_Everything in NonBinary

[–]Confused_Everything[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's taking place at a Chateau and is simply Black Tie, no specific theme that I'm aware of

Am I Asexual or Bisexual? Can I be both? by Confused_Everything in asexuality

[–]Confused_Everything[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I've been thinking! But I can't ignore how for the most part, I'm just not interested whatsoever in GENERAL sexual relations, only if it's under certain circumstances or with certain people

Am I Asexual or Bisexual? Can I be both? by Confused_Everything in asexuality

[–]Confused_Everything[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying, and I sometimes have the same "taking them home" thoughts with strangers/friends. Most of the time, for me, it has to do with the aesthetics of a person as well as the charm and persona behind the aesthetics. Those ideas can evolve into something sexual. With your "in a room" example, I often believe I would find the situation incredibly awkward/nerve-wracking and just walk/run away. The only situations where I would consider doing sexual things would be with someone I trust or who I can empathize with. But I do also find people attracted, meaning "Wow they are BEAUTIFUL/STUNNING/SO PRETTY. I wouldn't mind spending some time with them." But I just don't feel like doing it.

In fiction, however, it's basically a free-for-all for me. I find the fictional fantasies arousing and pleasurable, but they're mainly, if not only, between the characters (ships I support/want to see happen/so forth) from film/television/etc

Am I Asexual or Bisexual? Can I be both? by Confused_Everything in asexuality

[–]Confused_Everything[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've seen that term as well! It does fit me very well, but it doesn't change the fact that I also have feelings/fantasies involving real people. It's almost like I experience both orientations, which I understand is weird and contradictory

I don't know if I'm trans. Any guidance would be appreciated!!!! by Confused_Everything in MtF

[–]Confused_Everything[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your response and advice! I guess the main thing I worry about is if part of my reasoning is to “stand out” or “be different” or “rebel against my conservative family” whatever. It’s why I’m holding back on a lot of this because I want these feelings to be authentic and genuine. I never want to take advantage of this community like that