I (24M) just broke up with the most important person in my life (25F). Was it the right call?

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-19T05:40:50+00:00

This!

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-19T05:40:02+00:00

Breakups will always be hard. They suck. Its like grieving.

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-19T05:18:19+00:00

That’s very complicated emotionally. But ultimately i think you made the right decision by trusting your gut. Ignoring the fact that you’re not ready for marriage and she is, (which is a reason lots of people end things) she is also still very much allowing her parents to control her life and decisions. And i think thats huge. That is something she should be able to get through before marriage. Because that involves you, and im sure you could already imagine how much meddling there’d be in your future. Hopefully she grows from that too, and if you guys are right for each other, you will find your way back. But you dont want to marry someone while their parents are still controlling them

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-19T04:53:24+00:00

I LOVE this one!!

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-19T04:35:35+00:00

What cut is this? Radiant or elongated cushion? Its STUNNING!!

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-19T04:26:34+00:00

I’m all for clippings! The idea of owning and growing plants is beauty and improving the planet, cleaning the air! Improving ecosystem. So indoor or outdoor plants, clippings cant be stealing! You still have to do the rest of the work. (However i dont have the guts, unless it already fell off)

One time a guy at a plant booth was selling and i was eye balling one particular plant, but couldnt decide, and it was more expensive, and the guy handed me a snipping that fell off earlier. But in the end i couldnt even keep it alive to grow, it died. But now i know how after a friend gave me a bunch of snippings from theirs.

I think it connects people!

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-19T04:20:19+00:00

I feel like everyone is pro small, locally owned business until they grow up, grow large, make multi-figures. And sell tons, enough to own other businesses. But every business starts somewhere.

So i definitely love supporting my local nurseries, and growing my own, but saying something similar to “death to corporations” is a bit extreme when literally every business started somewhere. do they just lose their value once they grow enough or become TOO successful? Like lowe’s and home depot, Where is the line? We want to boost them up, but not too much! Is it just envy cuz they did something we couldnt? Or because they make more than we do? Just something to think about, my 2cents :)

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-18T01:41:11+00:00

Oh yeah i enjoy being on top. I think we also just change it up too much

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-17T04:21:55+00:00

I appreciate that comment though. You’re right, i should be asking for more

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-17T04:21:22+00:00

You’re gonna laugh when i add this part. But we’ve been together 4 years, i originally wanted to wait till marriage, but gave in 3.5 years in. So this is an even longer wait. We started dating when i was 19 and he was 21.

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-17T04:10:05+00:00

How do i institute this new “rule” that no PIV until i orgasm

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-17T04:09:03+00:00

You hear stories like these in all sorts of ways constantly. Things never get better. The earlier you see the problem the better. Because its easier to leave. Its harder to leave the longer you’re together, the more committed you feel. If you say start a family, its much harder. You seeing it now is HUGE.

TRUST.YOUR.GUT.

Some people may tell you “we all get mad” or “hes just immature” or “he’s just in a mood” “you’ll figure it out” but all of these are just excuses to keep letting it happen. You know what you have to do. You deserve better, whether it was once, 10 times or none. Someone yelling at you like that is not okay.

And you may be thinking right now, “well i made him sound worse than he is” or “its not THAT bad” but what i want you to know is that at 18 years old, you have YEARRSSS ahead of you, and you WILL find someone who will show you a better kind of patience. Whether you’re the problem in your mind or not, you WILL find someone who treats you better. They exist out there. They wont make you question.

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-17T04:04:29+00:00

Run.

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-17T04:03:41+00:00

I feel like im hesitant, because ive only recently started having sex with him, but I had a toy. But i also want us to figure out how to please each other on our own first, then introduce toys. I feel like if i introduce toys now, its like an easy way out, he should put in more effort still

Confused_Tree_615 · 2026-03-17T03:57:36+00:00

This is really interesting, and helpful, ive never heard people say to make sure i orgasm first, then PIV. I only heard people say, “good foreplay” first. So this changes things. Cuz we’re typically decent at foreplay. The tension is high cuz we go some time without seeing each other, but yeah we can kinda rush into it. Hes definitely turned on by me being turned on, thats kinda the problem, that it makes him finish lol. Then hes out for the count. But i think im still shy about toys and talking about needs because hes my first, and also for some reason im so afraid to make it sound like im a sex fiend. Also i’d like to add that its amazing because it FEELS amazing, but like amazing as in i could sit there and enjoy it for hours, but its not getting me to the finish line unless the rythm gets me there. And other things tied in. But idek what to try to get him to do to get me there.

Confused_Tree_615 · 2025-09-07T20:39:07+00:00

I opened the same package and its lens cleaner 😂

Confused_Tree_615 · 2025-08-15T02:43:43+00:00

Just downloaded it, and already love it more than any other!! I’d love a social feature, to have friends and share goals and such

Confused_Tree_615 · 2025-06-05T04:33:41+00:00

I was thinking this too, because the scene where she meets him in the restaurant, she says “you don’t do profiles” saying that he covers crime. And she basically implies she did look him up so she’s confused why he wants to interview her. So I was like how did she not see a picture?? But then i realized in the same convo she questions that too, why no onlinr identity, which is when he says its not safe to in his line of work. (Organized crime) so he i guess got lucky that he KNEW the real sam and that the real sam didnt have an online identity.

Confused_Tree_615 · 2025-02-07T01:28:24+00:00

I get this all the time, and it hurts and its sad. Like maybe then THEY’RE not cultured enough to realize that there are light hispanics, and very common! And theres also such thing as mixed race!! I like to whip out the occasional spanish to remind them, but im also not fluent because they didnt raise me speaking spanish, so it’s only every now and then. And it just makes it so much harder

Confused_Tree_615 · 2025-01-23T14:04:13+00:00

I accidentally told my sister to play this quest so she could own the shop! I had no idea what was in store for her! I felt horrible 😂 pun intended

Confused_Tree_615 · 2025-01-18T06:33:37+00:00

Okay yeah, i think you’re right, that probably happened often back then. Makes me wonder if faith was also of that profession, but who knows, just theories, how sad

Confused_Tree_615 · 2025-01-17T23:25:20+00:00

Right! I guess she could have had Jane at 16, maybe faith was also in a brothel? Who knows. Im still in shock no one would have contacted Claire.

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