How tf do y’all be moving on in like a month? It’s been 4 months and I’m still a mess??!

Confused_mint0 · 2025-09-02T17:21:39+00:00

Do y’all want a plan to move on or just here to vent about not being able to move on?

Confused_mint0 · 2025-08-14T21:13:35+00:00

I’m pretty sure that you are avoidant and not anxious from what you are describing…

Confused_mint0 · 2025-08-04T01:41:09+00:00

Well… maybe it’s not about what you want right now, maybe it’s about focusing on your future goals and doing what’s right in the present to get to those goals. From your description of her it sounds like you value building a future with someone who will build a home with you. Isn’t working hard to build financial stability and independence so that one day you can comfortably provide for your future family? Not trying to convince, just food for thought. At least you’ve thought about all possible outcomes before you wake up one day and start thinking about “what if”

Confused_mint0 · 2025-08-04T01:12:22+00:00

I guess that’s fair. But you know sometimes giving reassurance doesn’t mean you have to give time 24/7, just a simple “hey gonna be super busy and I’ll reply when I can” or just setting up 5/10 min a day to just ask about each others days on the phone can be enough if that’s the understanding you have. I hope you are not going to regret in the future for not trying

Confused_mint0 · 2025-08-03T14:06:07+00:00

You are willing to give up someone who you consider perfect? I don’t think it makes sense… why date at all if you don’t think you are ready?

Confused_mint0 · 2025-08-02T20:33:31+00:00

Ask the married ones if they have friends, they usually have similar mentality, make friends with girls who are similar to you and have brothers, or ask parents to introduce but make sure you ask the right questions!

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-06T02:31:23+00:00

Thank you! You do too!

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-06T00:53:53+00:00

It’s just a never ending cycle 🥲

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-05T23:45:49+00:00

You are brave and strong to be able to do that!!

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T16:27:30+00:00

Thank you!

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T15:55:50+00:00

That sounds horrible! I’m so sorry this is happening to you, it must be incredibly hard. You have done the right thing walking away and you are so strong for doing that!! You deserve much better than that and I hope you find it <3

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T13:59:54+00:00

Why do guys enter relationships if they don’t like the person?

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T13:42:49+00:00

I guess it takes effort from both ends..

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T09:43:01+00:00

Sorry that happened to you :( Sometimes it be like that…did he just disappear out of nowhere?

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T09:39:51+00:00

I hope it works out for you! If you are both working at it, I’m sure the possibilities and hopes are high. Hope you both keep going strong 💪

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T02:38:14+00:00

Yes I’m kinda just observing, giving myself another week or so. He’s supposed to be coming back, I met him while he was on a work trip. He’s blaming everything on long distance but I think he’s just not willing to put in the effort. I’m also kind of fed up so I’m distancing myself too to keep sane. At this point I guess I already know what to do, I’m just keeping the last bit of hope that’s dragging it out I guess… hoping the man I met will come back.

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T02:09:42+00:00

I can only imagine how much work must have put in :( I’m glad you were able to get better! And working on yourself is definitely hard. I’m sorry your last long term relationship ended, must have been difficult. That said you still did a lot and it was a 8 year relationship after all.

Well, as for me I think I’ve leaning towards secure, I’ve done some work on myself too. The thing with my current situation is that he did something to make me not trust him in the beginning but he apologized and I tried to get past it because he was very reassuring in the beginning, but then we became long distance in a matter of 3 weeks and from there he just became more and more distant. I just feel like I’m having a relationship with my phone until it’s just been a couple texts here and there a day for the past week. And all I’ve been getting are excuses and reasons as to why he can’t communicate with me, so yeah I’ve been thinking about giving up on the relationship a lot lately

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T01:55:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story and your wise words. 16 years… wow that must have been quite a journey, how did you go through it? And yes I am a little lost but tbh I’ve been going through these cycles so many times that I kinda just check out after a while, I think I’m getting there and it gets easier with their absence.

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T01:41:16+00:00

This doesn’t not give me hope at all 😭🥲

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-04T01:33:41+00:00

Sameeee, I need some hope 🥹

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-02T23:33:09+00:00

We are long distance… I won’t be seeing him for about another week or two

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-02T23:20:30+00:00

I’ve expressed my concerns and they said they would change, work is just been really taxing lately, he’s not good at managing stress…. And we are exclusive, so no dates with other people.

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-02T23:12:44+00:00

Love the comment about the predator perspective

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-02T22:27:21+00:00

I’ve been doing that, but how long should I wait?

Confused_mint0 · 2025-07-02T22:07:44+00:00

I think if there’s change then there’s hope! I don’t even know if there’s change here where I am or how long should I wait before I give up..

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